You might be thinking that its impossible to stop premature ejaculation, because most of the remedies are pills and creams and other product methods, and these are not always the best solution. However, believe it or not but there are natural methods and actions that you can take and use in the privacy of your own home to train yourself to last longer in the sack.
The best part? These are safe, natural, effective and permanent results. In order to achieve this you do have to understand some things about what actually causes most men to last less than a couple of minutes, and how the methods work to stop premature ejaculation in its tracks.
The common culprits that can lead to your embarassment in bed are as follows:
a) tension and over-excitation
b) Poor control over the muscles that cause ejaculation
c) lacking of sexual sensory detection
d) bad habits
Now let's take a look at what these are and how to correct them.
1. Controlling tension during sex
Excitement levels are at an all time high in men when they see a naked woman and are about to engage in intercourse. Many small phases occurred during the process of arousal. The nipples harden, the penis chambers fill with blood, blood pressure rises, heart beat intensifies, and the testicles swell, plus other processes.
If you felt a little stressed reading that – there is a reason. As you can see, there is a lot of anticipation and tension that can cause early ejaculation to happen.
The best solution for this while you are in the moment is to practice good breathing. If you teach yourself to breath like you are supposed to, it will release a lot of tension from the muscles, calm the heart rate, lower your blood pressure, and get your ejaculatory muscles to stabilize.
Tip: Keep your breathing consistent. It's not as important to do super deep breathing as it is to make sure that the timing of intake and exhale, and rhythm between breaths are the same.
2. The muscles that control ejaculation
The main one is the PC muscle, which is also used for bladder control. This is the same muscle that you use to release urine or stop it. This muscle also plays a major role in how you ejaculate and when you do it.
It also runs the length of the pelvic floor from the base of the testicles to the anus. If you do kegel squeezes a few times each day, you can teach it to obey you better.
This will also help you maintainection without having to think about it, and its so healthy to do these kegel exercises that it can help you with bladder issues in your old age.
3. Knowing your own body
As guys, we tend to think that we know the sensations in our own anatomy so well, but most of us do not.
Most men who struggle with premature ejaculation actually have a bad reading of the sensations that they feel during sex. They are not usually able to break them down and relax.
The simple scale that I recommend works on a level of 1 – 10, where 1 is no erection, and 10 is full inspection plus ejaculation.
Between 5 and 7 is about where you want to be. It can take a little practice, but from now on whether you are masturbating or actually having arbitration, try to get a feel for where your state of arousal is actually at.
Once you get comfortable doing this, you can start to use a sort of "muscle memory" process to keep it there every time you feel stimulation thereafter.
Again, you can practice this by masturbating, but make sure that you do not use too much of a grip, do not rush yourself and really take the time to investigate this.
4. Bad Habits
There are two bad habits that come to mind when someone says I struggle with premature ejaculation.
The first is a habit of masturbating too quickly. You can retrain yourself, but in order to do so you must be mindful of the grip you use, not to use rapid strokes and to make a session of it, rather than just trying to get off quickly before work or bed.
The other issue that is becoming a real problem comes from adult entertainment. You may enjoy watching the occasional adult movie, but understand that not only are many men now having trouble keeping it up because of too much time spent with this kind of stimulation, but that it also can for some men cause them to ejaculate way too soon , time and time again.