Symptoms of an Ovarian Cyst

Irregular Menstrual Periods (or none at all)
Insulin Resistance
High Blood Pressure
Weight Gain
Pain in the Lower Back, or Painful Menstrual Periods
Pressure in Abdomen
Problems Emptying the Bladder

There are many other symptoms associated with both ovarian cysts and PCOS, but these are the most common.  If you have any of these symptoms and you go to the doctor and discover that you do have ovarian cysts, don’t panic, there are treatment options out there for you. 

One of the problems with traditional medicine is that it only treats what you can see right now, not really bothering to deal with what can come in the future. Also, many of the drugs and treatments a doctor may want to try with you can be just as damaging or painful as the cysts themselves.  Ovarian cysts will keep occurring until you find a way to prevent them.  The best way to do this is with natural preventative measures. 

There are simple things you can do such as increasing fiber and water intake, drinking certain teas, and following certain diets that can and will help your body relieve the pain of ovarian cysts, and keep them from coming back.

When I had my own problems with my cysts, I was desperate to find a natural cure and get rid of the terrible pain. You can free yourself from the pain and get a natural cure to help you feel better right now.

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How to Cure Yeast Infection or Candidiasis

Yeast infection or Candidiasis occurs when the fungi Candida albicans, a yeast-like fungus that naturally lives on all surfaces of our bodies, increased concentration beyond the normal range. Long term use of antibiotics and steroids, taking too much sugar, dairy, birth control pills help multiply Candida albicans thus, increasing its concentration in our body. These overgrown albicans particularly cause infections in warm and moist areas. Infected areas cause uneasiness.. that itching and burning sensation. Common candidiasis are vaginal yeast infection, thrush or the infection of oral cavity tissues, skin and diaper rash, and nailbed. Effects of yeast infection can be emotional and physical such as sexual dysfunction, depression or mood swings, chronic rashes, joint pain, unexplainable lack of energy etc. Women, men, babies, and children can suffer from this fungal infection. People with HIV and diabetes are more prone on having the disease.

Untreated yeast virus can lead to even more serious diseases such as AIDS, Leukemia, chronic diabetes complications, and chronic urinary tract infection. There are medical solutions and natural solutions. Natural remedies to start from to treat the infection is to avoid sugar, yeast, refined foods, breads, dairy products, fruits like apples, pears, and grapes, wheat and rye, tea or coffee, sauces,and vinegars. Eat chicken, turkey, and egg whites, fish, brown rice, vegetable, leafy greens, legumes, and tropical fruits instead. Garlic is very important for anyone who has yeast infection. Simply chewing a clove per day or mince and mix on your daily meal can reduce the infection and in the case of vaginal candidiasis, simply wrap a garlic clove in gauze and insert it into vagina. Another popular natural treatment of vaginal candidiasis is a douche of 1-3 tbsp. vinegar in a quart of water and to be rinse daily in not more than a week. Plain yogurt everyday is highly recommended on yeast infected people because it contains live bacteria that destroys yeast. For thrush treatment, salt warm water mouthwash and drink cool liquids to soothe the mouth.There are also over-the-counter yeast infection remedies and you can just apply them as directed. Have a healthy diet and work on strong immune system and you’re on your way to recovery.

There are things to avoid for people who have yeast infection. Avoid taking antibiotics ’cause they weaken the immune system on prolonged use. Don’t use cotton underwear, pantyhose, and tight clothing on the crotch to avoid warm environment for yeast to grow. Use something that don’t trap moisture and heat. Don’t stay on wet clothes or bathing suit for a long period to avoid moist. Stay away from products and cleaners such as feminine deodorants, chlorinated water, moth balls, and synthetic textiles. Avoid staying on damp moldy places such as basements. Heat refrigerated leftovers before eating them especially meat because they will become damp and moldy overnight.

Treatment of this illness can be frustrating and confusing because of information overload and bad/conflicting advice on how to treat the disease. I recommend to ask someone who has suffered from yeast infection. There are forums, articles or even blogs of yeast-infected-now-cured people.

Don’t Waste Your Final Years On Being Old

As you read this I’m not sure how you define old so I won’t disappoint you by giving you my age (although many of you know it) but let’s assume “old” for many people is defined after they hit sixty?

I’m sure many of you are so young you can’t even imagine yourself that old and I’ll bet many of you older than sixty never imagined you would be this old. Therefore, you have no interest in this article – but beware – you will be there before you know it. Just ask most of the older folks you know and I’ll bet most of them will admit that the years have passed by so fast they couldn’t even keep track of them.

So, I’m not going to tray and convince you folks under sixty that you should wake up and smell the roses – you’ve heard it all before but I am going to focus on why most older folks need to spend less time being old and more time being young.

Old – Having lived or existed for a relatively long time; far advanced in years or life. Relatively advanced in age. (What’s a relatively long time? My addition).

FYI – The current average life span in America is – 77.6 years. S_____ I’m almost there. Oh well, back to my article.

Why do so many people let their age define their lifestyle, attitudes, behavior or even their goals and dreams? I could give you hundreds of examples of people throughout history who didn’t really start to hit their stride until they were over sixty and many into their seventies and even eighties?

I’m sure you know many people who are old or older. You may even one of them. Some of you may be getting to ready to retire this year or looking forward to retirement in the near future. Want a scary statistic? The current average life span of the average retiree at age 65 is 5-7 years. Yes, many people make it to ninety and some pass away at 66 but the average is only a few short years and why?

Because these folks lose their reason for living, being and even surviving. There is no more reason to get up every day – why bother – it will just be the same ole same ole. Sad.

I’m certainly not at all or in any way belittling retirement, however it just isn’t in my vocabulary or DNA so here I sit typing away (at 20 words per minute).

You’ve probably heard the line – how old would you be if you didn’t know how old you were? My mentor Mark Twain was once asked by a reporter, Mr. Twain how old are you and his response (so just Mark Twainish) was “My age is none of my business.”

The day I read that – that became one of my many life mantras. Age is a number and old age is a big number.

What I really want to ask you is – how are you defining your life as the years creep up on you? Slowing down? Speeding up? Starting new stuff? Letting go of dreams, goals and desires? Not sure what to do next? So many questions and so little time.

Here’s the right question – what are you going to do with the years you have left before it’s too late… think about it!

Graphology at Home – Lesson 4 – The "t" Bar

To the graphologist, the two most important letters for analysis are the small t and the letter i.

In this chapter, you will find virtually every possible kind of t bar. Any other t bar you may come across will probably be only a variation of one of these, and with practice, you should be able to see into which category of t bar it fits.

When we speak of the t bar, we mean the horizontal line crossing the stem of the t. We are not concerned with the letter as a whole.

The ‘normal’ t bar is perfectly centered; meaning that the length of the bar is equal on both sides of the stem, and the length itself is the normal length. It also crosses the stem in the middle (measuring from top to bottom). This t bar shows confidence and self-discipline. It is the kind of t we were taught to make as children.

The post placed-rightward- t bar flies away from the stem. Often such writers have quick minds. Their purpose is not exactness in detail; they want to finish quickly. They are aggressive, often showing temper, impatient to reach their goals.

The pre placed t bar-leftward- besides not crossing the stem, also does not touch it. This writer procrastinates, often shows a lack of self-confidence, and is fearful. It is difficult for him to make decisions. He would rather hold off, as he held off from crossing the stem of the t.

The bowed t bar (also called a convex t bar) is usually found either in the center or the top of the stem. It shows a strong desire for self-control- like a hand holding back a certain desire the writer wishes to suppress.

When the bowed t bar is at the top of the stem, the bar is in the upper (spiritual) zone, this writer wants to put a curb on his earthy appetites, holding back primitive desires for deep religious reasons.

Wherever handwriting produces a knot, it shows persistence, stubbornness, a desire to have one’s own way. If, in addition to the knots, hooks appear in the letter as well the persistence is accentuated, because the nature of the hook is not to let go.

The t bar that is above the stem, shows the writer to be someone with strong imagination. He is adventurous, he has goals, he is authoritative. If he is able to make his goal a reality, he will probably do so in a great way, for he aims for the stars. (Notice that the t bar is in the upper zone). Unfortunately, these people are usually unrealistic, so the goals they set for themselves are often unreasonable.

An interesting note: Many graphologists have pointed out that when a person is preoccupied with his occupation, his handwriting will often reveal some kind of symbolism of the tools he uses. This particular t bar is commonly found among pilots, as if they thought of themselves as flying.

When the ‘t’ bar is flung down, the writer likes a challenge. This writer will not give up; he is a dominant personality, and when he says something, he means it. There is also cruelty in his personality, and he is often sulky, has a low opinion of others, is resentful, and in general is disappointed in life. Even though it is a masculine writing trait, many women write this kind of t bar also.

When the ‘t’ bar is only half of a bar-on the right side of the stem, which represents desires and goals, there is a certain degree of guilt about the past in this writer-not so severe that it prevents him from touching the stem, but it will not permit him to make a complete bar. (Note: Whenever a t bar does not cross the stem, regardless of which side it is located on, it shows repression.)

The t stem represents the present. Hence, when the bar appears only to the left of the stem (not shown), it represents some lack on the right, some shortcoming in his goals, his future. When the bar appears only to the right of the stem (as shown), it represents some lack on the left and indicates that the writer prefers not to be in contact with the past, perhaps his childhood.

The t bar that descends in a “tough” way, but does not cross it, indicates a certain degree of repression. The writer has guilt feelings, and he lives in the past, as shown by the location of the t bar on the left of the stem. In reality, along with aggression, there is also weakness.

Any t bar not crossing the stem shows a lack of confidence, fears about the self, and, as we mentioned before, repression. In addition, if the stem is looped, it will indicate sensitivity-often hypersensitivity. A loop, in general, is blown up to whatever degree necessary for the writer to express his feelings. Loops are signs of vanity. This person is going to be hurt quite often, since he looks for compliments, and is very sensitive.

The concave t bar, is opposite in shape to the bowed t bar and basically opposite in meaning. It shows fickleness, a person who is easily swayed, has weak resistance and weak willpower. The concave-t-bar writer takes the easiest way out and prefers not to fight.

A t that is not crossed at all may represent many possibilities: carelessness, forgetfulness, physical weakness, bad health, hastiness, and impatience-someone who does not have the time to worry about details and wants only to get his thought across. Generally, when the t bar is missing, we check for other corroborating signs, such as inclined writing and diminishing size of the middle-zone letters toward the end; if those signs are present, we say the uncrossed t bar stands for speed.

Hypersensitivity is revealed when the writer will not even take his hand off the page to cross the stem horizontally (goal-oriented). Instead, without lifting his hand, he scrawls a vertical t bar from the bottom of the stem, showing that he lacks strong goals for the future and is sensitive about this area of his life.

The t bar in the form of a knot shows persistence. If the t bar is located above the stem, the persistence concerns the self.

As we know, the t bar in the form of a knot shows persistence, but if the letter is composed of straight lines (forming angles) it indicates that he will go on to his goals relentlessly.

There are three forms of the ‘hooked’ t bar, all indicating tenacity and stubbornness.

a t bar with a hook at the left, shows a person who starts out strong but then gives up.

At bar with a hook at the right, shows someone who may not start out stubborn, but in the process becomes so.

A t bar with hooks at both ends, starts and finishes stubborn, and will fight on to the end of his own course. People like this have a lot of energy and usually move around a lot.

The t bar that is placed quite high on the stem, shows self-confidence. If a t bar is located beneath the middle of the stem: it shows lack of confidence in the self, as though he did not feel good enough about himself to “stretch up” to his normal height. The fact that the stem descends as it does with such determination shows stubbornness, unwillingness to bend to another’s opinion. It is often difficult to get along with such a person; as you can see, he descends to the lower zone to pick up a certain degree of strength.

Note: The height of the t bar as an indicator of personality is only relative to what is normal. In some countries, students are taught always to cross their t’s somewhat lower, or somewhat higher, than is usual with Palmer Method writers. So for them, relative height must be borne in mind.

When the t bar starts off thick and ends thin, it is a sign of one with a sharp tongue and sarcastic personality.

When the t bar goes back to the left, representing the past, it shows introversion. It also shows jealousy and lack of responsibility, and the hook in the structure of this letter shows greed, egotism, and selfishness.

When the t bar crosses in the middle but veers upward, it shows social aspirations and often a strong imagination. (This t bar points to the upper zone.) It is also the sign of one who wants to improve his situation, and is aggressive.

Where only a small part appears to the left of the stem the t bar may seem similar to the previous one, but it has a different meaning. This writer is ambitious to the point of having a fighting nature-he looks as if he were holding a bat. He is often the one who would rather take you to court than settle a suit outside.

When the ‘t’ bar begins moderately, not too dark, not too muddy, but then the bar on the right side of the stem becomes extremely heavy, danger is indicated Often this type of person does not show his brutality in the beginning, but it can be provoked at a moment’s notice, without warning. If this trait is corroborated by other indications in the script, such as muddy writing, and if it is written with the same strength with the bar off the stem it may indicate a murderer.

This is a common script found among murderers. Needless to say, these people are resentful, and (generally) have a low opinion of other people.

A wavy t bar is a sign of fun and gaiety, the practical joker mimicking others. It is as if the stroke of the t bar was saying, “Ah, don’t take me seriously.”

The t bar with one-half of its length scrolled is quite different from the wavy t bar. This person, though he answers questions in a more or less straight fashion, does so sarcastically. The straight part of the bar represents his answer to the question; the scrolling represents something of his own, which is added on (his sarcasm).

When the t stem is looped, it shows vanity (preening oneself in the presence of others). It also shows prejudice and superficial friendliness, a show-off. This person is bound to make an impression.

This low t bar indicates an inferiority complex. The t bar by nature shows strength, determination, the will of the individual, self-confidence. Its low placement on the stem shows this writer’s lack of self-esteem.

Always on the intellectual level, short t-bars appear in the script of timorous people who have little confidence in their own ideas and therefore do not plan very far ahead. Similarly, the short t-bar is indicative of the sober and matter-of-fact.

When the t bar goes down, around, and back toward the stem, it shows greed, a hoarder. The shape of the arc in the t bar looks as if the writer was trying to hold on to something.

When the t bar goes up and around and points toward the stem, this is a sign of egotism.

When you have the t bar covering the whole word it is a sign of protection, fatherliness. (Note: This particular t bar is found among many women, often young widows or divorcees. The fact that they are bringing up children alone, having added the fatherly role to that of motherhood gives us an understanding as to why this “masculine” trait should appear in their handwriting.) If the end stroke comes up and over toward the left it has the same meaning.

Notes about the t bar and the i dot:

We have seen the relative importance of the t bar. There are times when the t bar adopts no one stable form throughout a piece of writing. Some t’s will have a low-placed bar, others a middle placement, and still others a somewhat high one or even an above-the-stem position. This writing indicates a person who has not yet found his “thing” in life, but is looking.

When the writer post places the majority of the t bars, he usually post places the i dots too. Similarly, when the majority of the t bars are pre-placed so are the majority of i dots. I use the word “majority” because it is rare for a person to write all his t-bars or i dots the same height or in the same position. The graphologist looks for the overall average.

The i dot works in connection with the t bar. But the capital I, in the English language, has another meaning. When we write the capital I, we are visualizing in our minds what we think of ourselves. The I stand for the ego, so the special shapes this capital letter takes will show you, in capsule form, the writer’s self-image.

If you have wondered why a t bar or i dot should show the many signs that they do, it is because both represent an additional mark that the writer must stop and make. (The same thing holds true for native writers of languages that are rich in diacriticals, such as the Scandinavian, and their handling implies the same interpretation.) When the writer writes a word containing a t or i, he must decide whether to cross the t bar (or dot the i) in the middle of the word, or wait until he finishes the word and then go back. The way he solves this little problem gives an important clue to his individuality.

Examination for Lesson 4

1. What does the post placed t bar reveal?

2. Which t bar reflects procrastination?

3. Which t bar indicates strong imagination?

4. Describe the t bar that discloses a dominant personality.

5. What type of t bar indicates fickleness?

6. What type of t bar can show forgetfulness?

7. Stubbornness can be seen in a t bar. What is the common factor to

look for?

8. The t bars in the following sample reflect what trait?

9. Many of Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis’ horizontal strokes veer upward. What does this reveal?

10. A t bar covering the whole word discloses what trait?

11. What is similar regarding the following t-bars and i dot?

12. What must the writer decide when writing a word containing a t or an i?

13. Describe the t bar that appears in timorous people who may have little confidence.

Answers for Lesson 4

1. Often such writers have quick minds. Their purpose is not exactness in detail; they want to finish quickly. They are aggressive, often showing temper, impatient to reach their goals.

2. The pre-placed t bar

3. The t bar that soars above the stem

4. It is flung down

5. The concave t bar

6. The t bar is missing

7. Hooks in the t bar

8. Sarcasm

9. This shows social aspirations and often a strong imagination. It is also the sign of one who wants

to improve their situation, and is aggressive.

10. Protection, fatherliness

11. They are pre-placed

12. When the writer writes a word containing a t or i, he must decide whether to cross the t bar (or dot

the i) in the middle of the word, or wait until he finishes the word and then go back. The way he

solves this little problem gives an important clue to his individuality.

13. Short t-bars

How to Identify Atypical Aspergers Syndrome

The incidence of Asperger’s Syndrome is on the rise. Asperger’s is one of the Autistic Spectrum Disorders, or ASD’s. Whenever we see a spike in the incidence of a disorder, I always ask the questions “is this disorder/syndrome occurring more frequently? Or, are we simply diagnosing it more often? Is it the new ‘fashionable’ diagnosis?” These are important professional questions. Labels and diagnoses can shape a future for the better or worse. We shouldn’t diagnose lightly. Many implications follow a diagnosis.

I am seeing with more frequency, elements of Asperger’s Syndrome in children but an absence of some key identifying symptoms. The diagnostic criteria listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV (DSM-IV, the manual authorized by the American Psychiatric Association) is far too lengthy to re-print here in an article. Some highlights are as follows:

1. Qualitative impairment in social interaction.

2. Restricted repetitive and stereotyped patterns of behavior, interests, and activities.

3. The disturbance causes clinically significant impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.

4. There is no significant general delay in language (e.g., single words used by age 2 years, communicative phrases used by age 3 years).

5. There is no clinically significant delay in cognitive development of age-appropriate self-help skills, adaptive behavior (other than in social interaction), and curiosity about the environment in childhood.

6. Criteria are not met for another specific Pervasive Developmental Disorder or Schizophrenia. (1)

You can search on-line or at your library for a more detailed listing of the diagnostic criteria.

I am using the term “Atypical Asperger’s Syndrome” to refer to children whom seem to meet some of the criteria but not all. Things just don’t seem to click for these kids. They just don’t engage the way other children do.

Atypical Aspergers may be best discussed by comparing it to some other possible diagnoses that we may be ruling out. They are as follows:

· Social Anxiety Disorder: Children with this disorder may appear quite shy. They are hesitant to engage with other children. They prefer the company of adults. In differentiating this from Atypical Asperger’s, the Asperger’s child isn’t remotely upset, concerned or bothered by the fact that they aren’t included in the group. Or, they are included in the group but remain somewhat permanently distant. They can play side by side with other children without really interacting with the other child.

· Low Intellectual Functioning: Upon initial observation, the Atypical Aspergers child may appear dull or lacking in intelligence. The low intellectual functioning child generally will perform poorly in school and require basic skills level classes. The Atypical Asperger’s child however is most often bright. They do well on test despite appearing lost or disinterested.

Asperger’s Syndrome children typically make poor eye contact, speak in limited phrases, are tangential, prefer social isolation. They display a lack of spontaneous seeking to share enjoyment, interests or achievements with others. They also display a lack of social or emotional reciprocity.

I am seeing Atypical Asperger’s children who make good eye contact. They are often capable of conducting a conversation with me in the office. They often perform this better in the office because I’m an adult. Parents and teachers report that these children are less skilled in conversation with their peer age group. They may spontaneously share experiences or achievements but often at inappropriate times, interjecting such into a discussion somewhat randomly. And although they are bright, if I were their age I wouldn’t be very interested in what they talk about. They appear immature, because they are socially immature.

For some reason, the Atypical Asperger’s child doesn’t seem interested in athletics and also not very good at them. I don’t fully understand the neurology involved but I’m suspecting a connection.

Fashionable Syndrome?

I was discussing Asperger’s with my 24 year old son just last week. We were looking at the homes of America’s richest tech guys, Bill Gates, Steve Jobs and “the facebook guy” Mark Zuckerberg. Our conversation led us to “how many of these very bright and creative guys have Asperger’s.” And we must make an important point, just because someone appears socially awkward doesn’t mean that they have any disorder at all, let alone Aspergers. It was simply a conversation. I am not diagnosing any of these individuals from afar and have no idea if any of them have any version of Asperger’s Syndrome. The point though is that he told me that in his 20 something age group it has become “fashionable” to say that you have Asperger’s. It is sort of a badge of honor and an easy explanation for ones “quirkiness” now in social situations. Guys in bars and clubs are using this to create an aura of “intellectual elite” associated to themselves. I see it as a way of saying “I’m really better and smarter than you and you couldn’t possibly really understand me so don’t even try.” It’s the new “I’m a nerd” declaration. Remember when being called a nerd was an insult? Remember when it became a badge of honor years later? This also points out that the more evident cases of adult Atypical Asperger’s Syndrome occur in bright creative people. I don’t believe that the incidence is higher in bright people than less bright people. We simply notice it more because we notice high achievers overall more than lesser achievers.

This may seem strange or unusual at first glance. But think of how often you hear people referring to “my ADD.” I hear this all the time. It’s become the excuse for everything. Any time someone forgets, fails to complete a project or return a phone call promptly, they announce that it’s there ADD. So to think that now the fashionable disorder or “disorder du jour” is something called Asperger’s, doesn’t surprise me in the least. We, as a society, are influenced by media and current fashion. All of the Autistic Spectrum disorders are in “fashion” in the media.

And this points to a concern. Certain diagnoses become popular. Think of this timeline. The popular diagnosis in the 1980’s was “Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.” I bet you forgot about that one. When was the last time you heard of someone having it? Not recently, eh. Where did it go? What was the cure? In the 1990’s ADD and ADHD came into full bloom, even though we were talking about it in the 80’s. They’ve hung on pretty well too. But in the 2000’s we began to see a lot of children with Bipolar Disorder. When I first began in this field in the 1980’s this diagnosis was restricted for adults. The, it was expanded. Eventually, it became an all too frequently used diagnosis. Today, the incidence of all of the Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD) diagnoses is seen with greater and greater frequency. Asperger’s Syndrome and what I’m calling Atypical Asperger’s Syndrome fall under the category of ASD. We must remember that diagnoses can carry education and social baggage. This baggage can be useful or limiting. Hiding behind a diagnosis can limit growth and development. Self-Esteem can be enhanced or damaged by a diagnosis. A proper diagnosis can lead to understanding and open up opportunity.

I believe that I’m seeing a lot of Atypical Asperger’s in my practice. Truth is, we’re all different from one another. Thinking that there is a way to be, grow and develop in childhood or adulthood is inaccurate. We all function within a range on a scale. Atypical Asperger’s is simply on a different part of that scale than most people are accustomed.

Here are some basic considerations if you question whether your child may have a form of Asperger’s Syndrome:

  1. Your child is bright but doesn’t interact well with peers.
  2. Your child doesn’t have a normal filter when expressing himself. He says inappropriate things at inappropriate times.
  3. He doesn’t seem too bothered to be on the “outside” of things socially.
  4. He is preoccupied or his focus on certain activities is abnormal or unusually intense.
  5. He is preoccupied with parts of objects in a way that others are not.
  6. His conversation runs to things that are completely dis-interesting to others, and he fails to notice.

This is not an exhaustive or comprehensive list. But it’s a good start. Get a comprehensive assessment if you think this may be a problem.

Feel free to contact me for assistance in assessment or treatment. Even if just to ask me a question via email, I am available.

Copyright 2010 John Hudome, all rights reserved.

References: (1) Desk Reference To The Diagnostic Criteria From DSM-IV-TR, Copyright 2000 American Psychiatric Association.

Congratulations! It’s Just Borderline Personality Disorder!

You or some-one you care about has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I hope you have heard by now that BPD is highly treatable! Now you can finally get on with living a good life! I can tell you from my experience, that once you get over the initial shock of finding out that you have a brain disorder, things start to get better as you realize how nice the treatment is and how we finally have a place you belong!

I was thinking, when I was diagnosed, that having a mental illness confirmed what I had already suspected, that the culmination of all my pain and suffering would be my becoming a homeless person that no one cared about or wanted to be with. I felt REALLY sorry for myself, and yes, I believe, I was entitled to be able to wallow in some self pity for a bit. But quickly I found out that FINALLY I had an answer, a treatment and a cure! Hurray!

So, here is where I suggest you start: find out good sources of information, number one, and then with that information, find good treatment options and good support.

First, begin with research.

Now, this is the first thing I’m going to tell you about research: beware of what you read on the web! There are some There are a lot of angry people out there whose approach, in my opinion, is not helpful to any of us. We are in this together, and there is a lot of empirical evidence and compassionate advice that is beneficial to concentrate on for our healing.

If you are a reader, my favorite books are: New Hope for People with Borderline Personality Disorder by Dr. Neil R. Bockian and BPD Demystified by Dr. Robert Friedel. These books offer multiple treatment options, including traditional and alternative treatments, as well as useful information on self-help and the family perspective. Dr. Friedel, while professional and clinical in his approach, has a section on his relationship with his sister, Denise, who had BPD, and it helps me feel validated to know his passion for his work is fueled by his emotions towards his sister. These books can be read by consumers and supporters as well.

If you are a supporter, you may have figured out on your own that we consumers are very sensitive to what you say to us. There is a reason for that, and I’ll point out right here that the flip side to us getting upset about things so easily is that we feel all emotions deeply, including our love for you. But, I digress…because we feel so deeply, especially early in our recovery, there are some things that a supporter can read that a consumer possibly could not. One of those books is Stop Walking on Eggshells. If you are a supporter and are looking for answers on how the heck to talk to us (quick!), there is a chapter on communicating with us that is right on!

Next, get in to effective treatment.

I’ll tell you in a nutshell, to save you a lot of time, what the current thought is on treatment. For some of us medication is helpful and for some not necessary. For all of us therapy is essential, and if your therapist doesn’t know how to treat BPD, she may be doing more harm than good, so find one who knows your disorder! For all of us, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) skills training can be enormously helpful and downright awesome!

Some of the things you will learn are how to effectively regulate your emotions and how to avoid black and white thinking.

Find yourself some support.

The illness usually forces sufferers into social isolation, which only compounds the symptoms. Part of your healing will be to slowly get back into life. Once you have learned some basic skills, you will be able to tolerate social interactions, and will grow to enjoy them once more. The key is to finding people who understand and are supportive of you, right where you are.

The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) has support groups that encompass all brain disorders. BPD is a newcomer to their list of disorders, so some chapters may be more helpful than others. However, many Borderline Personality Disorder sufferers are diagnosed with multiple illnesses, so NAMI may be a supportive environment for a range of disorders.

I recommend the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder (NEA-BPD) for your family members. They are an informed, passionate and helpful organization who offer the Family Connections class at a price that can’t be beat. This class will help those you love to understand your illness and teach skills to be more effective in their relationship with you.

Keep your mind open to possibilities.

If you can’t afford or can’t find a particular solution, there will be another one! It’s NOT black or white…there are many options. And be encouraged! Things can get better now!

Take care!

The Difference Between Telogen Effluvium (TE) And Female Patterned Baldness Or Hair Loss

I often get emails from people who want clarification as to what makes telogen effluvium (TE) or shedding any different from AGA, genetic thinning, or female patterned baldness.  Most of the people who ask this question really hope that they have TE, because there is a perception that this shedding is much more mild and temporary in nature and that AGA is much harder to treat.  These perceptions aren’t always true, but I’ll go over some of the differences between the two conditions in the following article.

You Should Have A Trigger With TE:  People who have telogen effluvium usually have a distinct and identifiable reason for the hair loss.  You should be able to pinpoint what is called your trigger which usually will have occurred around 2 – 3 months before you notice any changes in your hair or experience an increase in shedding or loss.  There are many possible triggers, but examples are illness, surgery, changing hormones, pregnancy or giving birth, stopping or starting medications, autoimmune flare ups, metabolic disorders, or allergic / inflammatory reactions, as well as conditions of the scalp.

If there’s any “trigger” with AGA or genetic hair loss, then it’s typically age.  A person is genetically predisposed to being sensitive to androgens on the scalp (whether there is any family history or not) and this will generally become worse as you get older.  You may well have had a full head of hair at 18, but by the time that you are in your 30s, you begin to notice gradual changes and you can’t pinpoint an illness or a change that would’ve contributed to this.

Now, sometimes TE sort of morphs into AGA because you had both a trigger and a genetic component laying below the surface.

You May Well Notice A Pattern With AGA Or Patterned Baldness:  This is not always true, but much of the time, there is a more distinct pattern of loss if it is androgen or genetically driven whereas the loss with TE is more diffuse and occurs all over the head.  However with androgenic alopecia, you will typically see more profound loss in areas like the temples, the crown (the back of the head), or at the part line or top.  With that said, if you have particularly aggressive or fast moving telogen effluvium, you can see some of the same patterns because those androgenic areas begin as more sparse anyway.  So you’re going to notice those areas more because they would be the first to thin out.

The Difference In Regrowth:  You can sometimes see a distinction in the regrowth.  There is typically some miniaturization in long term AGA.  What I mean by that is that over time, the hair that grows back comes in thinner and finer. So while you are regrowing what you are losing (at least somewhat) the quality and thickness of the hair is not what it was before so that the over all effect is one of the thinner head of hair made up of strands that are more fine in texture.

With that said, sometimes TE will turn chronic and last for well over six months.  You can see some miniaturization occasionally in these cases.

Blood Work: Sometimes, people will write to me and tell me that they can’t possibly have androgenic alopecia or androgen driven loss because their testosterone levels aren’t too high or maybe they have a normal FSH reading (follicle stimulating hormone.) There is a perception that folks with genetic loss have “too much” testosterone or androgens.  The truth is, you can have androgen driven loss with low or even normal levels of androgens. It’s really not that you have too much hormones.  It’s that you are genetically prone to be over sensitive to those same hormones.  I know it’s frustrating and confusing, but don’t let the blood work mislead you or cause you to rule out something that is still possible.  It’s just as important to look at what you see in the mirror as it is to view what you see on the blood work reports. 

Catch a Cheating Boyfriend – The Modern Way to Expose a Cheater

Nowadays, with access to sophisticated technological tools and gadgets, it’s easier then ever before to catch a cheating boyfriend or a husband having an affair. We truly live in extraordinary times, and if you suspect that your boyfriend is cheating on you, don’t hesitate to take action and use all those options that might not have been available to women just a few years or decades ago. This brief article will give you some clues how to catch a cheating boyfriend, a cheating spouse, or unfaithful husband the modern way.

Well, how do I catch a cheating boyfriend?

When starting to spy on a boyfriend whom you suspect to be cheating on you, his computer is the place to start. Check your cheating boyfriend’s browser history. See what websites he visited.

Also search for pictures on his computer, he might have received some from other women.

Get access to his email account. Look for emails moved to the recycle bin and always check the folder with sent messages. Even if guys try to cover their trails and delete messages received from other women, they often forget to delete their own responses.

When spying on his computer, beware of using key logger software. Note that you are only permitted to install such software on a computer that you actually own yourself. It is illegal to use it on anyone else’s PC. If your cheating boyfriend uses your PC, though, or the computer belongs to the two of you, you can get such software for your computer easily – it will keep track of all activities, every key stroke and even can do screen captures.

If you want to watch your cheating boyfriend’s steps and to know where he is, use GPS tracking. All you need to do is get an extra cell phone and set it up with Google Latitude. It’s free. Than place the phone under a seat in his car, but remember to turn on silent mode to mute any sounds the phone could make.

This way you will be able to track your cheating boyfriend and will have proof and evidence of where he is going. Once you know where he was headed, you can ask him where he has been and you actually know if he’s lying to you.

A much easier technique is to take notes of the car mileage reading in your cheating boyfriend’s vehicle. If you know how far he has to drive between home and his place of work, school or college, look for variances in the readings. Low mileage can be just as much an indicator for a cheater as a high one. If he said he was at work but the reading says he traveled much more distance or he told you he had to go out of town but there has been barely a change in the mileage, you should start worrying.

Also look for ATM slips or check the bank account statements if you have access to it. Check for unexplained withdrawals, note the date and time of the action and most of all look at the location of the ATM.

When getting all technical, don’t neglect traditional tip-offs though, such as perfume or lipstick on his clothes, female belongings found in his car, such as maybe an earring. Observe if he always takes a shower as soon as he comes back home or over-dresses when doing mundane errands.

Above all, keep in mind to be cautious about the techniques described here, as being exposed could actually hurt your relationship or give the cheating boyfriend the opportunity to turn the tables and set up you as the offender.

In What Ways Is Public Speaking Likely To Make A Difference In Your Life?

Believe it or not, but there are many ways public speaking is likely to make a difference in your life. It improves our personal growth, how we communicate with others, the level of our career, how we present ourselves, and many more reasons. By learning how to effectively speak in public, you’ll be able to increase your own self-confidence, which can help to make you more comfortable around other people. This ability speaking ability is also a career booster. Learning how to communicate effectively will lead to more confidence and a more approachable personality.

Public speaking can make a big difference to everyone’s life in any society. Our lives consist of much social interaction and speaking skills can assist in greater effectiveness in communication with others. This can effectively improve your relationships and your career. It is vital to be able to communicate with others. Public speaking will change your personality into a more communicative person, would improve your life by gaining more opportunity for your career. Speaking skills can definitely give you the upper hand in any kind of work. Your career can be determined greatly by how well you speak, by how well you write, and by the quality of your ideas.

Since the first step of communication is conveyed through speech, the impression you give to your listener tells them what type of a person you are. By sharing information with others, you’re better able to increase the impact of your hopes, dreams, desires and goals for your life and the world around you.

Try not to make the mistake of thinking that public speaking isn’t important. By learning how to effectively speak in public, you’ll be able to increase your own self-confidence. It can help to make you more comfortable around other people, and will help perfect your everyday verbal and non-verbal communication skills. It’s important because at some point in life, just about everyone will be required to involve themselves in one type of public speaking or another.

The ability to dive into public speaking and related communication skills are a big plus among prospective employers, and are also a great way to help get that promotion you’ve been awaiting for such a long time. Being effective at it will allow you to make a big difference in your business, and community. It is often a powerful way to make a good impression on others and to help aid in in understanding, cooperation and set goals and objectives. The skills you’ll learn by learning speaking can boost your performance at your home, office, or in life in general. Students that learn to master speaking early can definitely help them to perform better in college, as well as offer them greater opportunities to be accepted into their top choice schools.

Public speaking is by nature important because it’s a primary and powerful avenue to give of your self and to share with others in a profitable way. And these are hardly all of the reasons that it is important.

How to Stop Mumbling Quickly

There are a number of ways to learn how to stop mumbling quickly and effectively. Usually, the vocal phenomenon known as mumbling occurs whenever your audible sounds known as “voice” are too low in tone and also indistinct. Because of this, most listeners have difficulty making out what is being said on the part of the person who is speaking too low and indistinctly.

If you have a habit of mumbling frequently, chances are high that those trying to listen to you will be unable to do so effectively. However, there are steps that can be taken to end this habit. For one, you can always practice speaking aloud even if no one is there to hear you speak. Additionally, practice reading aloud in a crisp, clear voice. The idea is to inculcate good speech habits.

Those who are just starting out trying to eliminate their mumbling habit should practice thinking about what they’re going to say before they say it. This act of forming sentences in your mind before speaking them is a very effective tool that will create the habit of speaking loudly and clearly in a tone that others will be able to readily understand.

You should also practice vocabulary building. This can be done by taking a dictionary and then looking up words you may have difficulty speaking. Practice pronouncing them several times and then placing those words into a sentence that you will repeat on occasion in order to fix the word firmly in your mind. It never hurts to take a community college speech class, either.

For those with a light mumbling problem, they may wish to consider signing up for a few singing lessons. This may seem strange, but a good vocal coach can help identify hiccups or hesitation in speech patterns and then design speaking and singing exercises that will eliminate the problem over time. There are also several good exercises for speech that are available online. Seek them out.

How to stop mumbling quickly comes down to paying attention to your enunciation and thinking about what you’re going to say before you vocalize it. There really isn’t anything too difficult when it comes to stopping something like mumbling, and for those who have a serious speech impediment it might be advisable to seek out a qualified speech therapist.

Mushrooms That Can Invade the Sinus Passages

Lots of people love mushrooms, especially sauteed with a nice steak. But did you know that there are certain kinds of mushrooms that can infect the sinus passages?

The mushrooms we’re talking about here aren’t the kind used for food, but they belong to the species known as fungi, including certain types of molds. Fungi are organisms that resemble plants, but unlike genuine plants can’t produce their own food through the process of photosynthesis. Usually these types of fungi live in our warm, moist nasal passages without causing any problems. However, when a body’s resistance is low, these fungi can become harmful.

Fungi usually feed on dead organic matter, which is why food mushrooms are found living at the roots of trees and in the carpet of leaves composting on a forest floor. Fungi like dark, warm, wet places, just like the insides of our noses. Sometimes fungi can feed on other living organizations, such as the mucus membranes inside nasal and sinus passages. When that happens, these membranes become inflamed and can become infected.

Molds are a kind of microscopic fungi related to mushrooms. To reproduce themselves, they release spores that can sail through the air like pollen. Fungi of this type can be found throughout the year in many regions. They’re affected by the weather – when’s warm and rainy, or even warm and humid, you can expect an increase in the growth of molds. That’s one of the reasons why it can be essential to control the humidity in a home, to reduce the likelihood of mold growing in the walls, especially on building materials that contain a lot of cellulose (once again, that’s a wood-derived product of the kind that outdoor fungi are so fond of eating).

Common types of mold found indoors include Aspergillus and its subspecies (A. Flavus, A. Versicolor); Cladosporium; Penicillium; Alternaria and the toxic “Black Mold, ” Stachybotrys atra (S. Atra). Any of these indoor molds can be the microscopic mushrooms that infect sinuses. Sometimes they produce effects that are quite toxic to the human body. The best way to avoid such an infection is by working to prevent their growth in the home, and through good health habits, especially frequent hand washing and other forms of hygiene.

If you do become infected, see your doctor immediately. And if you suspect fungi may have invaded your home, contact a building specialist to conduct tests. It’s better to be safe than suffer with a fungal infection.

Disclaimer: This article is for information purposes only and does not seek to diagnose, advice or treat any health condition whatsoever. If you have or think you might have a health condition, contact your primary care physician for diagnosis, advice and treatment. The USFDA has not evaluated statements about any product mentioned in this article.

Adhesives for Lace Wigs – A Word Of Caution

The daily use of lace wig adhesives on the skin has not been officially studied for long-term health hazards but it should be known that a small percentage of people are sensitive to the chemicals found in various lace wig adhesive products. It is also possible that using these products yearly on a daily basis could have some negative short and long-term effect on any users health. Until proper scientific studies have been conducted, every consumer uses these products at their own risk.


A mentionable ingredient found in some popular lace wig glue adhesives is Toluene. Toluene is found in gasoline, acrylic paints, varnishes, lacquers, paint thinners, adhesives, glues, rubber cement, airplane glue, and shoe polish. At room temperature, toluene is a colorless, sweet smelling, volatile liquid. According to Scorecard – The Pollution Information Site, by comparison toluene is more hazardous than most chemicals in 2 out of 10 ranking systems.

Inhalation of toluene fumes can be intoxicating, but in larger doses nausea-inducing. Toluene may enter the human system not only through vapor inhalation from the liquid evaporation but also from absorption through the skin. The dangers of this chemical are very serious. According to the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) the short-term effects include: minor nervous system disorders such as fatigue, nausea, weakness, confusion. EPA has also concluded that the long-term effects of toluene has the potential to cause more pronounced nervous disorders such as spasms, tremors, impairment of speech, hearing, vision, memory, coordination; liver and kidney damage. A few notable products that contain this ingredient, so take caution when applying and read the ingredient list.


Latex is also known to be hazardous to some people that wear lace wig adhesives. This form of plastic is found in some lace wig tapes. This may cause concern for individuals that suffer from latex allergies. Mild reactions to latex involve skin redness, rash, hives, or itching. More severe reactions may involve respiratory symptoms such as runny nose, sneezing, itchy eyes, scratchy throat, and asthma (difficult breathing, coughing spells, and wheezing). Rarely, shock may occur; however, a life-threatening reaction is seldom the first sign of latex allergy.

Medically Safe Adhesives

Increasingly becoming more popular with full lace/front lace wig wearers and medically safe is Vapon, contact liquid adhesive and Supertape, which is formulated with a water-based adhesive that is skin and environmentally friendly.

By being educated about the ingredients used in lace wig adhesives and our bodies’ reaction to them, we are preserving our health while maintaining a great look.

Ferret Eye Problems That You Need to Know About

If you own a ferret you will be quite aware of the ferret eye problems that cause you to be concerned about. The unlucky ferret is not blessed with good eyesight which is why its smelling senses are so developed. Also, due to poor sight they are often prone to many kinds of complications and problems of the eyes.

Ferrets are curious and playful naturally and their active nature is prone to accidents to their eyes, the most sensitive of all their organs. Fighting with cats or a hard hit can cause damage to their eyes. Even a rush of excitement can cause bulging of their eyes and make them blind.

I would well advise to keep your ferret safely in a place where there are lesser possibilities of injuries to the head and accidents. However, eye complications in ferrets can well be inherent where if the mother had cataract or glaucoma you will find its presence in the ferret pup. Then, it may be a case of diabetes causing the disabilities. Where diagnosis is quite impossible, the ferret may lose its eyesight or even die within a short time.

Another disease that attacks most ferrets is retinal atrophy which is a progressive complication of ferret eye type. The eyes lose moisture and become hard and dilated with age. This is a slow killer since the eyes lose sight or visibility over a period of time. It is caused when the pet has a deficiency of an amino acid substance called Taurine.

When there is an injury or trauma to your ferret, Uveitis is yet another infection which the pet is susceptible to. It is however curable and treatment requires application of an anti-inflammatory ointment like cortisone. If left untreated, it may cause painful destruction of the retina and subsequent blindness

Sometimes a tumor behind the eyeballs can cause Lymphoma (where the eyes bulge out) or Lymphosarcoma. If diagnosed with it, the ferret needs to be treated with chemotherapy. Such lymphoma is then treated with surgery and is known as retro bulbar lymphoma.

It is important to have regular checkups for your pet to avoid progression of any of these diseases. It is advisable to take the pet to an experienced and established vet for periodical examination to avoid afflictions to the ferret with minor or major eye ailments.

The Wonders of the Human Eye

Ophthalmology is the area of medical science that focuses on the eyes, how they work and what could go wrong with them. This branch of medical science also deals with various cures of conditions that affect the eye.

Ophthalmology is a very intricate area of the science of the human body because it is concerned with the eyes, what the structure of the human eyes is, how they function and operate and also any diseases which they can be affected by. There are also parts of it which main concern is how the messages get from the eye to the brain, but this isn’t the main focus of the science.

The eye works in a very complicated and yet brilliant way for such a small organ of the body. Light enters the eye form the outside world, having been reflected off everything in it, and comes in through the cornea, which acts as a clear screen to protect the iris and more importantly the pupil (the pupil being the small colored part in the middle of the iris) and this is where the light passes through next. There is a crystalline lens directly behind the iris which helps to focus the light so that it can be interpreted once it reaches the retina after having passed through both the vitreous humor and the macula which make up the main bulk of the interior of the eye. The retina is the processing centre of the eye and is a very clever part of the human body and a lot of ophthalmology is based around the retina as it is the part which turns the light rays into electrical impulses which can be sent to the brain.

The eye is very well developed, such as the way that the iris changes its size, depending on the intensity of the light and also the distance from the eye to the object which the person is trying to focus on because this helps focus the light ideally onto the retina.

Ophthalmology is also about the diseases of the eye, which can occur, such as cataracts. This is where the lens of the eye becomes clouded which stops the light getting through the cornea or the iris meaning that the image perceived by the retina will not be as clear or accurate as it would have once been. Other diseases in the eye are caused by problems with the layer of nerves at the back of the eye which deliver the signals to the brain. These conditions include glaucoma (which is where damages to the optic nerve are caused by excess pressure in the eye itself) and also many other retinal disorders. Another condition which can occur in the eye is conjunctivitis.

Periwinkle and Chemotherapy Drugs – Why Limit Its Uses to Just Chemotherapy?

Periwinkle: This simple little plant is the source of most common chemo drugs used in the treatment of cancer. The properties which linked Periwinkle to the treatment of cancer were discovered inadvertently by a major pharmaceutical manufacturer while looking for a drug to control blood sugar in diabetics. Common folk lore attributed such a property to Periwinkle, but painstaking research revealed that the plant had no effect on blood sugar levels. Instead, the research uncovered the antineoplastic effects of plant extracts, prominent among them, the extraordinary properties of periwinkle and components in its makeup which form the basis of our common chemotherapy drugs.

The plant components, vincristine and vinblastine, in periwinkle, were found to bind to tubulin in cellular microtubules. The short story here is that the process arrested cellular division and killed the cells.

But the embarrassing factor in this that keeps getting swept under the rug is that these drugs don’t particularly discriminate between healthy cells and cancer cells. As a result, numerous healthy cells are killed in the course of chemotherapy as these drugs, in their mission of killing off cancer cells, go about causing general and widespread cell death, including the cells that comprise our immune system.o It’s like using a shotgun to kill a fly on an elephant. Not good.

The logic of chemotherapy in the treatment of cancer just doesn’t make any sense at all. That is, as far as curing cancer is concerned. Or curing any other disease for that matter. Our immune system is designed to attack and destroy any harmful invading organisms. So where is the logic of killing the immune system in order to cure a disease?

But there is still a very solid logic to the use of chemotherapy. It is the most profitable therapy in medicine. Profitable to the pharmaceutical industry, profitable to all segments of the medical business involved in the treatment of cancer. And this seems to explain why the many extraordinary properties of periwinkle are being quietly passed over in favor of the logic of profit in chemotherapy.

The therapeutic uses of the periwinkle plant are not limited to its derivations of the chemo drugs. The plant itself was introduced in Europe during the mid 1700s, as an ornamental plant. Today it grows throughout the world, mainly in the warmer climates, and it has been widely used in tropical folk medicine. Besides being useful in the treatment of cancer, decoctions of the plant have been used for maladies ranging from ocular inflammation, diabetes, hemorrhage, and insect stings.

Research conducted by several pharmceutical companies, and later abandoned, show derivatives of periwinkle to be a high octane fuel for the brain. This is due to an almost miraculous brain booster called vinpocetine. It is so effective against fading mental processes that it is being used routinely in supplemental form by nearly 50 countries.

Vinpocetine has been shown to improve blood circulation to the brain, reducing senility and age related dementia. It has been used successfully to improve hearing function by relieving that ringing and buzzing in the ears known as tinnitus, and it has eliminated vertigo (dizziness). Vinpocetine is also used extensively in Europe for improving visual function, including night vision, and in preventing or relieving glaucoma and age related macular degeneration.

Periwinkle is also an excellent, all around astringent that may be used internally and externally. Mainly it is used in the treatment of excessive menstrual flow. And as in other remedies that can affect the uterus, it can be used to address similar processes in the urinary system. Digestive problems can also benefit from treatment with periwinkle; problems such as colitis or diarrhea where it will act to reduce the loss of fluid or blood. Nose bleed, bleeding gums, mouth ulcers, and sore throats, all benefit from the use of periwinkle.

There are few health hazards associated with the use of periwinkle as a therapeutic drug, although anyone wanting to avail himself of this drug would be well served to consult a homeopathic physician who understands its uses. Overdosage can result in a severe drop of blood pressure. Other than that, the side effects seem to be very minimal, being largely limited to gastrointestinal complaints and skin flushing. The drug is usually made available in the form of ampules, capsules, coated tablets, and compound preparations.

It seems totally ironic that the USFDA continues to “protect” us from the perceived dangers of such a beneficial plant, in spite of its internationally proven safety and effectiveness while at the same time, allowing virtually unrestricted use of the same plant’s well known most toxic elements.