Predatory Rage – Not Poor Anger Management, But an Attribute of the Traumagenic Family

Recently a woman sought therapy because she was feeling overwhelmed in the relationship with her husband. As she sat tearfully recounting her experience of a seven year marriage, an emerging pattern of predatory rage began to take shape. She talked about the charming sophisticated man, capable of tremendous generosity and a razor sharp intellect who has increasingly acted more hostilely with hurtful and demeaning comments and behaviors. Social psychologist such as Harm Veling, suggest that predatory or instrumental anger is used in ways to gain power, control and to manage interactions in the behalf of the one expressing the anger. Clinically, most counselors that have dealt with couples or family therapy have had many an opportunity to view the mechanic of predatory anger first hand.

The question of what is the origin of such aggressive and hostile control strategies can be found most frequently in the developmental history of the individual who acts in the predatory fashion. The developmental history most often illustrates a family dynamic that could be considered Traumagenic in nature. Anger is pervasive in traumagenic family dynamics and it is assumed by many raised in these highly disruptive environments to be a reasonable and meaningful way to bring predictability to chaos and order to human relationships.

Before examining the attributes of the traumagenic family that contribute to predatory anger or rage, it is vital to disclose that not all anger and rage is the same or equal in terms of danger and lethality. Some anger is the result of repeated or long term frustrations, habitual interference with need acquisition, dis-inhibition from the use of substances, and serious mental illness. There is not absolute answer to what generates anger with any predictability, because many attributes of that contribute to the expression of anger are going to be in a constant state of adaption and fluctuation. Many of these traumagenic families possess patterns of behavior that interfere with the normal social, emotional, psychological and physical development of the individual family members, which means there are functioning patterns that disturb appropriate and adequate use of power, creativity, spontaneity, problem solving, and connecting in genuine relationships of shared and equal affection. Many times the adults that have matured in this family dynamic will experience an incomplete sense of self; low self-esteem (or pseudo self-esteem), relational stress and anxiety, an illusion of connectedness, a psychological defensiveness toward genuine attempts at emotional attachment, an avoidance of real emotional closeness and affection with a simultaneous drive to possess the same, as well as a high need to exercise control and power to create internal states that are free or possess reduced tension.

This dynamic creates relationships that lack a self-sustaining quality, which would be essential to developing enduringly satisfying relationships and a healthy unfolding of the normal maturing process. When looking at the traumagenic family dynamics related to the generation of predatory anger or rage, one would notice a continuum of family dynamics. Perhaps the simplest or less in magnitude would be those behaviors that a caregiver or parent may demonstrate with a small child for example:

– A baby cries and no one responds or offers comfort.

– A baby is hungry or wet, and they aren’t attended to for hours.

– No one looks at, talks to, or smiles at the baby or young child for long periods of time.

– A young child gets attention only by acting out or displaying other extreme behaviors.

– A young child or baby is mistreated or abused.

– Sometimes the child’s needs are met and sometimes they aren’t. The child never knows what to expect and has little predictability.

– The infant or young child is separated from his or her parents.

– A baby or young child is moved from one caregiver to another (can be the result of adoption, foster care, or the loss of a parent).

– The parent is emotionally unavailable because of depression, an illness, or a substance abuse problem.

These behaviors on the part of the caregiver instruct the child that they must control the environment to have safety, security and predictability. These attributes are also seen as being related to other problems such as attachment disorders. Attachment is about the degree that one feels emotional connected to others, and the predictable nature of that connection. When attachment is inconsistent or poor the predictable nature of the emotional connection is vague and ill-formed. This appreciably reduces trust and the calm expectation of support that human beings rely on to feel a part of a community or family. This triggers a drive to control, manipulate and act aggressively to have some secure expectedness which leads to predatory behaviors.

While having one’s expectation or desire for security, safety, stability, nurturance, empathy, acceptance, and respect may not be met in a predictable manner, this is just one contributing cause to predatory rage and anger. When the family environment creates feelings of abandonment and repeated instability, low levels of reliability and trust, emotional deprivation accompanied by feelings of individual defectiveness and shame then it is more likely to see predatory rage and anger emerge and as an instrument to achieve those missing elements. Some of the strategies that become apparent in predatory anger are:

1. Losing control to get their own way

2. Trains others to avoid them when angry or else

3. Utilize threats of harm to self or others

4. Utilize threats to property or pets

5. Actively control interactions through Sarcasm, Name calling, Put Downs, Rude comments, being critical and harshly judgmental, and being angry when others attempt connections

6. Claim that they “lost control” after and aggressive, destructive or abusive incident

7. Uses anger to have power in a situation

8. Others become timid and “walk on eggshells” when they have to discuss problems or responsibilities

9. Size people up for how much power they have and respond differently based on their view of that power

10. Reacts negatively to or dominates those that appear to have less power

11. Act charming toward those with more power

12. Resist developing relationships with those that might be more powerful than they or threaten their power

13. Use omission and vagueness to confuse or avoid

14. Pretend to have misunderstood

15. Put others on the defensive when they are clearly wrong

16. Put others on the spot so that they wind up explaining themselves rather than focusing on resolving a problem

17. Use statements like “you don’t love me” “you don’t trust me” ” you don’t appreciate me” as away to avoid dealing with an issue and deflect away

Dr. Bruce Perry and other professional suggests that if there are other factors added to the traumagenic family dynamics described above that there will be an escalation of expressed violence attached to the predatory anger and rage. Some of these factors are:

1. Becoming more detached from each other and from common unifying beliefs of a community then there is more expressed violence.

2. Becoming desensitized to the emotional needs of others, loose or impair empathic ability then there is more expressed violence.

3. Promoting hateful ideologies within the family dynamic that makes groups or classes of people to be viewed as different, bad or even less than human then there is more expressed violence.

4. When alcohol or drugs are used regularly or at addictive levels then there is more expressed violence.

Predatory anger and rage can be thought of as a motivated strategy to obtain or possess some perceived end. Since the patterns tend to be long standing and having impacted the normal developmental process of the individual, these stratagems are seen as normal, and part of the ordinary world of the individual, and not seen as being aggressive or hostile but more easily characterized by organic sense that this is “how things are”. These patterns contribute to unsatisfying interpersonal interactions and exchanges, with the accompanying frustration and maybe even recognition that the behaviors are not generating the desired outcomes. However recognition of the failure to achieve the ultimate goal is not generally self correcting primarily due to the rigidity of the stratagem. Rather than act differently they increase the use of the strategy, which further spirals dissatisfaction and failures. Perpetual and repeated attempts to use the strategy creates a cycle of escalating attempts to meet the needs for control, connection and emotional safety through predatory acts and those failures drive more of the same.

Natural Remedies for for the Treatment of Hair Loss

Since the introduction of Rogaine in the early 1980’s, androgenic mediated hair loss, or ‘male pattern baldness’ has been considered a treatable condition through the use of pharmaceutical preparations. The perception that over-the-counter and prescription drugs are the only means to successfully treat this type of hair loss is perpetuated by the lack of well-funded and publicized studies on the efficacy of natural treatments. However, as the understanding of the biological mechanism of male pattern baldness has become clear through a great body of research, the reality of an effective natural treatment regimen is at hand. After a review of the available natural products, some suggestions will be made for creating your own regimen for treating hair loss naturally.

The overall cause of male pattern baldness is now well-known: this type of hair loss seen in about a third of the male population is mediated by the androgenic metabolite of testosterone known as dihydrotestosterone or DHT. The production of this now-infamous hormone increases later in life for many men, along with changes with the receptors for this hormone at the hair follicles.

In general, the pertinent hair follicles shrink with continued exposure to the androgenic hormone, some forming only small, villus hairs, while others eventually die completely. Some sources claim these follicles are still getting an adequate blood supply, while others note a waxy buildup or scar-like tissue surrounding the follicles, preventing adequate nutrient delivery. Thus, the localized cause of hair loss, at the follicle level, is still being researched. This does not mean there has been success in discovery of natural hair loss remedies!

The regrowth of hair due to androgenic-induced loss should be addressed on two fronts. First, the levels of DHT produced within the body (rather than topically) should be addressed, along with the binding of DHT at it’s receptor sites. Second, hair growth should be stimulated topically with application of nutrients and/or DHT suppressors on the follicles themselves. Let’s first address the suppression of DHT production and binding systemically (within the body).

Prescription drugs such as Finasteride and Dutasteride are available which lower blood levels of DHT, and have been used to improve hair loss conditions. There are now several well-known natural, plant-based products which either reduce testosterone’s conversion to DHT (via the 5-alpha-reductase enzyme system), block the binding of DHT to receptor sites, or both. Most common, and most important are Saw Palmetto Berry extract and Stinging Nettle Root extract. These to herbs work in combination to both block the conversion of testosterone to DHT and prevent it’s binding to receptor sites in the scalp. Other herbs employed with similar functions include pygeum africanum and pumpkin seed oil, both used to bring into balance the testosterone/DHT ratio; lastly, the plant sterol Beta-Sitosterol is often used successfully to treat prostate enlargement, which has similar causes to male pattern baldness – whether it will support hair growth is not yet known, but it likely won’t hurt!. Finally, getting an adequate supply of Zinc is also important in maintaining this hormonal balance. The entire androgen hormone regulation system is fairly complex; just remember these items: Saw Palmetto, Nettle Root (not leaf!), Pygeum, Zinc, and Beta-Sitosterol. By the way, if using a prostate formula for these nutrients, they should be taken in gel cap form – they are better absorbed this way than in plain powder, and hence more effective.

In addition to these herbs, which are also commonly used around the world for blocking the creation and effects of DHT, Procyanidins, or Polyphenols, have been shown to inhibit DHT systemically, AND can stimulate hair growth when applied topically. These anti-oxidant compounds first became renown with the discovery of the amazing action of grape seed extract and it’s powerful ability as a free-radical scavenger. More recently, Japanese researchers went through the effort of testing HUNDREDS of compounds in the laboratory for their effect on the stimulation of hair growth, and they found the compounds of grape seed extract grew hair at a greater rate than the pharmaceutical preparation Minixodil. With further testing, using variations of the polyphenols, they discovered those found in apple skin polyphenols to be even more effective, nearly twice effective as Rogaine. Further, with the addition of Forskolin, another herbal extract, the effect was even greater. Exciting news! The interesting thing is that these compounds actually stimulated the hair follicles to become active, whereas it seems Rogaine works by lowering blood pressure in the scalp, thereby increasing blood flow to the follicles. And these compounds did not produce an initial ‘shedding’ as Rogaine has been known to do.

Ok, before we get to the good stuff – like how to create your own hair regrowth program, let’s look at one more class of natural products – essential oils. Essential oils are powerful, aromatic compounds distilled from plants, with highly regarded medicinal properties, well beyond the effects of only their aromas. Rosemary essential oil has long been considered a ‘hair tonic’, more than likely because of it’s ability to stimulate blood flow locally. A certain type of rosemary, known as rosemary verbenone, also contains compounds which influence skin regeneration. Recall the addition of Retin-A to the use of Rogaine? This was to stimulate the turnover of the skin, increasing the pace of the hair regrowth process. Other essential oils, such as Lavender, have an anti-inflammatory (inflammation is sometimes implicated in hair loss) and skin regenerating effects. Thyme and Cedarwood oils have also been studied, and the combination of these oils has been shown effective at hair growth stimulation in patients with alopecia areata.

Given all this wonderful information, how does one combine them into an effective regimen? The best thing to do is keep it simple – the more simple it is, the more likely it is you’ll stay with it for the several months it will take to see significant effects. So, for the systemic DHT suppression and inhibition, look at formulas either designed specifically for hair, or those for the support of the Prostate gland – they will contain almost the exact same ingredients. Look for a high-quality supplement, with standardized Saw Palmetto extract, Nettle Root extract, and Pygeum extract. Do not take the un-extracted herbs, they will not likely be strong enough in doses you are willing to consume. Saw Palmetto can be consumed in doses between 160 and 320mg daily, Nettle Root a bit more, and Pygeum significantly less. They should be in a gel cap, preferably in Pumpkin seed oil. Take a separate Beta Sitosterol supplement, around 400mg daily, if it is not included already. This is typically found in dry capsules, and there have not been reports of the importance of consuming this in an oil-based capsule, though you can take it with fatty food if you want to be sure (this may help the absorption). Add an oral supplement of Green Tea extract, Grape Seed extract, or Apple Polyphenol extract if you like, along with a good multivitamin.

Now for the topical applications – the polyphenols can be mixed in water. Even better would be to find Nettle Root, grind it up and make a strong tea. To this, create a 1-3% solution by weight of the polyphenols in the liquid and apply twice daily (shake really well or use a blender). Grape seed extract is acceptable, though apple polyphenols would be best. They are hard to come by just yet, but are becoming more popular and available. A bulk supply is best, so you don’t have to go opening capsules! A .5-1% addition of Forskolin herb extract can be made io increase effectiveness, but is not completely necessary. Applying right after a shower may make it easier to distribute the liquid on the scalp, and may also increase absorption. It is important to note that increasing the concentration beyond 1% for Grapeseed extract and 3% for Apple polyphenols extract is not advised – higher concentrations did not show increased efficacy – in fact, there may be an opposite effect. For the record, there are about 30 grams of water in one ounce; 1 gram of powder in this is just over a 3% solution. Finally, to this solution, a small amount of the Saw Palmetto blend from a ge lcap can be added – though the efficacy of this has not been noted in the literature.

For the essential oils, use 1ml of each oil per one once of carrier oil (a blend of jojoba and grapeseed was used in the study showing hair regrowth in Scottland). Because this is isn’t as attractive once applied, though you will smell nice, apply in the evening, before bed, between once a day and once every three days. Or apply during the day some time, massaging into the scalp, and leaving in for 20 minutes to an hour, then wash out. This will give enough time for the oils to penetrate the skin and have their effect.

So there it is, the roundup of the more well-known and tested natural remedies for male pattern baldness. While Rogaine for growth stimulation, and Finasteride or Dutasteride for DHT inhibition are completely reasonable ways to go, their costs are high and the effects of their long term use are not well known. And then there are some folks that would prefer to stay away from chemically manufactured medicines altogether – hopefully this bit of information will help. There is much more research available on the internet, though hopefully this is enough information to get you confidently started.

How To Get Rid Of A Migraine

Migraine is one of the most common types of headaches often described as sharp, “pounding” and throbbing pain on one or both sides of the head that may be associated with bright spots of light, blurred vision, blind spots or other visual hallucinations.

The exact causes of migraines are not fully understood yet, however, it is known that migraine involves changes in chemicals (drop of levels of serotonin) and blood vessels in the brain. Another cause of migraine can be hormone imbalance. For example, about 70% of women, who suffer from migraine headaches get them during or right after menstrual period.

If you want to learn how to get rid of a migraine, you will have to what triggers them.

Migraine attacks may be triggered by stress, bright light, loud noises, smells (paint, strong perfume, fumes from car heaters), too much or too little exercise, smoking, alcohol, illegal drugs and certain foods such as chocolate, coffee, tea, cheese, meats containing nitrates (salami, bacon, hot dogs), citrus fruits. Sometimes just by eliminating things that may trigger your headaches you can noticeably decrease the frequency of migraines.

The best approach to get rid of migraines is “preventive”. It means that while taking over-the-counter or prescribed medications during migraine attacks may be helpful to eliminate the symptoms and temporally reduce pain, they are not effective in curing the causes of migraine. Besides many pain-killers and prescribes drugs have some serious side-effects like sleep disturbance, memory problems, dizziness, sexual performance problems and fatigue.

Safer and more effective non-drug treatments include:

o Acupuncture and acupressure – two very similar therapies that help to treat the underlying causes of migraine.

o Hypnosis can be beneficial in reducing pain and identifying the triggers of migraine.

o Relaxation therapy like yoga, meditation helps to calm down the mind, promote muscle relaxation and increase a feeling of well-being.

o Massage helps to decrease muscle tension and improve blood circulation.

o Hot and cold showers reduce pain during migraine attacks.

o Aromatherapy. As certain smells can trigger the migraine, there are some smells that help to prevent or decrease it. For example, lavender, rosemary, chamomile and peppermint oil can be used during massage, added to a hot bath or simply used for inhalation to decrease worry, pain and lethargy.

o Herbal remedies. Feverfew, if taken regularly for a few weeks, is proven to prevent blood cloth and relief migraines. Other herbs that have been used for centuries for treating migraines are ginger, kava kava, St. John’s wort, chamomile and fennel.

o Right diet. Avoiding foods that may trigger migraines and incorporating more fresh fruit, vegetables and grains into the daily ration decreases your chances of getting a migraine attack. It is also important not to skip meals as well as avoid overeating.

Living with frequent migraine headaches can be frustrating. Good news is that you don’t have to put up with headaches any longer. Take a conscious action to eliminate migraine permanently from your life. It if not as hard as it seems!

Wedding DJ Tips and Advice

Of course, every wedding reception is different in location, duration and requirements. The following have been compiled from my wedding DJ service experiences, so if you are considering undertaking Wedding DJ entertainment, here are a few brief pointers to consider.

Pre-event planning

Although there is never a guarantee that everything will run according to plan and time on the day, pre-event planning is essential to help you deliver your service the way you intend – to be successful and memorable.

Pre-visit the venue

Where practical, make arrangements with the function manager and visit where the reception is going to be held (where you will be performing).

You’ll need to know everything from who to report to, the permitted parking area, specific loading areas and access times, even bar closing times on the night! The function manager will likely indicate all out-of-bound areas including exterior areas, but don’t be afraid to ask if they don’t mention, especially areas such as verges and paths which may be unsuitable for vehicles or loaded trolley’s.

It’s also worth enquiring if there is an area where your disco equipment can be stored while you wait for the room to be vacated and prepared for the reception, and may help reduce setting up time if close-by to where you are operating.

You’ll need to know where the electrical power sockets are located and if they are connected to any limiters. Also, it is worth discussing how the room lighting will be on night.

Make a note of the ceiling height and how low the fittings are, especially if the Bride intends to throw her wedding bouquet!

You’ll probably want to freshen up before performing so if an area has not been mentioned or designated, don’t hesitate to enquire where you can get changed after setting up your disco equipment on the day.

Pre-visit your client!

Having a meeting with your clients is essential. It not only allows you to build a good rapport, but also reassures your clients that you confidently know what you are doing.

Discuss at length the program timings of the day including the meal, speeches and buffet, as well as disco entertainment start and end timings, and whether features of the program include ‘cutting of the cake’ and traditional ‘throwing of the bouquet’!

You’ll need to know whether the Bride and Groom intend to retire from the celebrations early or stay to the end. Also, how do the Bride and Groom intend to bring closure to the reception, and what will be their choice of music.

For a more personalised approach to a reception, it’s a good idea to know the names of the key guests attending.

Of course, the essential thing to discuss is the music, from the choice of background music that the wedding party is greeted with when you start, to specific tracks they have chosen! You’ll be able to confirm the Bride and Grooms first dance track (version), whether they require parent dances and particular music, along with any specific requests for music to be played throughout.

You may wish to suggest that the Bride and Groom might like to choose music dedications for the wedding party to ‘take to the dance floor’ which helps encourage people to the dance floor later on!

Another thing to discuss is whether the Bride and Groom are happy for their guests to ask you for requests on the night. At some wedding functions, there may be guests celebrating anniversaries or birthdays. It’s worth noting if there are any sensitive songs that would be inappropriate to be played during the reception.

Because the timings on the day can run over, I’ll inform that I’ll discuss on night to gauge the best time for their first dance, making notes of any changes to the program as required. If there are planned dances for wedding guests then I’ll also need to discuss with them the order of dances – a few minutes is all that is usually required to be set aside for this.

I usually contact the clients again the week before the function just to reassure and address any changes to the program and music plan as required.

Prepare for the big day

One of the best tips I was ever given was don’t leave everything to the last minute. Make sure you have everything ready before the day, and not on the day.

Ensure that any paperwork that the venue requires is forwarded well in advance of the function date and confirm this with the function manager when you pre-visit.

There is no excuse to be turned away from a venue at the eleventh hour because the Public Liability Cover certificate was left at home! The reputation of your service will most certainly take more than a nose dive, so a little preparation goes a long, long way.

Arriving on the BIG day!

I usually allow plenty of time to get to the venue because of potential traffic hold ups! Upon arrival, my first task is to inform the function manager that I’m on site. He or she will then indicate what stage they are at in the proceedings and if the program is running to time. Usually, it is running a little later than planned!

Unless I’m setting up the disco in a room away from where the wedding party is eating, hopefully, there will be a designated area nearby for me to proceed unloading to and temporarily store the disco gear.

Out of etiquette, I like to inform the Bride and Groom that their Wedding DJ is on site. Naturally, there are stages during the proceedings which will determine when I can personally inform the Bride and Groom that I’ve arrived.

If everyone is still eating, I’ll consider informing them discretely between courses.

Once the meal and speeches are over and the room is vacated, I can commence moving the disco gear. With everything in place and operational including room lighting adjustments, I’ll discretely make my checks keeping sound levels to an absolute minimum. Once satisfied, I’ll go and freshen up and get changed and then inform the function manager that I’m ready.

The Reception

Although early on, I’ll gauge the level of background music to the number of guests entering the room so it’s not too loud and not to quiet. If you intend to offer a more personalised approach then its an idea not to ‘hide’ behind the gear but take the opportunity to greet the guests as they enter the room.

Once the wedding party have entered the function room, I’ll ask the Bride and Groom to inform when they will be ready for their first dance, and which group of people I need to speak to (to discuss the subsequent dance order) if applicable.

Once everyone in the party knows when they will be dancing (and with whom), as soon as the Bride and Groom are ready, I’ll lower the background music, make my introductions, welcome the Bride and Groom to the dance floor and introduce their first dance.

Any planned wedding party dances will follow the first dance which will then allow you to settle into building a party atmosphere.

HOWEVER! Of course there’s no hard rule on which music you should play early on, but it might be a bit disheartening should you choose to play all top tracks before the buffet! Sure, it’s a balancing act but the general consensus with functions is that the disco usually gets really going AFTER the buffet is served.


Whether closing the night with specially chosen tracks from the Bride and Groom, or encouraging the wedding guests to get-up and form a traditional circle or arch, you’ll need to allow yourself enough time so that the finish is ON TIME! So when working towards the finishing time, double check with the function manager on the bar closure as this is crucial if it has been agreed with the Bride and Groom for a grand finale, and a clash of times could be a disaster!

Ensure that the Bride and Groom has a rousing send off and you’ve successfully completed your wedding reception entertainment.

Best Treatment For Vaginal Dryness and Low Libido in Women

Low libido in women can stem form a variety of causes and factors. Such factors can vary from physical or emotional issues. Vaginal dryness is largely a result of a drop in the production of female sex hormone estrogen. avast majority of women experience vaginal dryness post menopause. What is certain is that it is likely to make intercourse highly painful. Not only this, it also makes women avoid sex and this could affect your relationship seriously.

Best Treatment for Low Libido and Vaginal Dryness

There are many herbs that have been used to treat sexual deficiency in both men and women since ancient times. Thankfully, there are some supplements specially formulated for women that can help women enjoy more enjoyable and satisfying sex without worrying about problems such as low sex drive or vaginal dryness.

Such natural or herbal supplements combine a variety of age proven herbs, nutrients, vitamins and minerals to give a boost to your sexual and reproductive system.

Such supplements not only increase blood flow to the genitals but also support your body’s hormonal system system to encourage natural lubrication.

Some of the ingredients used in such supplements include:

  • ginkgo biloba
  • epimedium sagittatum
  • tribulus terrestris
  • black cohosh
  • ginger root
  • licorice root
  • damiana
  • red raspberry
  • ginseng
  • melatonin
  • DHEA etc.,

Such herbs are extremely effective in increasing blood circulation to the genitals. Ginseng and ginkgo biloba are particularly good for enhancing blood flow to the genitals. Increased blood flow ensures engorgement of the clitoris and can help you achieve climax soon after foreplay.

Not only this, herbs such as horny goat weed or epimedium sagittatum and ginkgo help increase nitric oxide production. Nitric oxide acts as a catalyst in increasing blood circulation by making the blood vessels expand.

Besides this, certain herbs can help increase the production on estrogen and help relieve vaginal dryness. Red raspberry and damiana are particularly good from this point of view. Damiana also help relieve hot flashes and menopause symptoms.

Top of the line supplements not only cure menopause dryness and boost sex drive in women but are also free of side effects. Some of the best ones have been featured on the FOX NEWS.

Besides such supplements, there are some lubricants or gels that can also be highly effective. Such gels work instantly on application and not only boost your sexual appetite but also provide a slippery and velvety touch so that you can experience sensations that you would have never imagined.

So, if you Want to Boost Your Libido and Overcome Vaginal Dryness, check out the Best Female Libido Enhancers that can Spice up your Sex Life Once Again!

The Theory Behind Massage Therapy

Massage therapy is the practice of manipulating the soft tissues and muscles. Its goal is to provide the receiver with physical and psychological benefits. By manipulating the soft tissue and muscles with a series of orchestrated movements, massage is thought to result in relaxation and pain relief. Massage has been practiced in most cultures and since the beginning of recorded time.

The literal meaning of massage is friction of kneading. Kneading is one of the more famous movements. It is performed by making a side to side squeezing action. This is similar to the kneading action for making bread dough.

The use of massage can be found in the writings of many ancient civilizations. There are references in Chinese medical books and even references to massage in the Bible. There were references to the ancient Romans using it to treat some forms of illnesses.

Clearly, massage therapy has been used throughout the world to help restore health to the body. Many of these civilizations develop very distinct types of massage techniques. Each technique brings about slightly different benefits.

Some of the more famous techniques are Swedish massage, shiatsu, reflexology, acupressure and many more. Many of these techniques can now easily be found being offered in most spots around the world. They are also being integrated into massage chairs.

The practice of massage is about applying direct pressure to certain points in the body. When this is done correctly, it will bring relief to those areas. In scanning the techniques offered by massage therapy schools, there are approximately 200 variations of massage technique. These are constantly evolving and subject to interpretation by the therapist.

A new study was published in September 2004 that used a need for analysis of peer reviewed scientific journals using massage therapy and the adult population. The conclusion of the study is that massage therapy provides a wide range of physical and psychological benefits.

This study monitored the blood pressure, heart rate, negative mood, anxiety state and the immediate assessment of pain levels. The patients were given a single massage treatment once a week. According to the research, the average participant experienced a reduction and anxiety was greater than 64% over the control group.

The study also showed that it was effective in reducing blood pressure and heart rate. As results of this study, researchers theorize that massage may provide a benefit that parallels a model of psychotherapy. However, researchers do not believe that the benefits derived from massage are slowly psychological.

Another study conducted in May 2004 and published by the national Center for complementary and alternative medicine showed that massage was the ninth most popular form of alternative medicine. It also showed that 5% of the adult population used therapy at least once in the past 12 months. The popularity of massage treatments continues to rise.

So far, there have been very few studies the benefits of massage. The main problem with connecting clinical studies is the cost involved. Most companies have little incentive to fund massage therapy studies as there is no way to control the methods in order to profit. This is perhaps the biggest hurdle to getting thorough studies conducted. Unfortunately, most clinical studies are driven by the profit motive. These procedures need to be protected by intellectual property or there is little incentive to fund them.

Make Your Penis Larger – Healthy Growing Penis Food Diet

Many natural exercises and various techniques are available aimed to improve the size of the penis, but what about on the food that you eat?

Unfortunately, there are no known diets that can help directly make your penis larger, indirectly there are. When you view the penis in a biological way, you’ll learn that blood circulation and neuron transmission are the two basic things behind an erection. Blood circulation, in particular, is what causes the penis to gradually increase in size. Most physical penis exercises rely on this principle too.

Although there are no specific foods that can make your penis larger, there is, however, various foods that can help support the basic foundation of appreciating the size of your penis – through blood circulation. Here’s how:

1 Nitric Oxide Intake

One specific nutrition that can help improve the blood circulation in your penis is by increasing your nitric oxide intake. Nitric oxide is an essential chemical that is naturally produced by Acginin in the body. One of its key functions is dilating all the blood vessels inside the body. This includes the blood that is circulated in the penis during an erection.

2 Eating Salmon

Salmon fish is an excellent penile-enlargement food. Salmon is rich in omega-3 fatty acids which helps the blood become more consistent and less stick. It also enhances the blood circulation in the penis. Other foods that are good to eat include mackerel, tuna, which are also effective food diets for penile enhancement.

3 Oysters

Oysters are widely known for their sexual enhancing reputation. Many scientists even consider it as a raw gem. Oysters are rich in B6 and Zinc minerals, which are both crucial in raising the testosterone. If you dislike eating oysters, a good alternative to it is by eating different kinds of nuts and seeds.

3 Day Diet – Lose Weight Fast For a Special Occasion

Want to lose weight fast? A 3 day diet is perfect if you need to lose weight for a special occasion, like a wedding, or a graduation, or even a job interview. Depending on how much you weigh now, you can lose five to seven pounds.

This weight loss can help you to look great on your special day because your clothes fit well. A 3 day diet can also motivate you to keep on losing weight. However, be aware that you should never stay on one of these diets for longer than three days — they can harm your health.

Aim to eat around 1000 calories a day for the three days — if you don’t have a calorie counter, get one before you start.

Big tip: go on this diet during the work week. You’ll be busy, and won’t have time to spend thinking about food.

Low Calorie Breakfasts

Don’t try to cut calories by going without breakfast. You’ll feel very hungry by mid-morning, and may break your diet. Here are some easy breakfast ideas: a hard boiled egg with a slice of toast; two slices of toast with honey; three tablespoons of oats cooked with skim milk; or a small tub of yogurt.

Low Calorie Lunches

For your lunches, consider any protein plus a small salad, and a piece of fruit. Your protein options: a slice of beef, chicken or turkey, or a small single-serve tin of tuna. Cheese is also an option.

Low Calorie Dinners

Follow the “protein plus vegetables” theme for dinner. Ensure that you broil or roast meat, rather than frying it. Fill your plate with vegetables, and you won’t be hungry at all.

If you’re in doubt about the calorie count of a meal, look it up in your calorie counter.

Low Calories Snacks

Fruit needs to be your first choice when it comes to snacks. You can chop up apple and other fruits for a quick fruit salad to take with you to work.

Once your 3 day diet is over, go back to eating a normal diet. If you stay on a very low calorie diet for too long, your metabolism will slow, which means that you’ll put on weight very easily.

Can You Get Memory Loss From Carbon Monoxide Poisoning?

Carbon monoxide (CO) is an odorless and colorless gas that is poisonous when inhaled. Incomplete combustion produces the gas, and there are a lot of situations where you could be exposed to it in your own home. For instance, inefficient gas stoves, fireplaces, heaters, and other gas appliances can give off carbon monoxide without you noticing it. Also, car engines that are left to warm in the garage and emitting invisible fumes could put you at risk of gas poisoning.

Carbon monoxide poisoning is actually very common. Some people may not realize it, but they may have been exposed to the gas at one point or another. The danger posed by carbon monoxide varies in severity depending on how long a person has been exposed and the amount of the gas inhaled. In worst cases, it could lead to death.

Can you get memory loss from carbon monoxide poisoning? Yes, memory loss is one commonly observed effect of exposure to the gas. In fact, any degree of carbon monoxide poisoning may cause damage to the brain. Particularly susceptible is the region called the hippocampus, which is responsible for transferring new information to the part of the brain that stores long-term memory.

This is what happens, to be more specific. Carbon monoxide attaches to hemoglobin in the blood, which is responsible for bringing oxygen to the brain. Oxygen is displaced by the carbon monoxide, causing anoxia – the condition when the body and, most importantly, the brain are starved of oxygen. Getting fresh air to replenish on oxygen is therefore the best first aid you can do after carbon monoxide exposure.

Carbon monoxide also kills brain cells and neurons, as it causes a chemical reaction in the cells that can set off continuous damage even long after exposure. Such atrophy can be observed using MRI scans of the brain.

So, can you get memory loss from carbon monoxide poisoning? Yes, in fact, about a quarter to half of carbon monoxide victims have shown cognitive impairments, including memory loss such as that classified as anterograde amnesia or short-term memory loss. It is when the person is no longer able to store new memories, and therefore find it very difficult to remember new acquaintances or to learn new things.

The amount of physical damage to the brain’s hippocampus seems to directly correspond with the degree of memory loss or impairment. While long-term memory is less often impacted, memory loss caused by carbon monoxide exposure may affect the victim’s day to day activities and can last throughout the person’s life. Some even lose their ability to do regular things on their own because of seriously unreliable memory.

Because this kind of gas cannot be detected by the senses, getting a carbon monoxide detector is a good way to monitor its levels inside your home. It is also relatively hard to recognize carbon monoxide poisoning based on its symptoms, and you may actually mistake it for the flu. Symptoms to watch out for, though, include headaches, dizziness, nausea, and feeling lethargic.

7 Benefits of the Doctor and Clinic Management System Software

A cloud-based clinic management system addresses your hospital management related woes. It brings simplicity to the patient appointments, their treatment, medical billing and payments and services that take care of other requirements of the hospital.

Advantages of a Cloud Compliant Software

A software that leverages the cloud technologies in full, offers flexibility, cost saving, fast service, ease of accessibility and sustainability.


Even small hospitals can harness the power of this type of software. As the business grows, the software automatically scales itself to the hospital’s increasing needs without the user having to provide for it. The software is easy use, at its fullest, right from the first day.

Cost Saving

Choosing to use clinic management software located on the cloud platform is cost effective for the hospitals. It is an attractive choice for the small as well as big hospital setups.

It requires no expenditure on hardware, equipments and trained IT staff. These are the resources that a hospital, supporting an in-house IT setup must utilize. They are costly.

This highly optimized software is maintained, updated and configured in the cloud by the skilled IT experts. The users are, thus, spared from the burden. It leads to cost saving. Unhindered, the hospital staff stays focused on the core functions of the hospital.

Harness it From Anywhere at Anytime

The hospital administrator acts as the super-user of the software. He or she, then, grant access permissions to the others. The managers, doctors and others can then access the necessary data stored in the cloud, from anywhere at anytime.

They can use smartphones, tablets, phablets, laptops, notebooks and desktops over the internet for the purpose.

Fast Service

This software gives fast, easy and simple solutions for the hospitals in managing their day-to-day activities. It helps in streamlining patient management, inventory management, employees’ and doctors’ attendance, online report generation and other tasks.


For hospitals using this software, it is easy to recover from an on-site disaster. Their data is stored in the cloud, where it remains safe. It is repeatedly backed up. They need to simply access it to get their system online.

Features of the Cloud Based Clinic Management System

1. Patient management: Maintains records of the patients that include personal details, visits to the hospitals, allergy related data, medication, etc.

2. Appointments and schedule management: Determines the availability of the doctors before scheduling appointments. Uses powerful search engine to set up an appointment for the patient. The software assists the staff in knowing the availability of the beds for the patient’s hospital stay.

3. Alerts: Sends alerts and reminders using SMSs and Emails. It notifies the patients about the future appointments and vaccination schedules.

4. Purchase and inventory management: Keeps track of the drugs, equipments, instruments and other hospital items in the stock. Generate expiry alerts for the drugs in stock. Assists in creating a purchase list.

5. Records: Stores all the electronic medical records of the patients and the data related to the hospital, in a central place. It is available to the authorized persons from anywhere, at any time. Doctors can use the patient data to conduct medical research.

6. Payment Processing: Assists the hospital’s accounting department in, accurate medical billing to the patient. Provides connectivity to the top accounting software and eases the tasks of accountants.

7. Lead Generation: It assists the business managers employed by the hospitals in lead generation and tracking.

It is easy to start using a cloud-based clinic management system software. It needs no installation and one can access and start using it over the internet, in a jiffy.

Top Reasons To Visit An Optometrist

According to Optometrists in Parker, Co, there are a number of reasons people visit an optometrist, as opposed to an ophthalmologist.

An optometrist is an eye specialist who provides primary eye care services of the following nature:

* They examine the eye for retinal diseases and other diseases like glaucoma and cataracts. In certain parts of the world, optometrists even treat these diseases

* They diagnose certain body conditions that ultimately affect the eye including hypertension or diabetes

* They diagnose and treat visual conditions like astigmatism, nearsightedness, farsightedness and presbyopia.

* They detect and correct vision problems through the prescription of glasses and contact lenses. They may also offer rehabilitation of vision problems through medication and minor surgical procedures.

An Ophthalmologist is an MD for the eye and is trained to provide full eye care and has the training to carry out delicate and complicated eye surgery. On the other hand, an optometrist completes and O.D (Doctor of Optometry) and is equipped to treat problems with vision and undertake minor surgeries.

According to expert optometrists in Parker Co, it is time to visit an optometrist, when:

* A patient requires basic eye exams, regardless of their age

* A patient requires their contact lenses or eyeglasses examined

* When young children require pediatric eye exams in Parker, Co

* When patients require specialty contact lens fittings like bifocals, high-astigmatism lenses, lens that is worn after surgery and so on

In addition to this, Optometrists also help when patients require highly specialized eyewear for different reasons. For instance:

* Parents often require a large selection of children’s eyewear when selecting glasses or lenses for them. An Optometrist will help.

* Often, people require special designer eyewear that is usually not found anywhere else. In this day and age where perceptions matter more than anything else, it pays to go to an optometrist.

* Specialized sportswear is another reason to visit the optometrist. Specialized sports goggles like ski goggles are provided by optometrists.

There are many reasons people like to go to an optometrists for their vision problems. Optometrists are not so much into eye care as they are into vision care. Therefore, they use state of the art detection systems and eye exams to diagnose the minutest of problems. They are also equipped to deal with these problems in the best possible manner. They can provide a wide variety of solutions for their patients.

When selecting an optometrist, it is important to choose a reputed specialist in the area. The optometrist must have a reputation for accurate eye exams. They must also provide the best solutions in a time bound manner.

Why Fucose?

Haven’t heard of fucose? Think it’s the latest teen dance craze? Think again, because fucose could make a huge difference in your quality of life.

Fucose is a rare sugar, one of the eight known bioactive sugars essential for proper cell to cell communication. Found in many plants, marine algae is purported to be one of the best sources of fucose and has long been used by naturopathic physicians to support immune function in patients. Those concerned with optimal health should have a basic understanding of the role fucose plays in our bodies.

Fucose molecules are found throughout the body and are involved in many functions. For example, fucose is found in the photoreceptor layer of the retina of the eye. Fucose is also found in the skin, brain cells, and kidneys. Fucose is also excreted in breast milk and may play a part in the transfer of immunity to the newborn. In addition, fucose has an active role in the immune system and in red blood cell function.

According to research, fucose is important in regulation of the immune system, which may affect the activity of inflammatory diseases in the body. Fucose has also been found to inhibit the ability of bacteria to adhere to cells, without which infection cannot occur. In addition, research has also shown fucose to inhibit the growth and spread of cancer cells.

Still think fucose is new to you? One abundant source of the marine algae which fucose is derived from is seaweed. Even if you are not a fan of Asian foods, you have likely consumed some seaweed today in the form of carrageenan, agar or other algae derivatives. Check the labels of some of your favorite foods and you’ll find seaweed in cheese, instant puddings, chocolate milk, mayonnaise, ice cream and sherbet, for example. Unfortunately for you, commercially processed seaweed products do not contain active fucose.

Because of the role fucose plays in the body, and especially the immune system, does it not make sense to support the body with supplementation? It is well known that depleted soils, food storage techniques and manufacturing methods all adversely affect the levels of nutrients available to us in our modern diets. It is doubtful anyone can obtain enough of this valuable glyconutrient through food alone.

But there is a very good, accessible source of fucose available today. The brown seaweed Undaria pinnatifida, considered to be essential for long term health in Japan, is an excellent source of the fucose sugar. However, anyone considering using brown seaweed should be sure of its source due to the increasing pollution of the world’s oceans by toxic chemicals and other contaminants. Nonetheless, there are safe brown seaweed products available.

Fucose is a rare sugar not commonly consumed in most people’s diets, at least not to a level that is beneficial to the body. A better understanding of fucose and the important, complex role it plays in our health should lead to a careful consideration of supplementation.

Your Sexual Health – Do You Know How Sexual Abstinence Harms Your Health and Happiness?

Doctors tell us that sexual abstinence can harm the physical and psychic health of men and women. Find out how you can reverse the harmful side effects of abstinence with or without a sexual partner.

How can sexual abstinence harm your health?

You may be grieving the loss of your romantic partner or a loss of sexual intimacy in a relationship, and the process of grieving takes a huge toll on your health. When your thoughts turn to loss and dis-ease, you lose the health benefits of feeling love and gratitude — our two healing emotions.

You may feel content on your own without a sexual partner, yet the lack of sexual activity takes its health toll.

Men and women who abstain from sex for long periods can develop problems with sexual function.

Men may experience issues concerning erection and ejaculation. Testosterone levels may fall and reduce desire.

Women may suffer a loss of arousal, vaginal lubrication and an inability to climax. Estrogen levels may fall and bad cholesterol may rise.

Fortunately, these conditions may reverse and return to normal after you resume sexual activity.

Men and women who abstain from sex miss out on these health benefits of sexual activity:

– ease in handling stress

– speedy cell repair and regeneration

– increased intimacy hormones that elevate mood

– greater blood flow to brain that improves memory

– stronger immune system and less fatigue or illness

– younger skin and less body fat from human growth hormone produced during sex

– extended longevity

If you don’t have a sexual partner, is there another way to gain these health benefits?

Researchers report that our sexual health must be maintained by a regular and active sex life.

If you don’t have a sexual partner, there are several ways to avoid or reverse the side effects of sexual abstinence:

* Substitute sex with masturbation

– Men often masturbate, even when their sex life is in order.

– Many women do not masturbate, even when deprived of sex.

– Some religions view it as sinful, unacceptable behavior.

– Sexual researchers report that masturbation is one way to maintain sexual and psychic health. Here is another:

* Use sex toys

– They are used by adults who cannot make love with a beloved partner, yet they don’t want to sleep around.

– There are vibrators, realistic dolls, dildos that are safe tools for sexual release.

– Unlike casual sex with a partner, the sex toys cannot expose you to STDs.

– They stimulate the health benefits of an active sex life.

* Develop sexual intimacy in a relationship

– Improve your existing relationship so that you revive the spark of sexual fire for an active, healthy sex life.

– Find a compatible match for a loving, passionate relationship through matchmaking services or online dating sites.

– Health studies confirm that you will age better and sustain healthy vitality when you enjoy an active sex life.

Treatment of Bent Penis Due to Over Masturbation

Minor bend in penis is found in 4% of males above the age of 40 years but it can happen to young people too and particularly to those who are engaged in over masturbation however treatment of such problem is possible. Bend in penis makes penetration very difficult and in some cases almost impossible, this situation can be very disheartening and depressing. Some people by birth, due to injury, disease or over masturbation can damage the scar tissue of the male organ to create a bend towards left, right or down, this bend is evident when male organ is erect. Peyronie’s disease, urethral strictures and hypospadias are few other medical conditions which are known for promoting such problem. Minor bend is not harmful but it may cause some pain during penetration and if bend is more than it can create lot of problems in the act.

Masturbation has been practiced by both men and women since ancient times and is considered as safe alternate way of satisfying sexual desires. However over doing it may give rise to some physical and mental disorders which may restrict a person from deriving real and complete pleasure from the actual act. Bend in male organ is also an outcome of excessive hand practice in men as lots of people who visit a doctor for the treatment of this problem have been indulged in the habit of excessive hand practice. Generally masturbation is safe and even helpful, but over doing it can cause damage to the delicate tissues of the male organ which may lead to a curve in the organ.

Generally people who are in habit of masturbating more than 3 times a week may develop problem of curvature. Hand practice more than normal cause abrasions and bruises to the upper skin as well as the inner tissue of the organ, which may even swell, repeated hand practice can damage the tissues which can cause the curve when the organ is erect. People adopt few techniques of masturbation which are actually abusive to the male organ like brushing or pressing against hard surfaces, bending and rubbing it while wearing tight underwear. These practices are more responsible for causing curvature then normal hand practice.

Feeling of pain during penetration or when erect are symptoms of curvature and earlier treatment and precautions can correct the problem very soon. Mast Mood oil has been used to cure various disorders related to sexual behavior including abnormal bend in the male organ. It promotes blood flow and also acts as curative remedy to provide treatment to the injuries and inflammation caused by excessive hand practice. Booster capsule is another herbal supplement extremely helpful in treating the problem of bend in penis due to over masturbation or any other issue. This supplement is renowned for promoting healthy sexual behavior. Ashwagandha or withania somnifera is also called as Indian ginseng due to its curative and strengthening properties; it relaxes muscles, improves blood flow and strengthens sexual organs to cure various disorders and problems.

Steps and Tips on Implementing ITIL Problem Management

ITIL defines an “Incident” as any unplanned interruption to an IT service or reduction in the quality of an IT service and ITIL defines a “Problem” as the cause of one or more of those incidents. The primary objectives of taking on Problem Management are to prevent problems and resulting incidents from happening, to eliminate recurring incidents and to minimize the impact of incidents that cannot be prevented. Problem Management is dependent on a mature Incident Management process.

Although it is possible to start early with Problem Management, this process is highly integrated with Incident Management. So, it is best to implement Problem Management after you have implemented Incident Management. You will require incident data, impact, frequency and incident trends to help identify relevant and worthwhile Problems to work on eventually.

It is often possible to start with Problem Management activities, without having a formally defined Problem Management process. Rather than getting bogged down with the activities related to process design, implementation of supporting tools and documentation at the start of the project, consider going for quick wins. You could start with actions like the following:

* Identify the top 5 to 10 incidents

* If needed, provide guidance to incident management/service desk on how to record – incidents

* Find some problems and solve them!

A key activity in Problem Management is to look for the root cause of one or more incidents and recommend a permanent fix. Choosing the right people for the job is crucial. Analytical people with the right technology background are best given such roles. This need not be a permanent role. If fact, most organisation do not assign someone to be “THE Problem Manager”. Problem managers are best identified and assigned based on the problem(s) at hand. Sometimes, a task force could be appointed, instead of a single person. Besides technical skills, the assigned Problem Manager(s) would preferably have problem-solving skills and experience with techniques like Kepner Tregoe, Pain-Value Analysis and using of Ishikawa diagrams to perform fault isolation and problem solving.

At some stage, the process would need to be designed, documented and formally rollout throughout the organisation. IT Infrastructure Library (ITIL) would provide an excellent framework and guidance for defining the process activities and steps. Roles and Responsibility for Problem Management needs to be formally defined and a process owner needs to be assigned for this process. The responsibility of the process owner would be to ensure that the process is documented, role and responsibilities are clear and well communicated, people are using the process and there is focus on continual improvement to the process. Reports and metrics have to be defined. Examples include:

* Number of Problems and Known Errors in a period by status, service or category.

* Percentage of Problems which have been solved per category and period.

* Average time taken to find root cause per category.

* Average resolution time of Problems and Known Errors per category.

* Effort invested in Problems pending resolution and expected effort required for closure per period (as measured by resolution time).

* Number of Problems that re-occur. Unlike Incident Management metrics like “percentage solved within target time”,

Problem Management metrics are typically not included explicitly in Service Level Agreements (SLAs).

Setting up a Known Error Database (KEDB) is another key activity. A Known Error is a Problem that has a documented root cause and workaround or solution. The KEDB maintains information about problems (i.e., isolation and resolution procedures) and the appropriate workarounds, scripts, references to patches, FAQs and resolutions. The KEDB or knowledge database must facilitate flexible retrieval of information, preferably by keyword search.

However, the KEDB may not add much value if the Incident Management process is too immature to efficiently use them. Many organizations have set up a KEDB system, without real success, due to the fact that the Incident Management or Service Desk staff was too immature to help capture information and use the system to aid in first-line diagnostics. So, setting up a KEDB system in itself is not enough. A knowledge management mindset and culture is needed as well. Incentives and metrics would have to be introduced to motivate the right behaviour in Incident and Problem management staff.

Implement a tool to support the creation and tracking of Problem and Known Error records should be considered.  Given the close dependency between the Incident and Problem Management, integration of incident and problem management workflow and data records in the tool is important. Most commercially available tools like BMC’s Remedy or HP’s Service Manager comes with separately purchasable but integrated modules for Incident Management, Problem Management, Change Management and a Configuration Management Database (CMDB) to store the system management records and also Configuration Item (CI) information.

Lastly, like any other ITIL processes, the Problem Management process should then go through the Plan-Do-Check-Act cycles and improved and refined over time.