Turning New Coaching Clients Down

When you’re building a coaching practice, it’s tempting to take on every new client who approaches you. As you get busier, it’s easier to be choosy about who you work with.

When we train, we’ve told about the importance of referring people on to specialists if we don’t feel qualified to deal with their particular situation. We’re often told that our coaching skills can be used with anyone in any situation. This can leave many new coaches with a dilemma – they really want to coach and to make a difference, but don’t always have the experience to make an informed judgement on whether they are the right coach for the client – or even if coaching is the right approach for them.

A lot of this is trial and error, but based on my own experiences here are some pointers:

1. Trust your instincts

If you feel completely out of your depth, you probably are. If people are talking in jargon you don’t understand, about goals you just can’t relate to or the client presents with serious personal or professional problems, put your hands up and recommend someone else who is better qualified. This is not a confidence issue – it is being realistic about your abilities and concentrating on coaching people who you are able to work with. All that positive thinking and saying “I can do this” when you’re clearly not qualified to work with them is a mistake.

2. How do you feel talking to them?

Do you feel physically and mentally drained just talking to them on the initial conversation? If you find your training on managing your own state isn’t working, this may be an indication that the client needs more specialist help. Trust me, if you take on a client that drains you right from the start, you’ll be flat when you coach the person after them. You need to be able to stay on tip-top form to do a good job for ALL your clients. Your body and mind will tell you if you’re the right coach for them and if they’re right for you.

3. Coach people who are a rung down from you

I’ve got nothing against coaching high-flyers and people who are set to achieve the things that are beyond your wildest dreams, but when you’re starting out, you are going to be at your most confident when coaching people who are younger and/or less experienced than you are. It’s also easier to be taken seriously by clients when they feel that they’re going to someone who knows what they’re talking about.

4. Ask the right questions

Find out what they’ve done to develop themselves already, if they’ve worked with a coach before, and what they already know about coaching. There’s a download in the members area of my coaching website (www.marketinghelpforcoaches.com) which gives you a checklist of questions to ask. These will help you to uncover whether they’re the right client for you.

5. Talk about terms right up front

You’ll probably have your terms of business sorted out already – you know, clients call you rather than you calling them, payment up front, and so on. If people flinch at your terms and ask you to change them or bend the rules for them, ask yourself why. If they only want to pay after the session, they may want to hold back money. If they aren’t prepared to show up on time or give you enough notice to move a session, are they going to be prepared to do what it takes to get the results they want?

6. Don’t Hard Sell, but do Persuade

If you’ve got to flog coaching to them and they really don’t want it, they’ll become a problem client. Yes, a miracle may happen and they have a ‘road to Damascus’ moment as the coaching progresses, but the chances are they won’t get that far because they’ll show up late, cancel appointments and not do their ‘homework’. If however, they are interested in coaching but something else is stopping them – having to speak to someone else, looking at their budgets, committing the time, then by all means do what you can to persuade them to take action on it without pressuring them.

7. Network with other coaches

Get to know what other people are good at. Swap sessions with other coaches to understand their style and their speciality. Network with consultants, counsellors, therapists and other allied professions so that you can talk with authority about the differences and recognise when to refer clients to people in your network. It also helps you because when they have a client that they aren’t qualified to deal with…but you are, they’ll return the favour.

How an Audio Driver Works: Simply Explained

Are the words hyper text mark-up language and World Wide Web already triggering a headache? Some people are not really that computer-savvy and smart when it comes to details regarding drivers, software, and hardware, especially those who belong to the earlier generations. But being a non-computer graduate doesn’t mean that one must be totally computer illiterate. Gaining knowledge about how the computer works, even just the basic ones, can save one the effort and money of giving the computer technician a call every time there is a problem.

Ever wondered how it works? Then today is the right time to know. Here’s a simple guide on how an audio driver works, explained in a very simple way, so that those who are not that familiar can still catch up with the world.

An audio driver is a kind of driver for sound devices. A driver is software or a program that enables the computer to communicate with its hardware or other external devices. It is somewhat a medium for a certain device to work.

It is just like in the human body, before the body can execute any action it must first be at the command of the brain. For example: if a person wants to jump, the brain must first send signals to the specific organ for jumping (leg muscles and skeletons) through the spinal cord that it wants to jump. Now, the spinal cord serves as the medium for the brain and the legs to communicate. When the leg receives the command from the brain through the spinal cord, it will then do the action. A driver works as easy as that.

It works by letting the sound card/audio card, a computer expansion card that serves as the facilitator of audio inputs and outputs to and from the computer, to communicate well with the speakers. If the audio driver is incompatible with the sound card or is outdated, then it’s more likely that the speakers will not function properly or it would create low quality sounds. Now that’s how an audio driver works. Simple, isn’t it?

That is why going for it is really a great investment. However, with the unending flow of driver downloads swarming the Internet, the chance that one would end up downloading the correct and the best audio driver is so slim. But don’t fret yet – because there is a solution to this problem.

One of the best and the easiest ways to find the best audio driver is to have the best driver software database program. In the plainest definition, a driver software database program is a program that will help a person find the most updated and compatible audio driver for his or her device. And yes, this will come a little handy because if one has installed the wrong driver, a device will not work properly. Finding a reliable website or program that will find one the best audio driver is indeed, heaven sent.

Lastly, installing a good audio driver is not enough. Getting it updated is equally important, too. Manufacturers update their drivers usually once a month, so don’t forget to check for driver updates from time to time.

Medicare Therapy Coverage For Lymphedema

Getting Medicare to recognize lymphedema therapy as essential medical expenditure has been a difficult task. Lymphedema patients have been long trying to get the benefit of Medicare for the expenses that they incur for the therapy that continues throughout their life. The Women’s Health and Cancer Rights Act states that complications arising due to breast cancer surgery, which includes lymphedema, must be covered by all insurance providers. However, this coverage does not extend to those who suffer from primary or secondary lymphedema. In February 2008, the compression garments considered an essential part of lymphedema therapy were classified as covered items for Medicare.

Lymphedema is a condition that has no medical cure, although it can be managed with therapy which is known as the Complete Decongestive Therapy or CDT. The process involves a lymphatic massage combined with the use of compression bandages and compression garments, a skin care routine and a regular exercise regimen. The most important aspect of the therapy is the manual lymph drainage (MLD) which aims at draining the stagnated lymph to reduce the swelling. Occasionally, the therapist might use the Sequential Gradient Pump to loosen fibrotic tissues before the massage. The therapist performing the lymphatic massage is a specialized professional trained in the technique. Therapy sessions in the early stages may be held frequently, at least five days a week. Those who do not have easy access to the lymphedema therapist may use a sequential gradient pump for the lymphatic drainage process.

Medicare covers the lymphedema pump therapy, but recently the coverage rules have been modified. Previously, although the pneumatic compression devices were included in coverage, the patient had to attempt all other methods of treatment first, a process that took many months. This has changed now. Compression devices have been included under durable medical expenses for both primary and secondary lymphedema. There is a four-week trial period which the doctor must observe. A course of medication, use of compression garments and elevation of the limb is followed by the patient and if no improvement is seen, the doctor prescribes a pneumatic pump. The doctor is required to give a Certificate of Medical Necessity to enable the patient to procure a lymphedema pump from a Medicare authorized supplier. The supplier of the pump must be enrolled with Medicare and possess the Medicare Supplier Number, or you will not be reimbursed the claim.

In case of compression garments, which can be a large recurring expense, lymphedema sufferers have had to deal with legislatures which prevented their inclusion in Medicare coverage lists. A positive judgment in February 2008 has come to the aid of lymphedema patients. Compression garments were classified as items meeting the standards for covered items. Items like compression bandages, compression sleeves and stockings were considered medically essential and would be covered as prosthetic devices under Medicare for lymphedema therapy. The lymphedema patients can take advantage of this edict and claim a compensation for these medically essential items that help them to manage the lymphedema.

History of the Suzuki T350 Motorcycle

The Suzuki T350 is a Japanese motorcycle that was first released in 1969. The original Suzuki T350 was powered by just a single cylinder piston two-stroke air-cooled 315 cc engine. This engine was fairly quick for its time allowing the bike to reach 0-60mph in just 6.2 seconds. Many bikers enjoy this model for both its hard-core bike style and its amazing 90mph high speed. Many models of the Suzuki T350 were released over a four year period until production stopped in 1973.

The first Suzuki T350 model released in 1969 was known as the Rebel. This Suzuki T350 model provided bikers with a fast single cylinder piston port two-stroke engine and it could easily reach 0-60 in a mere 6.2 seconds. Many people were surprised by the small fuel capacity (3.9 gallons) which helped Suzuki strive to take out the drawing board for the Suzuki T350 2 which was released just one year later in 1970.

The 1970 Suzuki T350 2 was installed with a much more efficient engine than the previously released Suzuki T350. The engine was an air-cooled 315cc with parallel twin and a piston-valve sleeved aluminum 2 stroke. The overall weight of this machine remained the same as its predecessor at just 149kg. The biggest difference between the two models was the framework. The Suzuki T350 2 had a smooth look that many just couldn’t seem to compete with at the time, not to mention the speed as well.

In 1971 the Suzuki T350R Rebel made an appearance on dealers floors and came equipped with the same specifications as the previous two models released. The biggest difference in this model, as with many of the models, was the framework. The release of the 1971 Suzuki T350R Rebel brought a new look on to the market somewhat resembling a current day chopper. This bike weighed just 5 pounds lighter than both the original Suzuki T350 and the Suzuki T350 2.

The next release for Suzuki’s T350 was the Suzuki GT350 in 1971. This release again took on the job to revamp the body in order to compete with competition. Many specifications remained the same with this bike except for the ground clearance of 160 mm. This ground clearance helped many bikers learn what it was like to truly get a breath of fresh air with the Suzuki T350 otherwise known as the Suzuki GT350.

The last model was released in the year 1972 and Suzuki kept its original name intact calling it simply, the Suzuki T350. The engine in this model remained the same the horsepower shot up to 36 clocking in at 7,000 rpm supposedly reaching 8,000 on a good day. Suzuki offered many models for the Suzuki T350, though mostly the body changed while the specifications remained the same. The Suzuki T350 models offer riders a comfortable ride with two seats and suspension that can make a rocky road obsolete. This era of bikes have came to be classics and it is a special rarity to find one you could call your own.

Nephrotic Syndrome and Nephritic Syndrome – Ayurvedic Herbal Treatment

Nephrotic Syndrome is a disease seen more in children aged 18 months to 8 years and also in adults, and is characterized by high levels of protein in the urine, low levels of protein in the blood, and high cholesterol. This results from damage to the blood vessels in the kidneys, usually due to disease, infection, some cancers, medicines, or unknown causes. Treatment outcome is usually more favorable in younger children.

Nephritic Syndrome, also known as Rapidly Progressive Glomerulonephritis, is seen more in adults. This is characterized by reduced urine output, presence of blood and protein in the urine, and swelling in the body. This disease also results from damage to the filtering mechanism in the kidneys. Mostly the cause is unknown, but it is also believed to result from a malfunction of the immune system of the body, resulting from viral infection or autoimmune disease. The treatment outcome in this disease may not be so favorable.

It is important to note that symptoms for both the above syndromes may overlap with each other and with other diseases of the kidneys.

The commonest physical manifestation of kidney-related disease is swelling in the body, more so below the eyes and in the feet and ankles. This swelling is known as “Kaphaj Shoth” in Ayurveda. Diseases caused by disturbed kapha dosha present gradually, and the response to treatment is also slow. Hence, such disorders, including kidney-related diseases, need long-term treatment.

Ayurvedic formulations useful in kidney disease are: Gomutra Haritaki, Chandraprabha, Arogya Vardhini, Punarnavadi Qadha, Gokshuradi Guggulu, Punarnavadi Guggulu, and Saarivadyasava. Herbal medicines used are: Punarnava (Boerhaavia diffusa), Shunthi (Zinziber officinalis), Deodar (Cedrus deodara) and Haritaki (Terminalia chebula).

A special combination of jaggery and ginger in equal proportion, called as “Gudardrak Yoga” is used in all kidney-related swelling with very good results. The dose is first increased gradually for the first ten days, and then gradually reduced for the next ten days till the starting dose is reached. A gap of a few days (usually a week) is given, after which the medicine is restarted. Several such courses are given.

In refractory patients, special medicines are used which act on the tissues which make up the kidneys, with the aim of trying to repair the damage caused due to disease. Medicines like Amalaki (Emblica officinalis), Ashwagandha (Withania somnifera), Shatavari (Asparagus racemosus) and Punarnava are used to bring the immune system to normal.

What Is Erotic Power Exchange?

Erotic power exchange is any situation where partners, of their own free will and choice, actively and willfully incorporate the power element in their lovemaking (and usually for a great deal in their relationship). Erotic power exchange is best known as either BDSM, S&M, D/s or sadomasochism, but these terms are all too limited, incorrect and all too frequently confused with stereotypes and forms of mental illness, which is why we like to call it Erotic Power Exchange (EPE).

The Holistic Approach

Allow us to quickly explain our view and approach. Not in order to try and force you into any direction, but to explain where we are coming from, so you will have a better understanding about the way, this online educational facility has been set up.

Erotic power exchange is a situation that incorporates – or often even encloses – spirit, body and mind and as a result will have an effect on each of these three areas that, together, make up the human being. As a result, we try to approach each area of the art of erotic power exchange on each of these levels who – in order to create the wholeness of the human being – are equally important and all deserve their, individual, attention.

Erotic power exchange can take any shape or form within a relationship. From little things like blindfolding her when making love to anything like 24 hours a day, 7 days a week servitude.

The shape and form it takes totally depends upon the fantasies, situation, preferences and boundaries of the partners involved. As long as it is informed consensual, safe, sane and voluntary it is called erotic power exchange. If any or all of these four elements are missing, it is called abuse.

Next, erotic power exchange requires a specific environment. Call it a biosphere, if you like. What it requires is a very sound, honest and sincere relationship, intense and open communication, trust, a lot of mutual understanding, an open mind, lots of love and care and a fair bit of creativity. Which does not mean the relationship necessarily has to be a long term one. Even within a one-night-stand or casual situation all these requirements must be there – albeit probably on a less intense level – to make things work.

People will often ask: what is wrong with straight sex? Why add things like power exchange. Well, there is nothing wrong with straight sex. But there are people – such as yourself – who want more out of their relationship. Maybe even more out of life. These are the people that will identify the power element, present in every relationship, and start to work with it, magnify it, play with it, explore and experiment. In every day life all of us have to deal with power. Your boss’ power or political power for example, but not all of us become bosses or politicians or even take an interest in management or politics. The same is true for power within the sexual/relational context. Some do, some don’t.

Giving away power to your partner can be an immense erotic sensation. Being tied up, relatively helpless and being launched by your partner into your own fantasies and dreams – some people call that sub space – can be thrilling, relaxing and revealing at the same time. Pain, tickling and all sorts of other impulses – when administered with care and skill – can pump up your endorphins, giving you the same sensation sports people will sometimes feel. On the other hand, the dominant partner will feel the adrenaline and serotonine flow freely through his or her body, giving them a very powerful feeling and very intense and caring emotion at the same time. No, the people that do it don’t need the power element to be able to have an orgasm or an interesting and rewarding relationship, but yes, they do need the power element to be present and used in their relationship.

An umbrella for lots of different things

Erotic power exchange is a very individual, personal experience. That is why it is very hard to describe what it is exactly. The only element all these people – and that includes you – have in common is the fact that – for their own individual reasons – they are fascinated by the power element in a sexual/relational context. What they do, how they do it and why may be completely different things.

Erotic power exchange is an umbrella argument. One couple may fill it in as tying her up in bed, another may be fascinated by the idea of a “strange” man walking into the bedroom capturing her and a third may have a relationship where he serves her in any aspect. Many others will look for the spiritual and personal growths, this may bring about. Others are in it for the kink. All of that is quite all right, as long as it feels good for you and it brings you what you are looking for.

Erotic power exchange is like golf: it is highly individual, you are the master of your own game and you are also your own referee.

It is entirely about what you want to do. You do not have to copy others. You do not even have to agree with what others do. It is your game, your thoughts, your emotions and your fantasies. It is what you and your (future) partner share. It is being able to explore the borders of your mind and imagination in a very safe environment.

To many people erotic power exchange is not just about sex, but a lifestyle. Most people that do it will recognize it as something very personal, something very much belonging to themselves. To many it is a way to express themselves.

A definition of Erotic Power Exchange

Probably the most dangerous thing to do is to try and come up with definitions of erotic power exchange. Usually this will lead to furious discussions. However, the POWERotics Internet discussion group (one of the largest in its kind) managed to agree on a definition that seems a workable one as well as one that a large group of (Maledom/femsub oriented) people can agree upon. This is the definition, agreed upon by this group, plus the relevant notes about it.

* Erotic power exchange is defined as: voluntary and informed consensual acts of power exchange between consenting adults.

* Voluntary is defined as: not having received or being promised any – financial or non-financial – incentive or reward in order to try and coerce or force any of the partners involved into actions they would not consent to without such reward or incentive; not otherwise being forced or coerced (either through physical, mental, economical or social force or overpowering) into actions any of the partners involved otherwise would not consent to, of the own free will of all partners involved.

* Informed consensual is defined as: partners involved – prior to the act – have chosen voluntary to enter into acts of erotic power exchange and all partners involved – to the best of their knowledge – have made a serious effort to establish all other partners involved have a reasonable level of understanding of both the activities, they consented to, as well as the potential consequences and risks of such activities.

* Adults are defined as: of legal age in their area or country. Should such legal age be under 18 years of age, adult is defined as 18 years of age or older.All of the above may sound a little over the top to you – and in fact, to a certain extent we agree. However, it IS the first ever attempt to come up with a definition that is workable and that, although probably a little bit too “legal” for those inside the community, makes perfectly clear where the lines are drawn between consensual erotic power exchange on one end and abuse or outright sick or criminal behavior on the other.

Stigma & Truth

There are all sorts of knockdowns on the subject of erotic power exchange around, all of them often used by legislators as well as others who oppose erotic power exchange. All of these are based on assumed psychological or psychiatric “knowledge” or “facts”. The fact of the matter is that none of these are actually true or proven. We have collected the most common ones around and compared them with the real facts.

“Once you start, you will want more and more”

This is what pseudo-experts will introduce as the “stepping stone theory”.

In other words, once you have tasted the effects of, for example, pain, you will want more and more of it and it will end in excessive behavior and addiction. In fact there is no “stepping stone theory” (the term originates from research into the causes of drug-addiction in the late 1960’s and by the way the theory didn’t work in that area either) as far as erotic power exchange is concerned.

Fact number two is this. Like almost anything about erotic power exchange, there is hardly any serious and published scientific research on this subject. Next, nearly all research commonly referred to as being about EPE has been research done in individual cases or extremely small groups. Any conclusions, based on such research, are not valid for the entire group for simple statistical and mathematical reasons only, if nothing else. Research has predominantly been done by psychiatrists and psychologists – into cases that almost all relate to direct questions for help or significant health-related problems. And the objective of almost all of these articles is to promote the therapy of that particular therapist. General sociological research in the area of erotic power exchange is rare and, if available, has been done predominantly in the gay community or with such small – and country or area specific – research groups that it is impossible to draw any general conclusions in a responsible way.

Fact number three is that the reality of erotic power exchange shows an entirely different picture. People who are into erotic power exchange will usually start to experiment with it and in this experimental phase will usually want to explore all possibilities. As time progresses their emotions will settle down, pieces of the puzzle will fall into place and their wants and needs – once explored and identified – will settle down to the level that usually corresponds with the fantasies people originally had.

“The need to go into power exchange always hides a traumatic experience”

This knockdown is based on Freud who, as we all know, tried to explore the relationship between all sorts of human behavior – not only the sexual behavior – and (early) childhood experiences. His method is called psycho-analysis and in modern psychology is considered outdated and largely irrelevant.

Although it is a fact that some people who are into erotic power exchange have a history of abuse or childhood trauma, a general connection has never been established. What may be true in individual cases most certainly is not true as a general argument. What research did establish is that there are no significant differences between the number of people with traumatic experiences in the erotic power exchange community than there are in any other group.

More recent research points to both genetic influences as well as to a creative and inquisitive mindset as factors that may be of influence to the development of erotic power exchange feelings and emotions. However, this research is far from finalized and in fact again is only limited to individual cases, like most of the scientific research done in this area.

Another – relatively new – area that may play a role is the influence of endorphins. Endorphins are hormones, natural opiates, produced by the body and commonly known as “emotion” amino acids. Different mixtures of different types of endorphins will create different emotions. Some of these mixtures are created as a result of fear, stress and pain. What role they play when it comes to the development of erotic power exchange emotions is yet unknown.

“The need for power exchange points to a stern upbringing”

Again a “semi-Freudian” misconception and based on one case of one man, researched and published about by Freud.

The fact of the matter is that most of the people who are into erotic power exchange have had a perfectly normal youth and upbringing and the majority come from families where sexuality was a subject that could be discussed freely and openly. Again there may be individual cases where people had a stern – or sometimes very religious – upbringing but whether or not there are any connections between upbringing and erotic power exchange emotions in general is yet to be determined and probably very unlikely as far as the development of the emotions as such is concerned.

“People into erotic power exchange can not find full sexual satisfaction in other ways”

This is an outright lie, based on research done in cases of excessive clinical sadism and masochism (i.e. the mental illnesses). It is true that the severe mental distortions usually described as sadism and masochism may (but not always do) show this type of behavior. Erotic power exchange, however, has nothing to do with mental distortions but with perfectly normal erotic/sexual behavior between perfectly normal, well-adjusted, responsible adults.

People into erotic power exchange will usually consider their feelings and emotions important and will identify erotic power exchange as a lifestyle, but that does not mean they have a compulsive need. The lack of compulsive behavior in fact is what separates erotic power exchange from clinical sadists and masochists.

In fact in many cases people will identify their erotic power exchange emotions as entirely different from sexual emotions or – for example – an orgasm.

“Dominant men are just male chauvinists”

The fact of the matter is that the majority of dominant men are very caring, loving and open minded people – as are most dominant women by the way. The position of the dominant in erotic power exchange by definition requires a lot of understanding, caring, trust and most of all a great interest in the wants and needs and emotions of the submissive partner. What to the outsider may seem a very strict, direct, powerful and maybe sometimes somewhat aggressive looking macho man in fact is only role play, using symbols and role behavior but underneath is almost always a very caring person.

The average submissive partner, when asked, will usually describe the dom as understanding – generally knowing more about his submissive partner than (s)he does (or did) him or herself – supportive, careful, loving and protective.

“Submissive women betray the movement for women’s rights”

Being submissive and allowing these emotions to come out is a very self-confident statement and decision as well as a difficult and scary process. Submissive women are usually very self aware and are making very conscious decisions about their submissiveness. They are anything but “doormats” and have – generally speaking – gone through a long process of identifying and accepting themselves as well as their submissive feelings and emotions.

Just as dominant erotic behavior is not an indication of general dominance, neither is submissiveness an indication that the (wo)men will display submissiveness in every day life. Usually they will be anything but submissive, although it is a fact that as long as submissive emotions have not settled down, submissive women especially sometimes may have trouble separating some of their submissive feelings from other things.

The argument itself originates from hard line feminist activists who – predominantly out of fear for unwanted influence – try to separate women from other opinions than the ones such activists have.

“People who are dominant in every day life are submissive in bed and vice versa”

Sexual/erotic behavior is usually not an indication for any other form of social behavior, neither are there any proven links between the two. Dominants can have both dominant as well as non-dominant positions in every day life and the same goes for submissive’s. A female executive can be submissive in the bedroom, a male nurse can be dominant. The above statement is a classic example of stereotyping, mainly based on pornography and stories from prostitutes who – through indicating they have “socially important or significant customers” – in fact try to market their profession and often use arguments like these in a rather naive effort to gain more social acceptance and respect for their trade.

“Erotic power exchange is dangerous”

There are all sorts of stories around about accidents, that happened during erotic power exchange sessions. The most “famous” one around is the story about the man who – after cuffing his wife to the bed – climbed the nearest cupboard in an effort to jump on her, broke both his legs, fell into the locked closet and the couple had to wait for two days before help arrived. This story – like many others – is around in almost all countries and – like nearly all others – is a tall story. Of course, anything one does without sufficient knowledge can be risky or even dangerous. The truth of the matter is that safe, sane, voluntary and informed consensual erotic power exchange is perfectly safe, provided people know what they are doing.

Early Recollection

The vast majority (over 50 percent) of the people actively nurturing erotic power exchange emotions recollect fantasies about power role play at an early age, prior to their 18th birthday. Just about half of this group (in other words 25 percent of all BDSM-people) recollects having such fantasies before the age of twelve – quite frequently as early as six or seven.

Research by the POWERotics Foundation shows women usually recollect erotic power exchange fantasies and emotions earlier than men on average. Recollections of fantasies and emotions before the age of 12 for example are more frequent (24%) in the female group (men 16%). Very recent recollections, after their 18th birthday, are more frequent in the male group: 22% as opposed to only 5% in the female group.

There are no real differences when it comes to the importance of personal fantasies. Between 40 and 45 percent of both groups indicate that it have been these fantasies that triggered their erotic power exchange emotions. The same goes for the influence of books and general media on the development of such emotions. Around 20 percent of both groups indicate this as a trigger. There are, however, big differences when it comes to the influence of the Internet. Almost twice as many young women (15% opposed to 8%) name the Internet as a trigger of their emotions, whereas almost twice as many young men (11% versus 6%) say they have been influenced by pornography. It is important to notice however that the influence of both the Internet and pornography are only of minor influence, when compared to other triggers such as private fantasies and general media.

Young women in general consider erotic power exchange of a greater importance in their lives than young men. 53% of the young women consider it to be either a very important or the most important thing in their lives, whereas 44% of the men consider it important but have other priorities as well. Slightly more young men (12%) than women (10%) see erotic power exchange as just a kick.

Tips and Advice on How to Reduce Hair Loss

Hair loss is a common and normal phenomenon which occurs to both men and women especially at an older age.

There are two basic types of hair loss; Scarring (hair follicle is damaged and hair can not regrow) and non-scarring (hair fall is attributed to a variety of factors such as genetics, illness, poor nutrition or medicines). The major causes and risk factors to hair fall include aging, improper and poor diet, illnesses, or hormonal changes.

Natural remedies for reducing loss of hair

Hair fall can be unfortunate to your image especially if you are young. Hair fall can be irreversible and prevention of the hair loss is the best cure. Different natural home remedies can be used to curl hair fall. The common remedies for hair fall treatment include;

Coconut milk
Coconut milk has been known to be the richest source of tissue-nourishing. Coconut milk is extracted by cutting the coconut into small pieces and ground to extract the milk. The coconut milk is used for a soothing massage on the scalp because reducing hair fall.

Oil massage
Oil massage is another common method of reducing hair loss. The massage oils used are natural oils made from olive, jojoba, almond or coconut oils. The oils are preheated to lukewarm and the patient should massage the scalp for about 20 minutes, leave it for an hour and then wash your hair with a mild shampoo.

Natural juices
Several natural juices are capable of reducing hair loss. Some of the natural juices used include onion juice, and aloe Vera juice. They are applied onto the body surface while massaging for about 30 minute and then wash off in warm water. The natural juices can also balance hair shareholders and pH level of the scalp.

Neem leaves
Neem tree is one of the most common plant with tremendous medicinal values. Neem leaves are boiled in water for 30 to 45 minutes. The extracts from the neem leaves are applied on the skin surface and left for some time. Neem leaves help prevent hair fall and also confers other additional health and beauty benefits.

Antioxidants are substances that fight and neutralize free radicals in the body. Antioxidants can be found in many plants. Green tea is the most common antioxidant and not only does it prevent from hair loss, it boosts the immune system since improving the general body heath. Green tea can be made from boiling green tea bag in clean water. The tea is applied on the affected skin area and left for an hour before washing and shampooing the hair.

Amla treatment
Amla is a herb that prevails hair loss on the scalp. Dried alma is soaked in coconut oil until it turns to black. The oils extracted contain natural nutritious products and are used to massage the scalp which is an effective way to reduce hair loss.

Change of lifestyle habits that may affect hair loss such as alcoholism or allergies and proper evaluation of your skin is important in order to get the suitable products for hair fall treatment.

Why a Lady Might Not Be Too Willing to Hook Up

Men are not even aware of the numerous reasons why a lady might not be too willing to hook up. Well, could be you are not as hot as you think. Another is maybe she has already set her heart on someone else who is more special to her than you are, or maybe you are just not the kind of guy she wants in her life.

Most often than not, it usually boils down to the kind of mistakes you make to prevent your getting the kind of girl you fancy. Here is a list of the kind of mistakes guys make in flirtation and how to sail through your love life without any obstacles.

1. The girl's physical requirements. Stop there. Do not even take this into account. What is really needed for a guy to get a girl is actually good hygiene, good choice of clothes and not physical attributes per se. The lack of these will discourage the girl the instant she sets eyes on you.

2. You are feeling insecure. Confidence is the key to catching a girl's attention and keeping it. Any man who begins to stammer and fidget when in the presence of a lady is actually nailing his own coffin as far as getting a date is concerned.

3. You can not wait to be with her. If you are too eager to be with a lady, it will only damage your prospects of winning her over in the first place and turn her off. It will look like you are desperate, clingy and pathetic to her if you act this way. All these are terrible for your image as a man in the eyes of the opposite sex because you come off as way too needy.

4. Making fast moves. About going into fifth gear before the lady is ready, sorry. Ladies love to be pursed and the longer it takes the happier they are. Give her time and make her believe that she is making her own decisions without being rushed, or else she might switch off.

5. She sees you as just a friend in her own eyes. If she perceives that you are just a friend, then it needs some rectification quickly before it is too late. You would have to find out better ways of dealing with such a situation so do more research.

The hard part is to tell the limits and since this varies in most people, it remains some sort of guesswork.

Gotu Kola – The Healing Herb

Gotu Kola, Centella asiatica (L.) or Hydrocotyle asiatica is a plant that has been long used in Indian ayurvedic tradition, as well as in folk remedies in other indigenous traditions. Recently gotu kola, has been noticed by western doctors and herbalists as a drug with different medicinal healing properties. Though it is used somewhat differently now then it was in the times of the Rg Veda there are some places where the uses cross over and thus give some substantiality to ancient civilizations knowledge of medicine. Today you can find Gotu kola at most health food stores and it is even being used occasionally in various commercial products.

Gotu Kola’s various names include water pennywort, Indian pennywort, thick-leafed pennywort and gota kola. The original literature written on Gotu Kola comes from India, most discussing gotu kola’s use in medicine. In Indian literature it is used for improving brain function, and creating a sense of alert relaxation. There is some research supporting this in America. Gotu kola hailing from the east and being used little in America was used mostly for healing the urinary tract in western herbalism, until it was picked up by the health food industry more recently. Since then, more western research has been done into the effects of the herb. Some medicinal uses on gotu kola as folk remedies include producing longevity, regenerating the mind, as well as producing a state of calm. In Sri Lanka it was observed that elephants, renowned for long life, fed heavily on the plant. Giving rise to belief in the locals of its effect on longevity.

It is said in India that the leafs of the gotu kola plant look like the two hemisphere of the brain. In Sanskrit, it is called brahmi (Brahma meaning cosmic consciousness). It is believed to help the flow of energy in the brain between the right and left hemispheres. In India it is also used as a decongestant and to alleviate sinus problems. (Lad) Taken before bedtime it is believed to promote a sound sleep and alert awakening. A Sinhalese proverb states “two leaves a day will keep old age away”, suggesting its effects that are being researched today on senility.

Within the last 15 years or so since the interest in herbalism has gained more of a foothold in the commercial market (or has the commercial market gained a foothold in herbalism), there has been modern scientific research into gotu kola and its effects on both the brain and its wound healing qualities. Chemicals associated with its sedative effect are triterpenes, and the saponins bramoside, and brahminoside (Crellin and Phillpot) (the last two seeming to come from the Sanskrit word Brahma). Other chemicals associated with its medicinal qualities include flavonols, amino acids, fatty acids, sterols, saccharides, and certain mineral salts. As well as essential oil, polysaccharides, and in particular the glycoside asiaticoside as a wound-healing agent.

An extract of gotu kola known as TECA is currently being used to treat varicose veins, as certain lab results show an effect on stimulating the synthesis of collagen in the walls of the veins which helps them hold their tone and function better. (Graedon and Graedon). This is a remedy approved by the commission E monograph. Clinical settings also are noticing gotu kola’s effects on healing surgical incisions and skin ulcers. In one trial TECA was administered to patients with parasitic infections that damage the bladder. Three fourths of these patients recovered well, with little or no bladder scarring using gotu kola. Many other reports are hailing gotu kola as a powerful wound-healing drug, it seems to inhibit scab formation and thus help with the overall healing process. Doses of gotu kola inlcude .5 to 1 gram three times a day. Tea is made by pouring water over half a teaspoon of dried leaves and steeping for ten minutes. Most standardized extract should be taken in 60 to 120 mg per day, fluid extract (1:1) 2 to 4 ml a day.

There is research that states various possible side effects of the drug that suggest caution in it being used daily for more then around six weeks. Alleged allergic reactions from gotu kola have been attributed to the presence of propylene glycol. (Crellin and Philpott) And thus should be used cautiously. It is also noted that high doses of the extract have a sedative effect on small animals. Animal research also indicates that some gotu kola constituents can reduce fertility. Few side effects are documented, these include contact rash, others receiving an injection of the drug developed a pain and discoloration of the site. One case involving ingestion the drug included someone getting a rash over the entire body; there is slight concern for photosensitivity as well. Also one component of c. asiatica, asiaticoside, may be a carcinogen. (Graedon and Graedon) . There is also a report that gotu kola should not be used with medications for diabetes or high blood pressure (Castleman).

Today you can find gotu kola on the shelves of almost any health food store, it is gaining popularity as are many other herbs, simply because they work. I have noticed appearing in supplements on the market today that incorporate a mixture of herbs and phytochemicals (polypharmacy), that gotu kola is used in some mixtures used for depression. These also usually incorporate a combination of GABA, L-dopamine, passionflower and St. Johnswort as well. This is possibly due to gotu kola’s calming yet slightly stimulating quality. If I were to market gotu kola perhaps I would make a study pill meant to be taken a couple of weeks before and during finals. This pill would include Ginko to increase blood flow to the brain. Calamus root as an age old remedy on memory and the nervous system. Perhaps some rosemary for reputed effects on nervous system. Gotu kola as well as basil, for its uses in ayurvedic literature for positive effects on the brain. Also I would throw in some vitamin B12 and perhaps riboflavin. This I am almost quite sure would work very well, in making one more mentally alert and capable. This is due to personal experience and research.

I use these supplements during times of test taking and notice slightly less fatigue which I attribute to gotu kola though I do not feel overly stimulated or an increase in heart rate, I also notice more of an ability to concentrate. Another idea for an herbal remedy that I believe would do very well is a tincture marketed for scar and wound healing. Since gotu kola is not advertised as a wound-healing agent I believe this has a lot of potential on the market. I’m sure once people got the results, it would become a huge seller. I myself have given it to different friends who wanted cuts to heal and have found it very helpful. One girl I gave it to that had a horrible accident on a bike cut her face completely. She found it to be a miracle drug, perhaps with vitamin e it would be a better product. Many of the medicinal claims here made in this paper have come from my research as well as my own personal experience. This is why I chose it as a plant to write about as I see much potential to create a sense of alert relaxation, ease of depression, concentration, and wound healing.

Medicinal uses of plants have been gaining more and more popularity, which is why they are gaining more respect and recognition in western culture. Herbalism is also gaining increased attention from governmental organizations seeking to regulate and restrict access to such herbs. Though there would be benefits of this it would drive out the independent herbalist producer, and hand over much authority to the pharmaceutical companies. This can be looked at as a double-edged sword, a curse and a blessing.

Gotu kola in particular is one herb with much medicinal promise that has much to be researched of in the west. Its just a nugget of value waiting to be exploited by western pharmaceutical company’s, supplement industry workers, and entrepreneurs of all sorts! A member of the ubelliiferae family, gotu kola is related to carrot, parsley, dill and fennel. But it has neither the feathery leaves nor the umbel arangment of tiny umbrella like flowers, goto kolas creeping stem grows in marshy areas and produces fan shaped leaves about the size of a brittish penny hence the name pennywort. A cup lke clutch of inconspicuous flowers develops near the ground.

Graedon, Joe, M.S., and Teresa Graedon, Ph.D.

1999 The People’s Pharmacy New York: St Martin’s Paperbacks.

Crellin, John, and Jane Philpott.

1989 Herbal Medicine past and present. London: Duke university press.

Lad, Vasant M.D.

1984 Ayurveda: The Science of Self-Healing. WI: lotus press.

Castleman, Michael.

1989 Blended Medicine. New York: Rodale.

American Mobsters – The Whyos Street Gang

The Whyos were a vicious Irish street gang that ruled Lower Manhattan, starting right after the Civil War and running through the 1890’s. The gang started out as the offshoot of a pre-Civil War gang called the Chichesters. Their headquarters was in the 6th Ward on Baxter Street, formerly Orange Street, and named after Mexican War hero Lt. Col. Charles Baxter.

The Whyos got their name from the bird calls they made to each other, to identify themselves as members of the gang. When they first appeared on the streets of Lower Manhattan, the Whyos cruised the area called Mulberry Bend, robbing, beating and killing with ungodly gusto. Soon they extended their domain to the Lower West Side, into Greenwich Village, then further north. The Whyos favorite hangout was a dive on the corner of Mulberry and Worth called “The Morgue.” An apt name, since it was estimated that over a hundred murders took place on the premises. The bar owner boasted his booze was powerful and quite tasty, but could also be used an an excellent embalming fluid.

Myth had it, that in order to become a member of the Whyos, a aspiring member had to kill, or at least made an attempt to kill someone. One of their early leaders was Mike McCoin, who was hanged in the Tombs on March, 8, 1883, for the slingshot murder of a saloon owner on West Twenty-Sixth Street, named Louis Hanier. The day after he killed Hanier, McCoin announced to his gang, “A guy ain’t tough until he’s knocked his man out (killed).” Some hard men took McCoin’s remark to heart, and a string of murders followed, precipitating new members being inducted into the gang.

The Whyos reached the height of their power in the 1880’s, when such miscreants such as Big Jim Hines terrorized the city. Hines was the first person to hold up struss games, which were the run by the Italian and Jewish gangs, and a great source of revenue to boot. The struss games were played nightly in numerous locations, from east of the Bowery, up to Fourteenth Street, then west to Broadway. And almost every night, Hines bounced from one game to another, a huge gun in each hand. Using impending force, Hines extracted a percentage of each game, gracefully, always leaving a nice cut for the house.

Once, after he was arrested, he told a detective, “Them guys must be nuts. Don’t I always leave ’em somethin’? All I want is me share.”

In 1884, Whyos member Piker Ryan was arrested for one of his many crimes. The police found a book on him, with prices for a laundry list of crimes the Whyos performed for monetary profit. The list read:

Punching — $2,

Both eyes blacked — $4

Nose and jaw broke — $10

Jacked out — $15

Ear chewed off — $15

Leg or arm broke — $19

Shot in the leg — $25

Stab — $25

Doing the big job (murder) — $100 and up

Another prominent Whyos member was Dandy Johnny Dolan, who was fastidious in dress, with oiled and plastered hair, and a penchant for wearing only the finest shoe apparel available. Dolan was also the inventor of two gruesome weapons. The first was sections of ax blade embedded in the sole of his “Fighting Shoes,” which he used to stomp and stab a fallen foe. The other was an “eye gouger” made of brass and worn on his thumb.

On August 22, 1875, Dolan decided to rob a brush manufacturer at 275 Greenwich Street. On the premises, he confronted James H. Noe and bashed him over the head with an iron crowbar. Then he proceeded to rob him of money, a gold watch and chain, and Mr. Noe’s walking stick, which had a metal handle formed in the shape of a monkey. But before Dolan left, he gouged out both of Mr Noe’s eyes with his “eye gouger,” then proudly showed the eyeballs to his pals. Mr. Noe died a few days later, and when Dolan was soon arrested, he was walking with Mr. Noe’s distinctive cane and carrying Mr. Noe’s eyeballs in his pocket. As a result, Dolan was tried and convicted of murder, and hung in the courtyard of the Tombs Prison on April 21, 1876.

The most famous of the Whyos leaders were a couple of Dannys; Messers Driscoll and Lyons, who co-ran the Whyos in the 1880’s. In 1888, Driscoll became involved in a gunfight with Five Points gang member John McCarthy, over the affections of a prostitute named Beezy Garrity. Not being the greatest gunslinger, Driscoll accidentally shot and killed, Ms. Garrity instead, and he was hanged for his mistake on January 22, 1888.

Lyons was considered the most vicious gangster of the 1880’s. And his downfall was an argument over a young lady too. It seemed Lyons snatched Pretty Kitty McGown from her paramour Joseph Quinn. Quinn vowed revenge and on July 4th, 1887, the two men squared off with guns at Paradise Square in the Five Points area. Lyons was a better with a gun than his pal Driscoll had been, and he shot Quinn right through the heart, killing him on the spot. Lyons took it on the lam for a few months, but was finally captured and hung at the Tombs Prison on August, 21, 1888, just seven months after Driscoll had met the same fate.

After the deaths of Lyons and Driscoll, the Whyos fell into disarray. In the late 1890’s, Monk Eastman defeated what was left of the Whyos, and with Paul Kelly, leader of the Five Points Gang, they fought for control of all the rackets in Lower Manhattan for years to come.

Book Summary: Be Excellent at Anything – Written by Tony Schwartz

The goal of any organization beyond survival is to be the best. If you are an employee or a business owner, this book will provide great insights to increasing performance. This is one area that you need to get a grasp on and work on daily. One thing Tony does really well in his books is to profile the way elite athletes “work”. The ones that consistently win know how to engage intensely and with razor sharp focus and they also know how to disengage to relax and rebuild. They can do this in seconds. In tennis, the ones that consistently won could control their heart rates during rest while the ones that ran out of steam had heart rates elevated during the entire match.

Two million deaths every year can be attributed to a sedentary lifestyle.

In a nutshell, if you want to have a remotely good life then you need to understand energy. Humans need four sources of energy to operate at their best: physical (sustainability), emotional (security), mental (self-expression), and spiritual (significance).

People today want to justify everything by being busy. You hear this B.S. excuse all the time: I am so busy. The problem here is that 80% of the busy work is Majoring in Minor Things! You will see this in clubs or sporting types of karate classes. You typically run into people that have been in it for 20 years but when you dig in, you see that they have 1 year experience – 20 times.

It is not the amount of time you have been doing the work, it is the amount of work you put into the time.

Be Excellent at Anything is broken down into 5 major parts. I will highlight the main points for the sake of time.

The major theme around all the concepts in the book revolves around the Core human needs. This inverted triangle is based on Dr. Maslow’s hierarchy of human needs but tweaked in a working environment.

1. Survival – Material needs and desires.

2. Sustainability – Body – Being able to regularly renew, and take care of myself, so I’m healthy, fit and resilient.

3. Security-Emotions – Felling appreciated, cared for, valued for who I am and what I do

4. Self-Expression-Mind – Freedom to develop and express my unique skills and talent

5. Significance-Spirit – What I stand for and believe in – What gives me a sense of meaning

Meeting people’s core needs at work will build a durable competitive advantage for the organization. Let’s talk about techniques to drive this home.

1. We cannot change what we do not notice. Thus we need to invest in our strengths and the organizations strengths. This helps people be better at what they are already good at.

2. Creatures of habit – Horrible stats – 95% of dieters regain more weight than they originally lost! 70% of organizational change initiatives ultimately fail. The key to breaking bad habits is replacing the habit with something you are good at that is the opposite of the bad habit. Montel Williams is really good at this. He does not focus on what he can NOT eat. Instead his attention is on what he CAN eat. This simple mind change makes all the difference.

3. Sleep or Die – Learning is solidified during sleep. Adequate sleep is critical for maximum performance. The key is mind/body renewal. If you do not adequately sleep then you will consistently perform at low levels over time.

4. Making Waves – Intense focused work with rest breeds results. Scheduled relaxation is the key to high performance. This can be napping and/or mediation. Focus your time in 90-120 minute focus session and then relax. Get up and go for a quick walk, stretch and regroup.

Use it or Lose it – You need to exercise your body and your brain. It is that simple.

Three weeks in a hospital bed and atrophy sets in. This happens with the mind as well.

Apple is an excellent company. Steve Jobs talks about “Making a Dent in the Universe”. This all comes down to personal and organizational passion.

Organizations need to have a higher purpose than simple profitability. Be Excellent an Anything is really a great road map to get you there. The concept of the CEO being the Chief Energy Officer is critical because positive directed energy is the key to personal and organizational success.

I hope you have found this short summary useful. The key to any new idea is to work it into your daily routine until it becomes habit. Habits form in as little as 21 days.

One thing you can take away from this book is to take mini-naps. Unfortunately, most people will not do this because it is frowned upon. If you get in the habit of napping at lunch or on a break after a 120 minute work session, you will see your effectiveness double.

Top Mistakes People Make When Taking Testosterone Replacement Therapy

I have heard of so many mistakes being made by people taking testosterone replacement therapy. Some mistakes seriously impacted their quality of life, or resulted in men stopping testosterone prematurely. Here are a few of the biggest errors I’ve witnessed:

  1. Using “street sources” of testosterone: I have met many men whose doctors do not support their use of testosterone, so they buy it on the black market or from some guy at their gyms. This is illegal. Testosterone is classified as a controlled substance under the Anabolic Steroids Control Act of 1990 and has been assigned to Schedule III. It is regulated by the Drug Enforcement Agency (DEA). A doctor can legally prescribe it but it is illegal to use without a prescription. Be aware that the buying or the using of testosterone without a proper prescription may have legal consequences. The use of testosterone and its cousin molecules (anabolic steroids) is illegal in the United States for those without a medical diagnosis that justifies their use (e.g. anemia, wasting, hypogonadism). If after reading this book you still decide to get testosterone in the black market, be beware that you could set up by informants who may alert the DEA of your purchase. Also, importing testosterone even if you have a prescription is not legal. In a nut shell: only use testosterone after a physician gives you a prescription and do not import it from other countries.
    • The use of “street” testosterone is also dangerous. No one knows what those products may contain. Some so-called testosterone products may simply contain peanut oil, sesame or grape-seed oil. You also run the risk of exposure to contaminants that could cause infection.
    • Not having a doctor follow-up your blood work is a sure way to get in trouble! If you have low testosterone, there are hundreds of doctors who will prescribe testosterone replacement therapy (refer to the Appendix section for directories). If you are using testosterone to increase muscle mass or to improve athletic performance even though you have normal testosterone levels, be smart and research all you can. And please, read the information in this book about how stopping testosterone can cause health problems (if you are using black market testosterone, chances are that your source will eventually run out).
  2. Not exploring what testosterone option is best for you: Since there is an assortment of options for testosterone replacement, it’s important that you take the time to really find out what’s best for you. Several factors are involved in deciding what would be the best testosterone replacement option for you. Among them are cost, insurance coverage, convenience, preference for daily versus weekly use, lack of time to stick to a strict daily schedule, fears of needles, and physician familiarity of the different products. For instance, some health management organizations (HMOs) programs only pay for testosterone injections since they are the cheapest option. However some men have needle-phobia and dislike weekly or bi-weekly injections that may require them to go see their doctors that frequently (some doctors do not teach their patients to self inject at home). Other men are prescribed daily gels even if their busy lives make it difficult to be perfectly compliant to the daily therapy. Some men without insurance or financial means decide not to seek help since they do not know that there are patient assistance programs set up by manufacturers, or the fact that compounding pharmacies can make cheap gels and creams with a doctor prescription (details on this information is available in the Appedix section). Every testosterone option has advantages and disadvantages that may be more suitable for one person over another, so read the following section on treatment options.
  3. Not using the right dose: Men who start testosterone need to have their testosterone blood levels rechecked twoweeks or one month after they start therapy (depending on the testosterone formulation), right before they administer the corresponding dose for that day or week. This is critical since these results are essential to deciding if the dose is right for you. Total testosterone blood levels under 500ng/dL that are not improving your sexual desire and energy should be increased to 500to 1,000ng/dL by increasing the frequency of injection or the dose.Some doctors fail to retest after they get a patient started on testosterone since they assume most men respond to 200 mg bi-weekly injections or 5 grams per day of gels. The reality is that many men require higher doses to reach total testosterone levels above mid range of normal. Those men tend to stop testosterone early because they perceive no benefits at “average”doses. Incorrect frequency of injections is a common mistake and is actually worse than not getting treatment at all. See the next sections for more details on this.
  4. Cycling on and off testosterone: Testosterone replacement is a life-long commitment in most cases. Once you start you should assume that you will stay on it unless you have an unmanageable side effect. Some patients think that “giving the body a break” once every few weeks is a good thing. What they do not know is that during the time that you are taking testosterone, your testicles stop producing it. When you stop replacement therapy you are left with no testosterone in your system for weeks while your HPG hormonal axis normalizes. Depression, weight loss, lack of motivation, and loss of sex drive can appear rapidly and with a vengeance. A few men never have their hormonal axis return to normal after stopping testosterone (especially if they were hypogonadal at baseline). Read more details on this in the section entitled “HPGA dysfunction.”
  5. Stopping testosterone abruptly due to an unrelated signal: Some of us may be taking medications for other conditions along with testosterone. Sometimes new medications can increase cholesterol and triglycerides and/or liver enzymes (I call these “signals”). Some doctors prematurely blame testosterone instead of the new medications that someone might have started. I have seen people suffer because of this poor judgment of their doctors. Weeks later, they learn that stopping testosterone did not improve any of these problems but by then they feel tired, depressed, and asexual.
  6. Not knowing how to manage potential side effects: Luckily, this will not happen to you after you finish reading this book. I know men who stopped testosterone due to swelling in their nipple area, acne, moodiness, perceived lack of benefit, hair loss, or a prostatic specific antigen (PSA) increase that was due to a prostatic infection. Knowing how to manage these side effects is essential to long-term success. If you know what side effects may occur and how to deal with them, you are less likely to prematurely stop therapy. You may just need to readjust the dose, change the delivery method, or take a medication to counteract the potential problem. Only the best physicians, who do not overreact to a side effect, know how to do this.
  7. Having a life style that is not “testosterone friendly”: If you smoke, drink more than two drinks a day, smoke too much pot, are overweight, do not exercise, do not keep your blood sugar or lipids in control, and do not show up to doctor’s appointments, you do not have a testosterone-friendly lifestyle. Studies have shown that these factors may influence your sexual function and long-term health. Excessive alcohol can decrease testosterone. Exercise can increase it if done properly or decrease it if overdone. You can read more about this later in this book.
  8. Not reading or staying “networked” with other patients: Being in isolation about information makes you a less effective patient. There are online groups of men who discuss testosterone and other issues (see the Resource section). Sharing your experiences and learning from others are keys to being an empowered and proactive patient. It’s the only way to maximize the benefits of any therapy you are using. Many of the practical “tricks” that I have learned have been obtained via this method. The collective wisdom of other people with similar issues is more powerful than just relying on everything your doctor tells, or does not tell you. Besides, most doctors treat educated patients a lot better than those who are timid about sharing and asking questions.
  9. Not switching doctors when you have to: Changing doctors can be difficult, especially if you are not a networked patient who reads a lot about your condition. Many people do not have options and have to see a certain doctor in a health management orga­nization (HMO) setting. But most of us have the option of searching for educated doctors who are not condescending and who treat you as an equal. Your doctor should be your partner in your health and not just an unquestioned authority. Although they are saving lives and have spent hundreds of hours in school and practice to do so, they are human beings who are exposed to myths and misconceptions similar to ours I have heard the most irrational things from doctors about testosterone replacement that make me question how unfortunate their patients may be. Be sure to do your homework and find a doctor who supports you in your search for optimum health. See the Resource section for directories of physicians who are trained in testosterone replacement management.
  10. Poor compliance: Forgetting when to inject or apply gels is a common complaint. Good time management and reminders are key. Find reminders that work for you. I use Google calendar which can be set up to send me text messages to my phone as reminders. Avoid the yo-yo effect that poor compliance causes! Testosterone replacement is a lifetime and life style commitment that should be explored with care.

Chinese Green Tea Diet – Healthy Way To Lose Weight

What is the secret of Chinese Green Tea Diet? The Chinese have known about the health benefits of green tea since ancient times, using it to treat everything from headaches to depression. Today, the study showed also the benefits of green tea for dieting.

People who drank a bottle of tea fortified with green tea extract every day for three months lost more body fat than those who drank a bottle of regular oolong tea. Researchers say the results indicate that substances found in green tea known as catechins may trigger weight loss by stimulating the body to burn calories and decreasing body fat.


Ranged from cancer, rheumatoid arthritis, high cholesterol levels, cariovascular disease, infection, to impaired immune function.

It has also been effective in lowering LDL cholesterol levels, and inhibiting the abnormal formation of blood clots. The latter takes on added importance when you consider that thrombosis (the formation of abnormal blood clots) is the leading cause of heart attacks and stroke.

Links are being made between the effects of drinking green tea and the “French Paradox.” For years, researchers were puzzled by the fact that, despite consuming a diet rich in fat, the French have a lower incidence of heart disease than Americans. The answer was found to lie in red wine, which contains resveratrol, a polyphenol that limits the negative effects of smoking and a fatty diet.


New evidence is emerging the benefits of green tea for dieting. Green Tea helps to increase the body’s metabolic rate and energy expenditure to help promote reductions in weight and body fat. This boost to the metabolism promotes a more active healthier lifestyle while helping you to loose the weight.

Green tea weight loss extracts can be consumed in many ways including as regular tea plus it can be purchased in liquid or tablet form but whichever way it is used it has an excellent record as a calorie burner.

Components of Any Sensible Weight Loss Program

A day doesn’t go by without someone I run into tells me how they are trying to lose weight and get into better shape. The amazing thing about it is; for every person that has shared this goal with me seems to have a different idea on exactly how to go about losing weight and getting into better shape. Some of them are using Jenny Craig, Weight Watchers or the South Beach diet. Most of them unfortunately are missing some key components from their weight loss program that would otherwise help them to achieve their goals and realize lasting results. Here I explain some of those essential components:

– Stay Hydrated:

– Vitamins & Minerals:

– Protein & Carbohydrates:

– Stretching:

– Weight Training:

– Aerobic Exercise:

– Rest:

Stay Hydrated: Water is among the top most important bodily needs to live and survive. Many folks are walking around in a constant state of dehydration and don’t realize it. Yes, your body needs water to survive, but equally as important it needs the water to perform many important functions. As an example; muscles are 90% water and dehydration can diminish their ability to function as designed. It is important that you drink plenty of water each day; about 8 full glasses.

Vitamins & Minerals: The food we are consuming these days, unfortunately, much of it doesn’t have the vitamins and minerals necessary for the body to function at peak performance. Your body will need supplements if you are to maintain good health. Vitamins C, D & E will be necessary along with niacin and iron to help the body to perform important metabolic functions.

Protein & Carbohydrates: A balance of meats, vegetables, nuts and grains are crucial to any long term weight loss program. The body needs amino-acids to build new cells and muscles as well as the glucose carbohydrates provide for the production of energy. An imbalance of protein and carbohydrates is not a long term weight loss strategy that anyone can maintain. Eventually the body will breakdown from the depletion of one or the other.

Stretching: Your muscles store a lot of kinetic energy and stretching is one of the most efficient methods for releasing this energy. Stretching provides many other benefits such as more flexible tendons and muscle fibers. The benefits of stretching regularly can enhance performance and help you avoid injury. Daily stretching is a key component to any successful exercise routine or weight loss program.

Weight Training: Many people in the past have avoided weight training because they thought they would develop gigantic muscles. But the fact is weight training accelerates the metabolism faster then any other kind of exercise. Working the muscles progressively and consistently will burn a lot of calories in a short period of time. Also stronger muscles are healthier muscles and will reward you with a better looking physique. Start up slow and build up the intensity as you progress.

Aerobic Exercise: Participating in an exercise program that is aerobic will help you burn fat your body has already stored away. Just 20 minutes a day, 3 days a week and you can lose 2 to 3 pounds of excess body fat. Both the regularity and duration of your aerobic workouts are important if you want to see consistent weight loss results. Once you begin an aerobic exercise program then stick with it.

Rest: This is one of the most neglected and overlooked aspect of a weight loss program. Rest is the time for the body to repair, replace and rejuvenate the bones, muscles and tissues. At least 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep per night is mandatory for each individual. You will have more energy and enthusiasm if you make getting sufficient amounts of rest just as important as the any other component of your weight loss program.

A more broad perspective regarding your weight and your daily habits can help you to achieve more satisfying and consistent results. Start off both slowly and gradually when it comes to making changes. The body reacts to small changes much better then abrupt ones and small changes are easier to live up to as well. Embracing the 7 components listed above and giving them their rightful place in your weight loss program will help you achieve the results you desire.

Camping 101 – 8 Tent Camping Tips For Beginners

I love to be outdoors and relish being surrounded by nature. When I rest my head on the floor of my tent, I feel safe and peaceful. When I see a deer, a snake or a bear, I feel joy and connection. Not everyone shares my comfort level. Last summer I took a good friend camping. She had never been camping before. While I’m the type of gal who mows her own yard, uses power tools regularly, and could probably fix my car in an emergency, my friend Carol lives in a condo, has her nails and hair done twice a month and typically has some macho guy in her life. I was shocked when Carol asked to go camping with me, but welcomed her company. Our trip went surprisingly well and here are a few tips that may help.

1. Prepare by doing some on line research. See what the camping area is like. Pick a pretty camping area that’s close to home and not too isolated. Check out temperatures, wildlife, recreational opportunities and any known dangers. If there is any wildlife in the area that could pose a threat, such as a poisonous snake or bear, find out how to identify the animal and what to do if you see one. Most likely, if you camp in a populated area, you will not see any wildlife other than the guys next door.

2. Easy does it. If you are going with seasoned campers, insist your first trip is a very short. I’d recommend an overnight trip for your first experience. If possible pick a camp site within a two hour drive from home. Also, insist that you are not included in any athletic marathon-type actives. Take a hike, but keep it less than 2 miles. If you feel like doing another hike later, select another hike less 2 miles. 2 miles in the woods is much more vinous than 2 miles at the gym.

3. Keep an open mind. You never know how you will feel surrounded by nature. Some people feel like they are born for the first time. Other people struggle with panic attacks and cut their trip short. If you find yourself feeling uncomfortable remind yourself this trip will end soon, do some deep breathing and see what you can discover for the rest of your trip. It’s very common with new campers, to experience joy, boredom, fear, and excitement.

4. Pack light but bring a variety of clothes to deal with heat and cold. Be prepared to let vanity go. Pack a swimsuit (even if you hate how you look in it), a warm outfit (like a sweat suit or a fleece outfit), a cool outfit (shorts and a tank top), and comfortable walking shoes.

5. Select and pack other items for comfort and safety. You’ll need a warm sleeping bag and pillow, a portable mat to place under your sleeping bag, drinking water (check with campsite), a working flashlight, toothbrush, personal hygiene products, bug spray or wipes with DEET, and food. Many campgrounds have lists of recommended items to pack. I like to carry a small pocket knife, a first aid kit, dental floss or a small rope, and a small handheld product called a screacher (this is great to use if you get lost in the woods).

6. Pack a few items to occupy your mind. Bring a comfortable chair and something non-electric so you can keep your mind busy. Books, magazines or crossword puzzles are good. It’s also fun to bring an outdoor game, like lawn darts or croquette. Many first time campers are not used to having so much free time and often struggle with boredom, unless their prepared.

7. Don’t take a solo trip. If you are single and want to try camping for the first time, try to connect with a group in your area. Many sporting stores know of well respected camping groups. If possible, always go with an experienced camper.

8. Take care of yourself. If you and your camping party get scared during the night, sleep in the car with the windows slightly cracked, doors locked and your keys in the ignition. That way everyone can get some sleep, but you don’t have to cut your trip short. If you get scared and your friends are not, tell someone you’re sleeping in the car, lock the car doors and crack the windows, but make sure your friends have the car keys so they can come to the car if needed. Most people learn to love sleeping in a tent, but others feel very vulnerable. Sometimes it’s nice to sleep in the car if you don’t feel secure in a tent.

There is nothing like the peace of laying in a tent, and listening to crickets and other wildlife as I drift off to sleep. Tent camping is a wonderful, inexpensive hobby. But, it’s not for everyone. If you like camping but want a comfortable bed at the end of the day, book a reservation at a state or national park. Many of them have affordable rustic cabins or hotel rooms that have great access to nature.