Muscle Relaxation Techniques For Anxiety Relief

Although not everyone who suffers from excessive blushing would describe themselves as a generally selfish person, most excessive blushers have some degree of anxiety at some point before, during or after a blush occurs.

You can learn a lot about how to cope with whatever degree of anxiety your blushing creates by learning some of the coping strategies that are helpful to people with generalized anxiety disorder. The strategies that are the most helpful for the most number of people are relaxation techniques.

There are several types of relaxation techniques, the most well-known of which is deep breathing. Deep breathing allows you to lower your level of anxiety by using your breathing to create a feeling of calm and relaxation. Many people, however, have a lot of physical tension and have a more difficult time getting that feeling of relaxation that they're after.

If you have a difficult time relaxing while doing deep breathing, you may want to begin your relaxation exercises by doing progressive muscle relaxation before you begin your deep breathing exercises.

Progressive muscle relaxation has been around for decades. Just like deep breathing, it's as simple as it is effective. All that you do is first tense and then relax muscle groups in order. When you tense a group of muscles and then relax them, they will automatically relax more than they had been originally. The particular order is up to you, the order we are describing is an example.

To begin progressive muscle relaxation, sit in a comfortable chair in a quiet place. Close your eyes and quiet your breathing. Tense the muscles in your right hand and count to five, then relax them. It does not matter how you tende the muscles. Some people will make a fist, others will straight out their hand. The key is to tense the muscles to a comfortable degree. Over-tensioning the muscles can cause discomfort, much the same as an overdone workout.

Moving on, tense and relax the muscles in your lower arm, upper arm and shoulder, one at a time, then move over to your left hand, arm and shoulder. Then begin go on to your head and face. You may not have noticed how many small muscle groups you have in your head and face. You can tense and then relax these muscle groups one at a time by lowering or raising your eyebrows, smiling or frowning or opening your jaw. Be gentle when you move on to your neck. Tense the muscles by gently moving your neck to one side and the other, forward and back, remembering to completely relax after tensing each muscle group. Move down your back, down your legs and to your feet until you have tensed and relaxed each muscle group in your body.

By the time you finish this progressive relaxation exercise, you will probably already notice that your breathing has relaxed and deepened quite a bit. Because your body has already become quite relaxed this is a perfect time to enter into your deep breathing exercises. Starting with a relaxed body will increase the effectiveness of any relaxation exercise program.

Why Keeping a Sleep Diary is the First Step in the Cure For Insomnia

Most people searching for a cure for insomnia do not want the bother of keeping a sleep diary. "What's the point," they say, "I already know I can not sleep, so why bother writing down the details?"

The answer is really quite simple. In order to find a cure for insomnia, you have to understand what's causing it. And in order to get to the real causes, you have to know all the specific details. That includes the minority yet very important pattens that make up your own personal version of chronic insomnia.

A sleep diary will reveal these gems of information that will lead to the ultimate cure for insomnia.

How to Start a Sleep Diary

You do not need a fancy bound book. Any old spiral-bound notebook you have hanging around the house will do fine. Keep it next to your bedside along with a pen so you can write in it just before you get out of bed in the morning. If you do not have it within easy reach, you will never use it!

What to Write in Your Sleep Diary

First, you need to write about your sleep schedule: what time you went to bed and when you got up.

Next, write down how many total hours of sleep you got. If you do not know for certain, just guess. If you were wake and restless until 4:00 AM and then can not remember what happened until your alarm rang at 6:30 AM, you can be safe in assuming you got somewhere around two and a half hours of sleep.

Note: when chronic insomniacs finally sleep, it often does not feel like real sleep – in fact, it's more like a black-out or brief amnesia – because of the combination of exhaustion and restlessness that's so typical in a long-term case of insomnia.

Now keep in mind there are many patterns of insomnia, and they can vary from one night to another. So if your insomnia pattern is one of sleep, wake, sleep, wake … or wake, wake, wake, sleep … or sleep, wake, wake … and so on … write that down in your sleep diary.

Next, write down what you did while you were wake during the night. Did you wander around the house and end up in the kitchen for a snack? Did you watch TV or go on the internet? Did you turn on any lights? All of these trivial details are important to include in your sleep diary.

Next, write down what physical complaints and discomforts, if any, you experienced during the night. Any indigestion, gas, heartburn? Pain or numbness? Headaches? Itching? Involuntary movements, like twitching or restless limbs that seemed to have a mind of their own? Breathing problems or sinus congestion or tickles in the throat? Hot flashes or sweating? You get the idea here. It's all fascinating sleeping diary material.

Next, write about the thoughts and feelings flowing through your mind while you were awake. How did you feel? Were you angry and frustrated? Were you depressed and grieving? Were you angry and worried? Maybe excited and energetic? Tense and wired up?

And what were you thinking about? Were you beating yourself up about your insomnia? Were you worried about a specific problem like how to pay your bills? Were you thinking about how miserable you would feel the next day? Regretting a lost opportunity? Fuming over an insult by the boss at work? Wondering how you will ever get all your work done? Working out the details of your next big project? Fantasizing about winning the lottery?

You see there are really endless thoughts possibilities, but do not let that stop you. It's really important to write them all down, as much as you can remember.

Finally, you should write down how you felt when you finally got out of bed. Were you very tired? Did you feel like you could finally fall sleep right at the exact moment you had to drag yourself out of bed? Or were you wide awake, restless, nervous? Did you have any aches or pains? What were your thoughts about the coming day? Were you excited and eager to start? Depressed and wishing you could stay in bed all day?

How Long You Should Keep a Sleep Diary

Keep it for a week at the very minimum. Two weeks is better. One month is best. Longer than that will probably just yield repetitive information, so you can quit your sleep diary after one month. Then it's time to go through what you have written and detect the all-important patterns and specifics that pertain to your own insomnia. Then you get going on the cure for insomnia!

Just What Is A Canker Sore?

The Aphthous minor ulcer, commonly known as a "canker sore", has been the focus of study and research for many years. Basically, it is a chronic, inflammatory disease characterized by a painful, oral ulcer that occurs with varying frequency. Here is the term "Recurrent Aphthous Stomatitis" (RAS).

Categorized as an idiopathic (origin unknown) disease, aphthous minor ulcers are frequently misdiagnosed, treated incorrectly or simply ignored. They are inflammatory lesions of the mucous membrane of the oral cavity which may include the cheeks, gums, tongue, lips, roof and floor of the mouth.

Although they have been studied and researched for many years, they are one of the most common, persistent and most annoying dental lesions of the mouth!

Manifestations of the disease can range from mild to severe and in some extreme cases, may hinder a person's ability to ingest foods, thereby making that person susceptible to possible malnutrition.

Although the cause is unknown, several causative factors are suspected including trauma, genetics, stress, nutritional deficiencies, diet, hormonal changes and immunological disorders.

Because the specific cause has not yet been determined, it has been difficult to find a definitive cure. Consequently, current recommended treatments are aimed towards alleviating the symptoms until they complete their cycle.

Some current treatment options include topical agents, systemic and topical steroids, corticosteroids, cauterization, antibiotics, mouth rinse containing active enzymes, laser treatments and any combination therapy.

Because most of these types of lesions are located in very inconspicuous areas of he mouth, it is very difficult and somewhat challenging to apply any topical agents that have been suggested.

The most common of aphthous stomatic ulcers (minor forms), usually occur in about 85 to 95% of all RAS lesions. They seem to be more prevalent in the female population during ovulation and menstruation cycles. They have about a 7 to 14 day cycle and hardly ever leave a scar.

A major aphthous form, usually appears with more than one, which accounts for 10 to 15% of all RAS cases. Obviously, more pain is associated with this type and their duration may last 6 or more weeks.

The third and most uncommon type of aphthous lesion is called a Herpertiform ulcer which accounts for only 5-10% of the cases reported. They differ from the simple and major forms of aphthous lesions because they can occur on both keratinized and non-keratinized tissue.

Overall, the majority of aphthous stomatic lesions effect an estimated 15-20% of the world population. One should be aware that an aphthous lesion can result, following dental treatment.

Some dental procedures can be traumatic to the tissue. For example, a dental needle injection, incidental bite on the lip or inner cheek or trauma from a toothbrush bristle or ingestion of a sharp food like a piece of very strong cheese.

That said however, authorities are in agreement that aphthous ulcers do not represent acute infections and are not considered contagious.

You should also be aware that aphthous lesions of the herpetic variety, can not be treated with antibiotics. Why? Herpetic lesions are viral in nature and are not susceptible to antibiotic therapy!

If you are a person who is susceptible to aphthous ulcers, let your dentist know it. He or she may be able to take the necessary precautions to help reduce the effect of dental trauma during dental procedures.

Aphthous minor ulcers are frequently misdiagnosed, treated incorrectly or simply ignored. They are inflammatory lesions of the mucous membrane of the oral cavity which may include the cheeks, gums, tongue, lips, roof and floor of the mouth.

The lesion is usually quite painful in the beginning and associated with redness, some swelling and in the latter stages, a whitish ulceration. It usually appears singularly, but can appear in clusters as well, but this is less common ……… Once the white lesion appears, there is much less pain to endure.

Initially, it is very sensitive to touch and hot spicy foods. Manifestations of the disease can range from mild to severe and in some extreme cases, may hinder a person's ability to ingest foods, thereby making that person susceptible to possible malnutrition.

Several causative factors are suspected, including trauma, genetics, stress, nutritional deficiencies, diet, hormonal changes and immunological disorders.

Because the specific cause has not yet been determined, it has been difficult to find a definitive cure. Consequently, current recommended treatments are aimed towards alleviating the symptoms until they complete their cycle.

Some current treatment options include topical agents, systemic and topical steroids, corticosteroids, cauterization, antibiotics, mouth rinse containing active enzymes, laser treatments and any combination therapy.

Because most of these types of lesions are located in very inconspicuous areas of he mouth, it is very difficult and somewhat challenging to apply any topical agents that have been suggested.

Primary care physicians and dentists should be aware and familiar with the management of aphthous lesions and be able to offer the therapeutic options that will meet their patient's needs.

5 Ways to Ruin Your Self-Defense Training – Part 5 – Providing Structure

Part 5: Avoiding The Fatal Flaw of Grappling

To survive the onslaught of a more powerful opposition, you need to be so light, soft, flexible, and sensitive, that to your opponent, you feel like a phantom or a cloud, dissolving like the liquid-metal terminator, materializing only for the millisecond needed for your strike's impact. –From the book Attack Proof: The Ultimate Guide to Personal Protection

Often preached, yet rarely practiced, this principle is essential to an understanding of how the weak overcomes the strong. Energy transfers to a solid object far easier than it does to an object without a fixed center of gravity. By bracing or locking up with improper timing or for sustained periods, the majority of fighters provide angles of structure for their attacker to clinch, push, pull or strike because they lack the proper free play (Contact Flow) and other sensitivity training which allows them to engage in the intricate practice of "liquid body / solid body" on a subconscious level.

Your body has to have the adaptable and fluid nature of water. At times you will need to be as illusive and invisible as vapor to yield and avoid, then as malleable as water to continue sticking before that split second when you become as solid as ice to deliver the coup de grace. You repeat this process of using Dropping Energy (a Guided Chaos trademark) continuously, striking with the intent to rupture organs and bust bones.

Once this quality is ingrained into the nervous system, one can practically obviate all forms of stand up grappling as well as double and single leg take downs, which I'll give an example of in the next subsection, "Embracing the Inevitable". The reason why it's so difficult to appreciate this is because most people have been conditioned to tense up or fight back when pressure is applied against them.

You need sensitivity to feel when it's appropriate to yield only an isolated part of the body (pocketing) or your entire root altitude, all the while remaining so close that your strikes are still unavoidable. It can take anywhere from 2 months to 2 years for you to reprogram your neuromuscular anatomy so that you can utilize these principles at high speed without conscious thought. It all depends on your previous experience and the wiring of your nervous system.

Embracing the Inevitable

There is nothing wrong with moving your sphere of influence to the ground. As described in the 1st section, "The Set Up", fighting your own balance and equilibrium in an attempt to remain right could cause disaster as it did for earlier UFC victims. Here, I will present a physical example straight from the video, "Kill the Enemy" on how to deal with a grappler's double leg takedown, which is one of the most common methods grapplers employ to take the fight to the ground.

Also, this method has been mentioned more than once in previous newsletters, yet there are still many who overlook it because of its extreme simplicity. That being the case, I will describe the technically correct method of doing a double leg takedown so that you can perform the movement on a training partner and experience the effectiveness of the counter for yourself.

Very frequently, the shooter simply places his head down and literally falls into the standing opponent, smashes the opponent's legs together and simply drives through in the same manner as a "football tackle", all the while sacrificing his own balance. This works in the NFL where the running back is simply trying to evade you, not guillotine your throat (also note that "clothes lining" is still illegal for the defense – and for offensive linesman as well). For the purposes of this newsletter, the tackle will not be utilized.

How to Do the Double Leg Takedown Breakdown …

For the preface, I'd like to add several important points:

1. This is supposed to be an explosive movement occurring in no more than 2 seconds as it should ideally only be performed within touching range.

2. This movement is expected to happen anytime the standing man's balance is shifting and in motion.

3. As you perform this demonstration with your training partner, the second point will not be factored in for several reasons.

A. The Sphere of Influence , "Attack the Attacker" methodology and KCD's foot-work cancels point # 2 as we never sacrifice our balance when stepping. Period!

B. We actually want the movement to work for the demo. In reality, we simply do not care either way, because we will be using his movements to our advantage.

The first thing you want to do is lower your level into something of a sprinters' stance. This is to facilitate an explosive penetrating step off of the rear foot so that you can go benefit the opponent's arms and into his hips and legs. At all times, it is important to keep your head up to avoid the guillotine and to make sure that your chest does not extend beyond your lead knee. Also, keep your elbows close to your body.

The point of having your elbows close to your body is to prevent under hooks, which could allow one of those cool grappling moves like an Inverted Iron Cross or Crucifix; basically any move where the attacker takes control of the shooter by hooking under his armpits and uses the shooter's momentum to roll him over or even roll over him to gain control.

What you are aiming to do is get mechanical leakage by hitting the standing man where he bends. Your hands will pull behind his knee and your shoulder will ideally hit him at his hips.

For the reminder of this description I will quote "Winning Wrestling Moves" by Mark Mysnyk, Barry Davis and Brooks Simpson:

You can penetrate by stepping either between your opponent's legs or to the outside of them. If stepping between them, step your left foot [penetrating foot] at least as deep as both of his feet and move your head just to the outside of his left hip [Your side should always be over your lead knee as you shoot in. For further penetration, keep driving into your opponent and go down to your left knee [same knee as penetrating foot], stepping your right foot up to the outside of his left foot [opposite side of your penetrating foot]. Ideally, you will lift him or finish him right away. [Important Note: In the book, there were several other finishes to a double leg takedown which I've decided not to include because the nullifies them all without even trying.]

… And Why It May Not Work

In Guided Chaos (KCD), the above move is extraordinarily easy to deal with. First of all, if you resist the grappler's energy, you are actually giving the grappler the structure to push, pull and lift you using his leverage, strength and momentum. Here again, you just use the liquid body / solid body concept.

When he pulls behind your knees, instead of trying some cool Guillotine or Inverted Iron Cross, simply go with his energy and pull your legs up toward your chest with all of your might as you fall to the ground while simultaneously and immediately going straight for the eyes with your hands by grabbing and using the head, or if necessary the ears as handles. In reality, you would gouge as deeply as humanly possible into his eyes with all of your might. But for training purposes, you are going to simply make sure you touch the eyes and / or gain head control. If the situation warranted it in a street attack, you would use head control to immediately torque his neck off.

By the way, you may fall on your side or your back, does not matter. After the fact that we do Dynamic Iron Palm (Slam Bag) Training and understand that extreme pressure or penetration into the eyes could effectively end the fight immediately, we do not ever get rid of one "magic blow" whether we are standing or on the ground.

We are fully aware that gouging someone in the eye will cause them to fight like mad men if we do not turn their lights off or at least gain head control. They will literally buck and thrash like a wild animal, if for nothing else than to tie the pressure.

(John Perkins tells the story in the book Attack Proof where he was being attacked by a monstrously string perp. And the only thing he could get was his pinkie which he proceeded to grind into his attacker's eye, driving him into convulsions.)

That's fine because that's what we want. Why? Because all the time, we simply wanted to force him to free our legs, which we've been trying to free the entire time anyway, using our leg strength vs. his arm strength. From here, we will use our boots as sledgehammers and shredders in an extremely ballistic manner, using each and every part of his body as the target until we can get away or he's incapacitated.

One way or another, there will be no grappling. Period! If he decides to grab one of your legs while you are kicking (although he should not have the strength to if you're moving correctly), use the concept of Shortening the Weapon, jack knife your body bringing one or both knees to your chest and then shoot them out, smashing his bones with your boot heels or scrapping them off like putty, whether it's his arms or his skull. Same concept applications for single leg takedowns, makes no difference.

Destroy, Do not Grapple

By the way, this move is really supposedly to only happen when going to the ground is inevitable, which brings me to my next point. Sprawling is cool for the ring, but in a street fight we want to end the fight as soon as possible. If you have the space to sprawl, you would be better off avoiding entanglement and instead performing multiple, repeated drop strikes on him at full force. Believe me; he'll regret it ever you after that. The harder and faster he comes in, the more damaging the punishment.

Remember, the whole point of grappling is control. This is a game that 2 must play at the very least and a dead end at worst. We do not want to engage our opponent any longer than necessary. Rather than suppressing his motion, react to his contact like he's covered in his own vomit or as if his skin is red hot. Or use this analogy: treat his contact as if he was a hot potato that you had to carry across a long room – you can not hold it, but you can not drop it either. Do not make the mistake of over-committing by grappling. Touch, release, evade, rip, tear, shred, gouge, bite, stomp, run away and go home … alive.

Because of the simplicity and the fact that this stuff frees your mind for real fighting, a person can train grappling for love or competitive purposes and still train these concepts for non-competitive situations.

To be continued …

Next: The conclusion of this series of articles on ways to ruin your self-defense training, including "Providing Structure," "Street Sparring," "The Flaw of Clinching," and "Reactive Freedom."

Is High Blood Pressure (Hypertension) Dangerous? What Should You Do?

Hypertension is sometimes referred to as the "silent killer" by some doctors. Even mild hypertension will lower your life expectancy to some degree if you do not get treatment for it. If you have untreated severe hypertension, the disorder may shorten your life considerably.

The reason hypertension is dangerous is that increased pressure in the circulatory system forces your heart to work harder to keep your blood moving. This extra work can damage the inner lining of your coronary arteries. Over a period of years fatty tissue called atheroma is likely to form where damage has occurred, and your coronary arteries may become narrowed or even close up completely. The result may be a heart attack or possibly congestive heart failure.

Moreover, if you have high blood pressure, your chances of having a stroke are four times greater than they would be if your blood pressure were normal. This is because increased blood pressure can lead to the formation of atheroma in the arteries that supply the brain with blood. Your kidneys may also be damaged, especially if you have malignant hypertension. Damage to your kidneys also leads to a further rise in blood pressure. The brain, eyes and other organs also can be affected by damage to the blood vessels that supply them with needed oxygen and nutrients.

Hypertension during pregnancy should be treated. If it is allowed to persist, high blood pressure can decrease the efficiency of the placenta, which supplies the fetus, or unborn child, with nourishment.

What should you do?

Have your pressure checked once a year. However, if you are taking oral contraceptives or estrogen pills, or if you are pregnant, you should have your blood pressure checked more frequently. Some large department stores and drug stores now have do-it-yourself machines for testing blood pressure. Also, many health, community, and work organizations sponsor free blood pressure screening programs.

Even if you show signs of high blood pressure at a first examination, your physician may want to test your pressure again before treating you. Because exertion, excitation, or some other physical or psychological factor can result in a misleading reading at a given moment, it is preferable not to make an immediate diagnosis.

In many cases, your physician will suggest changes in your weight, diet and life style. This will help in lowering your blood pressure. Here are some suggestions of what you can do to accomplish this.

1. If you smoke, give it up, or at least cut down as much as possible. Cigarette smoking is not a cause of hypertension, but people who already have hypertension and who also smoke have a greater risk of developing complications (malignant hypertension). Furthermore, there is a link between smoking and coronary artery disease. Since we know that the chances of heart trouble are increased by both cigarettes and high blood pressure, by giving up smoking you can half the risk instead of doubling it.

2. If you are overweight, choose a suitable weight loss program, stick to it until you reach a suitable weight for your age, sex and height, and then try to maintain that weight.

3. Give up salt rich foods such as salami and pickles, and salted foods such as potato chips and nuts.

4. Try to make your work schedule and recreation less demanding, and learn to minimize your stress.

5. Drink alcohol in moderation.

6. Try to join an exercise program. Try some relaxation techniques such as meditation, yoga, or biofeedback. Before trying relaxation therapy, you should consult your physician.

If lifestyle changes do not lower your blood pressure to a normal range, you will need some form of drug treatment. The drugs used to treat hypertension must always be administered under the supervision of a physician. Since hypertension is usually without symptoms, you may be tempted to stop taking the drugs because you do not feel ill. Because hypertension can not be cured, you will probably have to go on taking regular doses of medicine for the rest of your life.

One group of drugs, the diuretics, is often used first in treating hypertension. A diuretic helps reduce your blood pressure by expelling fluid from your body, thus lowering the volume of the blood. Diuretics make you urinate frequently, so it is a good idea to take them in the morning rather than bedtime.

Several other types of drugs are used to control high blood pressure, including beta blockers, calcium antagonists, and converting enzyme inhibitors. These drugs not only lower blood pressure, but also reduce the strain on the heart and help to prevent irregularities in its rhythm.

If you have had high blood pressure , but you control it carefully, you will avoid almost all risk of heart failure and significantly reduce the likelihood of stroke and coronary artery disease. Generally, the outlook is good if you have hypertension but you are being treated for it successfully. Regular visits to your physician and careful attention to your physician's instructions are an important part of effective treatment for this disorder.

Women and Heart Disease: Heart Healthy Fats # 3

Part 3: Eating the Right Amounts of the Right Fats

In Parts 1 and 2, we learned what the different kinds of dietary fats are and what the functions of each are. Now it's time to learn how to apply that information. Here are five "rules" to help you make heart healthy diet choices.

1. Avoid saturated fats. This rule has not changed much-it's still a good idea to choose lean cuts of meat, choose poultry over red meat and drink low fat milk. Read package labels-the amount of saturated fat is usually printed on them. Baked goods are often high in saturated fats.

There is some controversy about butter. Butter is a saturated fat, and some people still advise not eating it. On the other side of the discussion are people who point out that most margarine contains trans fat, which is worse for you than planned fat. Butter is also good for cooking, because it does not break down at high temperatures. This is an area where you'll have to consider the available information, and make a decision for yourself.

2. Avoid trans fats. We should see trans fat amounts printed on packages soon. Margarine and shortening may contain high levels of trans fat. Fried foods are often very high in trans fats even if they are fried in healthy oil because oils tend to break down into trans fats and other substances at high temperatures.

3. Use monounsaturated fats in moderation. Olive oil, nuts and avocadoes are good sources of heart healthy monounsaturated fats. The Mediterranean Diet, which uses olive oil for cooking and drizzling over food, is an example of a diet with a good balance of heart healthy fats.

4. Decrease your omega 6 fats. This is not as easy to do as you might think. Foods are not labeled with their omega 6 content. As a rule of thumb, most cooking oils are high in omega 6 fatty acids. Cereals, grains and poultry are other sources of omega 6 fatty acids.

5. Increase your omega 3 fats. Omega 3's are the heart healthy fat. There are two ways to get more of them: eat an omega 3 rich diet, and / or take a supplement.

Foods that are high in omega 3 fatty acids are green leafy vegetables, fish, grass-fed beef and wild game. Omega 3 eggs and milk are also available. Fish is the best dietary source of omega 3, and it is recommended that you eat fatty fish (which is highest in omega 3) several times a week.

There are concerns with eating that much fish, though. Nearly all fish are contaminated with mercury and pesticides, and eating too much can be dangerous. For this reason, many people choose to take an omega 3 supplement.

The most common omega 3 supplement is fish oil. If you take fish oil, make sure that it is "pharmaceutically pure" or "microscopically refined." These processes remove toxic contaminants. The American Heart Association recommends taking a gram of fish oil a day as protection against heart disease.

If you prefer not to take fish oil, try flax seed oil instead. It is a different kind of omega 3 fatty acid, but our bodies use it in the same way. You need to take a higher dose, though-at least two grams a day.

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Hotwifing and the Four Stages of Cuckolding

An important distinction we need to be clear about before we look at the four stages your relationship will pass through in your journey to a true cuckolding lifestyle is the difference between hotwifing and cuckolding, and infidelity and affairs.

The simple distinction is with hotwifing and cuckolding a man’s wife has other sexual partners with his knowledge, consent and approval. In most cases it’s even driven by the man, at least in the beginning, because it’s a deep seated fantasy he has.

Now we understand that we can explore the four stages I mentioned above. Almost every marriage where cuckolding becomes the norm passes through these stages, and it’s important to realise they are entirely natural and normal. The only thing I’ll warn you of is once you each the final stage, then it’s all really out of your hands.

You will be a cuckold, just like you wanted to be, and there will be no way of going back, even if you want to. We’ll see why this is shortly.

Stage 1: Ignorance.

This is where the man has the fantasy, but his wife knows nothing of it. She doesn’t even know she doesn’t know. If you asked her about having extra-marital sex, she’d immediately think of infidelity and affairs, and, assuming your marriage is strong, would likely be repelled by the idea.

Stage 2: Awareness.

Once you’ve broached the subject with her and explained the difference between hotwifing and cuckolding, and having an affair she’s aware of it and, unless she’s dead-set against it to the extent she won’t even talk about it, she’ll be looking for information on the topic and asking you lots of questions about it.

This stage can last a long time and it’s important not to rush things — because once she’s actually had sex with another man, then while she can stop and never do it again, it’s impossible to put back the clock and unfuck the guy.

Stage 3: Exploration.

This is where she’s done it and she’s liked it… and she’s willing to do more of it.

But there’s still some part of her that’s unsure and she’s telling herself the reason she’s doing it is for you. She’d stop any time you asked, and she’s constantly checking with you that it’s still OK.

Stage 4: Lifestyle.

After a while, your beloved undergoes a deep and profound change.

At this point, without her even realising it, she has grown into her role as a sexually liberated hotwife. She’s free from the constraints of society which, if she was a single woman, would likely judge her harshly.

Instead, she is a respectable married woman who has the benefit of unlimited outlets for her sexual energy.

At this point she is doing it for herself… and if you asked her to stop the wouldn’t.

It’s not that she’s cruel or unloving, it’s more that the deep and profound change has made her so she could see no reason for stopping.

Men whose wives progress to this stage are in a bed of their own making. They have asked, and even begged for this, and while they can stop it by leaving the marriage, if they wish to remain in it, then they have to understand she has lovers and that’s final.

She will likely involve you in her sexual exploits, allowing you to watch and listen, but it’s now no longer about you. It’s about her.

In the extreme, she may have a live-in lover, and while you are still No. 1 in terms of her love and loyalty, in terms of sex you may be relegated to a slave, serving both of them at their whim.

The thing to remember is this: be very, very, careful what you wish for.

Your Success Depends On Your Motivation

No matter where life takes us, we all need to be positively motivated in order to succeed. This is particularly true when things are not quite going our way and when we have undertaken business projects that do not seem to work out as we would have expected. It is at this point that fear can move stealthily into our way of thinking and a little irritating voice says that this is not going to work.

So, what can be done? Well, for the most part, it is important that you steer clear of negative people. These people can, at times, be your own flesh and blood. However, this is not the time to declare any doubts and fears that you may have in them. Positive and enthusiastic people should be taken out from your acquaints, family and friends. Assume the positive and confident outlooks on life that they have. Locate a good motivational book. Return and re-tackle the issues that are holding your scheme back, while you are thinking about success. It is very often a case of needing to tweak certain aspects of the operation in order to get it moving.

If research has been undertaken by yourself correctly, then there must be a reason as to why things are not going so well. Determination will pay in the long run. If you are learning to succeed, this will without a doubt provide the inspiration and energy that is required to get you off on the right foot and where you need to go. This is personal motivation in action. Positive results will be achieved when your energy and desire work together.

When things are not going your way, it is easy for you to become down and depressed. It is simple to just give up and give in to fear and misery. However, it is this approach that leads you to less success. Depression and loss of motivation can be increased when communicating with unenthusiastic people. In a sense, we are in actual fact what we deem ourselves to be, and we need to motivate ourselves in order to achieve.

In one way, it is more difficult to remain positive since it requires a great deal of energy. However, on the other hand, being negative takes your energy away, while being positive will produce energy. Motivation is produced when we remain positive, and results are produced from enthusiastic motivation. Nothing is a lost cause. It is just necessary to undertake thoughtful restructuring in the worst cases, or minor tweaking at best. All that is required to carry this out is the motivation and enthusiasm.

Life can be difficult. However it is imperative that you search for the positives in everything, including situations that prove to be difficult. It is important that you enjoy life and mix with positive, energetic people. It is simple for their enthusiasm and motivation to break through the shell of depression that is blocking up your life. Goals need to be developed, followed by you gaining the amount of motivation needed to drive in your life.

What Is The Risk Of Gastric Bypass Surgery?

As with any invasive procedure, when the body is invaded by foreign objects and either cut or punctured in some way, there is always a risk involved. This could include anything from a simple infection to more complicated bleeding problems. The risk of gastric bypass surgery is no different.

To be specific the risk of gastric bypass surgery is similar to the risk of any surgery. This includes: clotting, wound infection, hernia and / or ulcers. In addition, one of the specific risks of bypass surgery is something called the dumping syndrome. The dumping syndrome occurs when food moves too quickly through the intestines. This, in turn, can cause sweating, nausea, and / or dirrhea. Eating sweats or other types of jjunk foodî only serves to make the ddumping syndromeî worse.

Another risk of gastric bypass surgery is to end up suffering from poor nutrition. Because the surgery limits the amout of food intake at any given time, if proper nutrional guidelines are not adhered to the patient may end up not consuming enough nutrition to ensure proper health. In other words, because such a small amount of food is consumed it is important to make every bite count.

In addition, there is the risk of gastric bypass surgery of the patient misunderstanding the importance of his / her role in their continued weight loss program. The surgery does not eliminate the need for proper diet and exercise. If the patient does not follow the physicianís instructions it is possible for the patient to become so malnourished that hospitalization is required.

Also, because severely obese patients are frequently suffering from other obesity-induced diseases such as heart disease, death is also a risk of gastric bypass surgery. The statistics relating to death rate of gastric bypass patients vary. Some estimate that the death rate is one in two hundred. Others estimate the death rate thirty days after the surgery to be as high as one in fifty. Regardless, of which statistics you believe the death rate is a risk of gastric bypass surgery which must be taken into consideration when deciding whether or not to have this operation.

Tonsilloliths and Bad Breath

Tonsilloliths are a major cause of chronic halitosis simply because tonsil stones are made of the same elements that provoke bad breath. The only known way to treat one or the other is through an adequate prevention treatment.

Today we know that for some 90% of cases, chronic bad breath is caused by a bacterial imbalance in the mouth. These halitosis causing anaerobic bacteria are by definition oxygen intolerant and will therefore seek areas of the mouth that will allow them to survive and develop. These areas need three main attributes to favor their survival.

– A very low or oxygen free environment

– Protection from saliva

– A food source

People who have tonsilloliths tend to possess deeper than average tonsil crypts where food particles and mucus accumulate. These tonsil crypts are perfect for anaerobic bacteria which allows them to feed and reproduce in vast numbers. When halitosis causing bacteria find a safe haven and a food source in which to develop, their numbers can increase into the 10s of Billions! As a result, they release a profusion of odorous volatile sulfur compounds that are exhaled when speaking.

Because there are over 20 different types of anaerobic bacteria present in the mouth, the smells they release can vary from feces to gasoline. This is a typical condition of Fetor Oris, otherwise known as chronic bad breath.

Although tonsilloliths differ in size from one person to the next, their composition have basically the same constituting elements.

– Mucus

– Dead blood cells

– Anaerobic bacteria

– Fungus

– Food residue

In 2007, a medical study revealed that for 75% of people suffering from chronic bad breath, tonsilloliths were a major cause. That’s 3 out of every 4 people. When starting a prevention treatment for both halitosis, tonsils should be the first thing to check. Here are some of the symptoms for tonsil stones:

– Chronic bad breath

– Bad taste in the back of the throat

– Difficulty swallowing

– Swollen tonsils

– White spots on throat

– White tonsils

– Sore throat

– Tonsil Infection

The best way to treating tonsil stones and halitosis is by reversing the bacterial imbalance of the oral flora and limiting the presence of mucus and food debris in the mouth. There are several easy way to accomplish that with some discipline and a little technique using basic household products.

Eliminating Blood Sugar Level Myths

Whether you are young or old and live with diabetes, controlling blood sugar levels will help with how food, activity levels, stress and medicine can influence your health.

Diabetes takes place when a person's body does not make enough insulin or can not use insulin properly. There are two types of diabetes, type 1, which is usually diagnosed in children and young adults, occurs when the body does not produce any insulin. Only five to 10 percent of people with diabetes have this form of the disease.

Millions of Americans have been diagnosed with type 2 diabetes, in which the body either does not produce enough insulin or the cells ignore the insulin.

The blood glucose level is the amount of glucose (sugar that comes from the foods we eat) in the blood. To handle blood sugar levels, you should watch over the food you eat, the amount of exercise you do and monitor the medications you take. Taking a medicine, such as blood pressure medicine or birth control pills, can cause changes in your test results and should be discussed with your doctor.

A single high blood sugar reading more often than not is not a danger signal as it happens to everyone at one time or another.

Using a meter is the most accurate way to check your blood sugar levels. A blood glucose test determines the amount of sugar in your blood. To test your own blood sugar, a tiny drop of blood and a meter will be necessary.

Self-tests are generally done before meals, after meals and at bedtime. A self-test kit typically takes in the glucometer, test strips, lancets and a lancet holder that pierces the finger for the drop of blood.

For most people, good levels fall into the following ranges:

On waking up (before breakfast) 70 to 120
Before Meals 70 to 120
2 Hours After Meals 160 or less
At Bedtime 100 to 140

The income should be written down in a record book or you can use a small notebook for recording the results. The log should include the dates, days of the week, sugar levels and any additional information.

You should also keep a close look to see if your blood sugar level is too high or too low several days in a row at the same time. Should the levels be too high or too low, it might be time to change your plan. Levels that remain high over time can damage your eyes, kidneys and blood vessels while low blood sugar usually occurs from not eating enough food or taking too much medicine.

You should increase physical activity as part of your daily routine, cut down on the amount of food you eat and drink plenty of water every day, according to the American Diabetes Association. You should also educate yourself about how your body works as following doctor's orders may just not be enough.

More Children Hiring Personal Trainers – Combating Childhood Obesity

More and more parents are hiring personal trainers to work with their children to help combat childhood obesity. Thousands of children who are turning to professionals to get in shape. Last year, more than 1 million American youngsters used personal trainers to lose weight, improve fitness or improve their sports skills. Some statistics show that about 30% of children ages 6 to 11 are overweight while about 15% are obese. With PE classes on the decline, it’s no surprise that many parents are turning to personal trainers for help. If you’re looking for ways to get your kids more active, a personal trainer could be the perfect solution.

Personal Training for Kids

One reason parents are turning to personal trainers is to help their kids excel at sports. Another major reason, of course, is help in managing weight problems. Whatever the reason, the decision to hire a personal trainer should be up to you and your child. One thing we do know is that getting kids and teens to exercise can be tough…forcing your child into a type of activity or exercise he doesn’t like can backfire and not every child will enjoy working with a personal trainer.

If your child does express interest in working with a trainer, you might wonder what a trainer can do for your child. A good trainer can help her find activities she can enjoy while teaching her the proper way to exercise for her age and goals. A trainer can also teach her how to lift weights, which has a number of benefits for kids and teens such as:

  • More strength
  • Protection from injuries
  • Better health
  • Higher self-esteem and confidence

A trainer can help determine what your child is capable of and teach your child how to exercise safely, effectively, and most importantly, how to have some fun so these habits stick into adulthood.

Other reasons you may want your child to work with a trainer are:

  • Sports specific training. Athletes often need specialized training and kids who want to pursue sports may want or need help from a professional to strengthen their bodies, increase their power and endurance and protect them from injuries.
  • Guidance for exercise. You may feel at a loss if your child wants to exercise or lift weights and you’re not sure you have the expertise to show them what to do. If that’s the case, the right personal trainer can help you set up a good program that fits your child’s age, goals and fitness level.
  • Dislike of organized sports or group fitness. Some kids may not like typical PE or sports, but still want to get in shape. Working one-on-one with a trainer can be a safe environment for them to get fit and strong without feeling self-conscious.

According to the Max Fitness Academy in Sherman Oaks, CA, children under 18 accounted for 17 percent of the 6.3 million people who used trainers in 2006. Max Hany Mikhaiel, the Academy’s CEO and founder of the non-profit Drive Kids to Be Fit, partly attributes the jump to parents’ concern about child obesity: The American Obesity Association estimates that about 30 percent of children from 6 to 19 are overweight.

With cutbacks in physical education programs across the country, Max says that many children aren’t getting regular exercise in school unless they play an organized sport. Drive Kids to be Fit, was developed as a fun and effective way to teach kids good nutrition and exercise habits. The non-profit organization is a community partner in National Institute of Health’s We Can! Program, a national initiative to reduce the number of overweight and obese children. “The goal is to reach every single overweight kid in the country,” says Max, “by getting them involved in community activities . . getting them out of the house and into being active.” The 15-week program is currently available at Max Fitness Academy and free to qualified low income children ages 8 – 13 and will be launched in several local area schools this fall. Trainers and Nutritionists from Max Fitness Academy will visit schools to teach 1½ hour classes on good eating habits, weight training and cardiovascular exercise.

So today’s parents see a personal trainer as a phys-ed tutor who can help a struggling child get fit. Certified in teen and pre-teen fitness, fitness trainers agrees that self-esteem typically booms as a child’s body image improves.”When you are strong, no matter what your age, you are braver about everything else,” Max says. He defends parents who hire trainers for their children, equating the expense to that of other outside lessons like dance or music.

These days, it seems as though everybody is talking about overweight and obesity and what to do about it. Why is it such a big deal? Because, as a Nation, we’ve been getting steadily heavier. The number of adults who are obese has increased dramatically, even in the past decade or so. And it’s not just a slightly larger waistline that might come with middle age. It’s weight gain that damages our health. According to national data analyzed, it’s estimated that 65 percent of Americans are now overweight or obese, and more than 61 million adults are obese. Adults aren’t the only ones who’ve been getting heavier. Children have been getting heavier as well. The percentage of children and teens who are overweight has more than doubled since the 1970s. About 16 percent of children and teens are overweight.

The Downside of Overweight

People have lots of reasons to care if they weigh too much, both in the short run and over the long haul. In the short run, when a child is overweight, it can be hard to keep up with friends, play outside at recess, or wear the latest styles. Other kids at school can sometimes tease. Excess weight can be hard for adults, too. Clothes feel too tight, it’s not always easy to be active, and one can tire easily.

Those extra pounds also have long-term consequences for both adults and children. Overweight is linked to increased risk of heart disease, type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, certain cancers, and other chronic conditions. Health experts are especially concerned about the long-term consequences of excess weight in children. For example, type 2 diabetes was once rare in children. Now, it is estimated to account for 8 to 45 percent of newly diagnosed cases of childhood diabetes. Most cases of type 2 diabetes in children occur in those who are overweight. And overweight children are likely to become overweight or obese adults.

It’s one thing to think about the national epidemic of obesity, but as a parent, what can you do about it? The two main ways to encourage and maintain a healthy weight and prevent overweight are to make smart food choices and to be physically active.

That is what Max Fitness Academy’s Drive Kids to Be Fit and is all about–giving you lots of ideas that can help you and your family take action for a healthy weight.

Ancient Greek Pottery

The pottery of ancient Greece is one of the most tangible and iconic elements of ancient Greek art. The colorful vases and pots of the ancient Greeks have lived in large numbers and are today highly prized as collectors items.

Ancient Greeks made pottery for everyday use, not for display, the trophies won at games such as the Panathenaic amphorae (used for storage), are the exception. Most surviving pottery constituents of drinking vessels such as amphorae, kraters (bowls for mixing wine and water), hydria (water jars), libation bowls, jugs and cups. Painted funeral urns have also been found. Miniatures were also produced in large numbers, mainly for use as offers at temples. In the Hellenistic period a wider range of pottery was produced, but most of it is of little artistic importance.

In earlier periods event quite small Greek city-states produced pottery for their own locale. These varied widely in style and standards. Distinctive pottery that ranks as art was produced on some of the Aegean islands, in Crete, and in the wealthy Greek colonies of southern Italy and Sicily. By the later Archaic and early Classical period, however, the two great commercial powers, Corinth and Athens, came to dominate. Their pottery was exported all over the Greek world, driving out the local varieties. Pots from Corinth and Athens are found as far a field as Spain and Ukraine, and are so common in Italy that they were first grouped in the 18th century as "Etruscan vases". Many of these pots are mass produced products of low quality. In fact, by the 5th century BC, pottery had become an industry and pottery painting ceased to be an important art form of ancient Greece.

The history of ancient Greek pottery is divided stylistically into periods: The Protogeometric from about 1050 BC. The Geometric from about 900 BC. The Archaic from about 750 BC. The Black figure from the early 7th century BC. The Red figure from about 530 BC.

The range of colors which could be used on pots was restricted by the technology of firing: black, white, red and yellow were the most common. In the three earlier periods, the pots were left their natural light color, and were decorated with slip that turned black in the kiln.

The fully mature black-figure technique, with added red and white details and incising for outlines and details, originated in Corinth during the early 7th century BC and was introduced into Attica about a generation later; it flourished until the end of the 6th century BC. The red-figure technique, invented in about 530 BC, reversed this tradition, with the pots being painted black and the figures painted in red. Red-figure vases slowly replaced the black-figure style. Sometimes larger vessels were engraved as well as painted.

Bed Bugs Infestation, The Signs and Symptoms of Infestation

Do you know that there's a 90% probability that a famous hotel – a presidential or suite room in a five star hotel – may have bed bugs? Your favorite hotel may even have infestation too without you recognizing about it. So, you now ask, how would you recognize if you have it or no? What are the signs and symptoms of bed bugs infestation? If your hotel has it, what had better you do so that your home will not be infested when you get home?

Here are the usual signs and symptoms of infestation:

Bed Bug Rash

The first sign is itch. Bed bug rash beginnings with an itch but the rash will not be obvious yet when you feel the itch. The bitten are more itchy than mosquito bites. You will feel its sting while mosquito sucking your blood. The itch will only be felt an hour after the skin has been bitten. This is because of the anesthetics in their saliva. There are inject anticoagulant and anesthetics, to keep off blood clotting, before it will suck blood from your skin.

Bed Bugs Infestation

Bed bug rash will come out an hour after you were pierced. Their rash appear only after some days or week from being bitten for some people. This depends on the body's reaction to chemicals being secreted by them.

How does it look like? Its starts with a single, small, red (from being inflamed) round, bump which look more bloated than mosquito rash. When it becomes visible, there look just be a single, swollen bump. Days afterward, it will multiply. This only means that the bugs are biting you. But for some people, its look like an in-line bite marks. This marks will be found on people who moves a lot when sleep. These bugs go back fast to their hiding place once they've detected any movement around them.

When you've a rash, discover it for some days. They are itchy even after days that the bed bug rash comes out. Also, it does not cure as fast as mosquito bite marks. It stays bloated for weeks.

Bed Bug Odor

Next sign to search after the rash appears is the bed bug odor. How does it aromas like?

Hotel with heavy infestation has this offensive, sweet-like, musty odor that releases. You may explore for this odor below the headboard and mattresses. If your hotel has a wooden chair or a sofa with crevices, smell them too know it. Hotels with minimal or light infestation, the odor is not easily detectable.

How to avoid infesting your house with hotel bed bugs

The nighttime before you check out, move out every item from your bag. Bed bugs are good hitchhikers. They can live on for years without food and if they caught in your baggage, and it can start an infestation in your home.

Assure your wooden items. Their like wooden items, cloth and paper. These are the material in which they make their habitat.

Spray on a water based insect killer around your bag. Shake off your clothes. Wipe your bath tub dry and put your items and clothings in there.They will not stay on tub crevices since a tub is made of ceramic or marbles and it usually gets wet.

For your used clothing, have it laundered before you leave for home. Think of, this is not a simple matter. Once your bedroom has been infested, it will circularize fast to neighboring rooms. Getting rid of bed bugs is a very bully job. You even need to throw away your bed and sofa to wipe your house clean from any trace of it.

Just What Is A Canker Sore?

The Aphthous minor ulcer, commonly known as a "canker sore", has been the focus of study and research for many years. Basically, it is a chronic, inflammatory disease characterized by a painful, oral ulcer that occurs with varying frequency. Here is the term "Recurrent Aphthous Stomatitis" (RAS).

Categorized as an idiopathic (origin unknown) disease, aphthous minor ulcers are frequently misdiagnosed, treated incorrectly or simply ignored. They are inflammatory lesions of the mucous membrane of the oral cavity which may include the cheeks, gums, tongue, lips, roof and floor of the mouth.

Although they have been studied and researched for many years, they are one of the most common, persistent and most annoying dental lesions of the mouth!

Manifestations of the disease can range from mild to severe and in some extreme cases, may hinder a person's ability to ingest foods, thereby making that person susceptible to possible malnutrition.

Although the cause is unknown, several causative factors are suspected including trauma, genetics, stress, nutritional deficiencies, diet, hormonal changes and immunological disorders.

Because the specific cause has not yet been determined, it has been difficult to find a definitive cure. Consequently, current recommended treatments are aimed towards alleviating the symptoms until they complete their cycle.

Some current treatment options include topical agents, systemic and topical steroids, corticosteroids, cauterization, antibiotics, mouth rinse containing active enzymes, laser treatments and any combination therapy.

Because most of these types of lesions are located in very inconspicuous areas of he mouth, it is very difficult and somewhat challenging to apply any topical agents that have been suggested.

The most common of aphthous stomatic ulcers (minor forms), usually occur in about 85 to 95% of all RAS lesions. They seem to be more prevalent in the female population during ovulation and menstruation cycles. They have about a 7 to 14 day cycle and hardly ever leave a scar.

A major aphthous form, usually appears with more than one, which accounts for 10 to 15% of all RAS cases. Obviously, more pain is associated with this type and their duration may last 6 or more weeks.

The third and most uncommon type of aphthous lesion is called a Herpertiform ulcer which accounts for only 5-10% of the cases reported. They differ from the simple and major forms of aphthous lesions because they can occur on both keratinized and non-keratinized tissue.

Overall, the majority of aphthous stomatic lesions effect an estimated 15-20% of the world population. One should be aware that an aphthous lesion can result, following dental treatment.

Some dental procedures can be traumatic to the tissue. For example, a dental needle injection, incidental bite on the lip or inner cheek or trauma from a toothbrush bristle or ingestion of a sharp food like a piece of very strong cheese.

That said however, authorities are in agreement that aphthous ulcers do not represent acute infections and are not considered contagious.

You should also be aware that aphthous lesions of the herpetic variety, can not be treated with antibiotics. Why? Herpetic lesions are viral in nature and are not susceptible to antibiotic therapy!

If you are a person who is susceptible to aphthous ulcers, let your dentist know it. He or she may be able to take the necessary precautions to help reduce the effect of dental trauma during dental procedures.

Aphthous minor ulcers are frequently misdiagnosed, treated incorrectly or simply ignored. They are inflammatory lesions of the mucous membrane of the oral cavity which may include the cheeks, gums, tongue, lips, roof and floor of the mouth.

The lesion is usually quite painful in the beginning and associated with redness, some swelling and in the latter stages, a whitish ulceration. It usually appears singularly, but can appear in clusters as well, but this is less common ……… Once the white lesion appears, there is much less pain to endure.

Initially, it is very sensitive to touch and hot spicy foods. Manifestations of the disease can range from mild to severe and in some extreme cases, may hinder a person's ability to ingest foods, thereby making that person susceptible to possible malnutrition.

Several causative factors are suspected, including trauma, genetics, stress, nutritional deficiencies, diet, hormonal changes and immunological disorders.

Because the specific cause has not yet been determined, it has been difficult to find a definitive cure. Consequently, current recommended treatments are aimed towards alleviating the symptoms until they complete their cycle.

Some current treatment options include topical agents, systemic and topical steroids, corticosteroids, cauterization, antibiotics, mouth rinse containing active enzymes, laser treatments and any combination therapy.

Because most of these types of lesions are located in very inconspicuous areas of he mouth, it is very difficult and somewhat challenging to apply any topical agents that have been suggested.

Primary care physicians and dentists should be aware and familiar with the management of aphthous lesions and be able to offer the therapeutic options that will meet their patient's needs.