Sex After Stroke

Stroke takes its victims every day. Luckily not all strokes are lethal and many people carry on with their lives after stroke. Of course their life is not the same as there are many things to cope with let alone that live after stroke requires a complete twist in lifestyle.

Many have doubts if normal activities such as their favorite foods, sports activities or even sex are appropriate after a stroke.

We have compiled a short guide for those who wonder is sex allowed after stroke.

Do not rush things.

Surely the recovery process after stroke is a long path and it might not be possible to have sex right after it. Make sure you are relaxed and take one step at a time. Do not rush things just out of desire of because you feel guilty about your partner. Make sure your partner understands the situation well and doesn’t rush you too.

A U – turn in sex positions.

In some cases of stroke part of the body remains paralyzed. Do not let this obstacle stop you. Surely you will need some time to adapt mentally that things are not the same, however your partner is still the same and you are the same so it doesn’t really matter. Look for new sex positions to cope with the disability problem. For example if one of the legs and the hands is paralyzed, try the side by side position. Make sure that the stroke victim is positioned so that the “healthy” side is uppermost.

All the uncomfortable questions…

Mane men suffered from stroke as well as their partners are worried if they will be able to have an erection after a stroke. In general – yes it is possible as the nerves and the blood supply to the penis still work well enough to give an erection. However this very much depends on the type of stroke. In some occasions the medications used after a stroke may prevent a man from having an erection. In this case he should contact his therapist and ask for different medication.

Get help.

Getting on the track after stroke is not easy. If you feel you and your partner are unable to cope with this problem alone, seek help. You can contact an association dealing with relationships between people with disabilities, your GP, relationship concealing, or even the stroke association.

Do not believe myths.

Remember – an amazing and satisfactory sex life is possible after stroke. Do not believe myths that say sex after stroke is forbidden because it may lead to another stroke or a heart attack. There’s no reason why stroke survivors can’t resume usual sexual activity as soon as they feel ready for it. Make sure you feel comfortable, take it easy and everything will be just fine.

Glossolalia – Speaking in Tongues

Glossolalia is a speech phenomenon regarded by Christians as holy. It is mentioned in the book of acts and 1st Corinthians. Christians believe that when someone speaks in tongues it brings him/her closer to God. Speaking in tongues is said to be a gift from God yet not everyone can speak it unless he/she receives the Holy Spirit.

The term is interpreted in different forms. Others say it is a language not understood, others describe it as a meaningless set of words unfamiliar to the speaker. It was first experienced in Pentecostal church in the book of Acts and has been a common trend even in today’s churches worldwide. However, this phenomenon is not only experienced in Christianity but other religions too. Research has been done concerning this phenomenon around the world. It has revealed that both the psychological and the psychological trends are of two categories; – material and spiritual. Material forms include aspects like hypnosis, mental illness and learned form of behavior.

Scientific discoveries indicate that when one is speaking in tongues, the speech and the language centre in the brain is altered hence, the fabricated meaningless words. When someone is in this condition, the language centre becomes some how passive while the emotional centre of the brain becomes active. At this point glossolalics start behaving in a manner that reflects the state of their environment. Some people lose their consciousness in the process. This stage is serious to some people since a lot of drama may be experienced and some form of amnesia. The Christians believe that a person is fully possessed by the Holy Spirit.

Psychiatric by the name Andrew Newberg shows that this condition happens when one is in a state of meditation. The frontal lobe activity becomes active while the parietal part becomes passive. At this point it is difficult for a person to sustain self control. He continues to say that when someone focuses on something repeatedly, it ends up forming a series of circuits in the brain which turns out to be a reality. He performed brain scans on nuns and Buddhists which showed some abnormality in the hypothalamic activity. Besides the abnormality, too much prayer in a person life may permanently alter the brain.

People who experience Glossolalia are thought of having links with some mental conditions such as schizophrenia and hysteria. Schizophrenia is a condition characterized by delusions, hallucinations, disorganized speech etc. this conditions affects one’s way of thinking and behavior in general. People who suffer hysteria exhibit too much fear coupled with emotions. Since there is no much explanation that gives a concrete explanation, it would therefore be right to classify it as a form of a mental disorder.

Which Came First, Mental Illness or Chronic Pain?

It is well known that people with anxiety, depression, insomnia, PTSD or other mental or emotional conditions also suffer from chronic pain.

Recently someone asked me. Which comes first?

  • Does pain or fibromyalgia cause anxiety?
  • Does PTSD give you headaches?
  • Does insomnia cause migraines?

Inflammation is the key

  • Mental illness can be linked to inflammation in the brain.
  • Pain can be inflammation in the body.

What are the causes of inflammation?

  • Toxins such as bacteria, viruses, parasites, fungus, mold, metals, pesticides and other chemicals.
  • The other main cause is your diet.
  • The first big problems are sugar, dairy, gluten or gains.

Can physical trauma be the problem?

  • You get in a car accident, you hurt your neck or back.
  • That pain becomes chronic, your life becomes very different.
  • You become sad and hopeless.
  • You gain weight because you do not have as much physical activity.
  • You become depressed.

This is a case where the physical pain is causing the emotional distress but it is a real emotional reaction to a real situation. It is a real loss that you are grieving about. It is situational because if the problem went away so would the depression.

However here is how a physical trauma may cause deep emotional or mental issues.

If you were in a car accident, a victim of a violent attack, were involved in a lifetime of playing football or other contact sport you may have suffered a blow to the head or multiple blows to the head. If as a baby you were involved in a traumatic birth that could also be a significant head trauma.

  • These blows to the head could cause inflammation in your brain.
  • We can see what the inflammation does to your brainwaves.
  • The inflammation can cause the right side of your brain to more dominant than the left side.
  • This puts you into a “fight or flight” situation.
  • This is known as “hyper vigilance.”
  • You can’t sleep, any little thing sets you off, you become anxious, and you may get diagnosed as PTSD.

If your brain is hyper vigilant what does it do to your body?

  • The nervous system will be over stimulated, your muscles spasm, your heart races, and your breathing increases.
  • Your digestive system shuts off you can’t digest when you are anxious.
  • You get bloating and gas.
  • You may become more sensitive to foods because your body perceives everything as an enemy.
  • Your body even perceives itself as an enemy.
  • It attacks itself and you get diagnosed with an auto immune disease.
  • Over time you get chronic digestive issues, chronic inflammation, chronic muscle spasms. You can’t sleep so you never get time to heal.

That is how a head injury can be the cause of inflammation that leads to both chronic pain and mental emotional problems.

More precisely your autonomic (autonomic) nervous system is off balance.

  • Your brain controls your autonomic (automatic) nervous system.
  • It controls your heart rate, blood pressure, breathing and your emotions.
  • Some people call this the mind-body connection.

So what can be done?

  • With Brainwave Optimization we look at your brainwaves, turn them into musical tones and play them back to you.
  • You become aware of your own brainwaves and you brain re-calibrates itself. It is like tuning a piano.

When we get your brainwaves more balanced then your autonomic nervous system becomes more balanced. Then your mind/body connection becomes more balanced.

Who is a candidate for Brainwave Optimization?

  • If you had a head injury or emotional abuse or emotional trauma you are very likely to be a candidate.
  • Anyone who’s brainwaves are imbalanced is a candidate.
  • This is easily seen on an evaluation.

10 Ways To Get Rid Of A Headache

Headaches are common pains that anyone can suffer. They can be caused by many factors such as stress, working for extended hours in front of the computer to injury and migraines which may be triggered by allergies such as food. Whatever the cause may be, the fact remains that having a headache is very uncomfortable and may keep you from performing to your full potentials. One need not suffer so much because of it, especially if the problem is constant and may keep you from being productive. Headaches may come in different forms usually depending on the cause. So most definitely, before you could opt for any ways to get rid of your headache, you must know first what is causing it. The following are simple ways to get rid of headaches:

1. Maintain good posture and do some stretching. Poor posture while working can cause what are known as tension headaches. Staying in such a position for a very long time may cause the muscles of the neck and shoulders to tighten up. One way to get rid of this headache is to maintain a good posture while working. Every now and then or if you feel tension pains setting in, do some stretching to get rid of the headache before it gets worse.

2. Application of moist heat through a hot compress is also a good way to get rid of headaches. Get a towel and soak it in warm water and apply it on areas where you find pain and tension to rid your body of the discomfort.

3. In women, a common problem is headache that comes days before their period. This is usually felt as a pain directly behind the eyes. To get rid of this headache, women must eat foods that are rich in zinc, especially those that come from lean proteins such as lean meats.

4. Relax. The most common cause of headache is stress. Develop a healthy lifestyle which allows you to get enough sleep and rest. If you feel a huge headache coming in because of stress, get rid of this headache by taking a break from work and catching on some sleep.

5. Get a massage. Tension headaches, especially ones that come with pain that radiates through the neck and shoulders are extremely uncomfortable. A way to get of this headache is by getting some massage, especially on the scalp, neck and shoulder areas to release all the tension that have build up there.

6. Eat regularly. Do not skip meals because hunger and meal- skipping can also cause headaches. If you feel a headache about to start and you haven’t had anything to eat, take a break and grab a bite to prevent that headache from progressing further.

7. Drink lots of water. As much as possible, stick to the eight-glasses a day recommended amount of daily water intake. Water cools down the body and so when you feel a major headache, drink up to get rid of it.

8. Ice. Ice is known to be effective in relieving different types of pains, headaches included. So another option to get rid of your headache if to use ice. Lie down and have an ice pack placed on the areas where you feel pain and tension such as behind your neck, temples or forehead.

9. Kill the pain with pain killers. There are many over-the counter analgesics that are known to work for many forms of headaches. However, it is still best to consult a doctor first before choosing a pain reliever to get rid of your headache most especially if the problem persists for a very long time. It is best to work out with your doctor first what is truly causing the pain.

10. Watch what you eat. Some headaches are triggered by food. This is most especially true for migraine sufferers. So if you feel that your headache was prompted by something that you ate, stop eating that food and consult your doctor to determine whether this is truly the source of your headache.

Having a headache is an uncomfortable experience. It keeps you from performing your task and is counter-productive. Headaches have many causes and so to successfully get rid of that headache, it is best to try to figure out first what is causing it in the first place. Lifestyle still plays a major role in determining whether you headache problem is just temporary or will pester you for a very long time.

5 Kinds of Hair Loss

Hair loss happens everyday. It is perfectly normal for a person to lose one hundred strands of hair daily. While losing hair is one part of the cycle of hair growth, excessive and permanent hair loss becomes an embarrassment.

There are basically five kinds of hair loss:

1. Androgenetic alopecia. It is also called as the pattern baldness.

Androgenetic alopecia is usually heredity. A family history of Androgenetic alopecia can increase the risks of hair loss. Age is another contributing factor to this particular condition.

2. Cicatricial alopecia. It is also called the scarring alopecia. Cicatricial alopecia resulted from inflammation and is a permanent condition. Inflammation damages the follicle of the hair and causes scarring. New hair cannot grow due to the scars.

3. Alopecia areata. It is a result of an autoimmune disease. Nobody knows why alopecia areata occurs. Those who suffer from alopecia areata are healthy.

4. Telogen effluvium. Telogen effluvium is a temporary condition. It is a result of physical, physiological, and emotional shock. Distressing event such as the death of a loved one can trigger this condition.

5. Traction alopecia. It happens due to the pressure on the scalp due to too much hairstyling. Since traction alopecia is a result of constant hair pulling, it is the most preventable kind of hair loss.

Knowing the different kinds of hair loss is important. At the very least, you know how to prevent it. Even though this particular condition is not as damaging to health as cancer or stroke, it is damaging to your ego. You definitely prefer to have a full head of healthy and shiny hair.

Hair Problems – Homeopathic Solutions

Hair fall, breakage and poor quality (frizzy, dry) has become a major concern for every second or third adult or even adolescent today.

Ironically stress is a major cause of hair problems & losing hair even bigger cause of worry.

Here is some of the medical lingo, which a person usually hears from the doctor or comes across while searching on Google during his struggle through the hair problem.

ALOPECIA means loss of hair from places where it should be usually present- scalp, body.

Diffuse loss of scalp hair, commonly seen in females- termed as FEMALE PATTERN HAIRLOSS/ BALDNESS

MALE PATTEREN BALDNESS / ANDROGENIC ALOPECIA are hair loss affecting temples predominantly, followed by vertex. It’s the most common form of hair loss, prevalent in 30-40% young males.

TRACTION ALOPECIA- caused due to undue pulling or hair – tight ponytails or hair accessories.

ALOPECIA TOTALIS- baldness in entirety.

ALOPECIA UNIVERSALIS- loss of scalp & body hair.

ALOPECIA ARETA- hair loss in patches.

TELOGEN EFFLUVIUM is a scalp disorder characterized by the thinning or shedding of hair, may lead to baldness in the long run.

CICATRICAL ALOPECIA- is a type of alopecia where there is destruction of hair follicles leading to permanent hair loss; there may be burning, itching, pain & redness of scalp along with hair loss.

Hair loss, breakage & poor quality of hair can be attributed to a variety of other causes

  1. Physiological Conditions like- Pregnancy, Post delivery period, Menopause, Breast Feeding
  2. Scalp Infections or inflammatory conditions- Dandruff, Seborrhea Dermatitis, Psoriasis
  3. Nutritional Deficiencies- Iron, Vitamin D, C, A, E, B complex especially B6, Zinc, Magnesium, Selenium.
  4. Illness – Typhoid, Cancer, Liver Diseases
  5. Endocrine / Hormonal Disorders- Thyroid Gland Disorders, Renal Disorders, Pituitary Disorders, Poly cystic Ovarian Syndrome
  6. Drugs- Antihypertensive drugs, Corticosteroids, Oral Contraceptives, Anti- depressants, etc
  7. Mental Stress
  8. Overuse of Cosmetics/ Hair Products, Hair accessories and hair styles that may cause friction or make hair dry
  9. Genetic Predisposition
  10. Environmental factor- pollution levels, toxins in water & air
  11. Ageing


  • Correcting the underlying condition- scalp infection, taenia capitis, hormonal illness, etc, the recovery from underlying illness mostly ensures regaining of hair. Sometimes a systemic illness may lead to severe hair loss, which may be corrected by homeopathic medication.
  • Nutrition for Hair- Proteins, Minerals, Essential Fatty Acids. Hair, like most body tissue consists of proteins and for synthesis & repair of a number of micro nutrients is required.
  • Avoiding harmful agents-certain drugs, alcohol, nicotine (tobacco, smoking).
  • Avoiding overuse of dyes, cosmetics, hair styling products that may damage hair roots. Use of chemicals on ones scalp & hair should be minimal so that the scalp is clean & pores can breathe.
  • Hair massage to improve circulation is a tried -n- tested way to perk up dry hair.
  • Mild shampoo’s to keep scalp clean.
  • Medication- a therapy that suits the patients needs & inclinations could be, conventional medicines, homeopathy, ayurveda & naturopathy Keeping stress levels to minimum ensures a healthy body.
  • Building strong immunity to keep infections far off.


Homeopathy helps in treating the underlying causes like hormonal Imbalances, deficiencies, scalp infections & even hereditary hair loss to stop or slow down hair loss & promote new growth in men & women both.

With proper homeopathic medication, nutritional & hair care advice hair growth, quality & density show dramatic improvement.


This one of the commonest indicated remedy in male pattern baldness. Hair loss in females after child birth. Loss of hair from beard, eyebrows and other parts is also an indication for Lycopodium. Hair loss associated with liver disease is well treated by this remedy


Sepia is indicated in hair loss associated with physiological & hormonal disorder- pregnancy, lactation, post delivery, menstrual irregularities. Facial pigmentation or chloasma may often be seen in such patients.


Is another proficient remedy for baldness in men. Alopecia in females, associated with hormonal disorder like Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. Scalp infections like boils, taenia capitis, seborrhic dermatitis are also an indication for Silicea.


Calc Carb & Calc Flour is frequently prescribed for hair problems associated with hormonal disturbance in men & women both who corroborate with the respective constitution types.


This is indicated in alopecia areta, male & female pattern baldness. Also indicated in scalp infections like dermatitis, psoriasis etc.


Alopecia associated with delivery, lactation & chronic illness best responds to Natrum Mur. That triggered by an emotional event – grief, loss of a loved one or emotional trauma leading to depression like state is a very prominent indication of this remedy.


This remedy is similar to Natrum Mur in its indications. Commonly indicated in alopecia universalis or totalis.


Hair falling in handfuls, patchy hair loss in men & women of Phosphorus Constitution Type. Dryness, brittleness and hair loss from other body parts is also an indication for phosphorus.


This is a nosode. Indicated in dry, brittle, splitting hair, associated with scalp conditions like psoriasis, dermatitis, taenia infections.


This is indicated in dry, brittle hair which may break on least touch. Alopecia or Baldness in young males responds very well to this remedy.


Is often useful is hair loss in females suffering from Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. A patient of the Apis Constitutional Type response promptly to this remedy, whether administered for hair problems, allergy or any other complaint.


This remedy is indicated in a number of illnesses with associated hair disorders. Scalp & skin infections, inflammatory illness like psoriasis, dermatitis, and taenia capitis are competently treated & cured by Sulphur.

Other remedies often useful in treated in hair loss are Selenium, Staphysagria, Baryta Carb, Thuja, Medorrhinum, Ignatia, Kali Carb, Tuberculinum or any Homeopathic Remedy that suits the totality of symptoms & constitutional type of the patient.

How to Get Rid of Itchy Ears

Ears are one of the sensitive parts of the body, and any ear problems should be paid attention closely and be treated immediately with right techniques. One of these is having itchy ears, which is not only uncomfortable but irritating as well.

There are several reasons that could cause itchiness. One of them is the wax build up, which acts as a barrier from dust and foreign dirt as well as lubricant in the ear canal. Excessive and too little amount of wax can cause itchiness in the ear. Excess ear wax can cause hearing loss and the feeling of ear fullness. Another reason that can cause itchiness in the ear is skin problems such as eczema, seborrheic dermatitis and psoriasis. Such skin problems may lead to severe scratching of the ear that will make the ear susceptible to infections like   otitis  externa or inflammation of the outer part. Itchy problems can also occur inside the ear canal that is caused by fungal infections due to extreme exposure to water. Swimmers usually experience this type of ear problem since they are exposed to water most of the time. Other itchy problems can also be caused by hypersensitivity to shampoos and hairsprays, and even a bug that got stuck in the ear canal.

An itchy ear can be treated with home remedy techniques. A few drops of olive oil, mineral oil and vegetable oil will soothe and relieve the itchiness in your ear. You may also use olive oil along with a few cloves of garlic. Boil the mixture and let it cool for a while, then you can place a few drops into your ear to get rid of the itchiness.

Meanwhile, you can take antihistamine medications when the itchiness in your ear was caused by allergies. However, it is always advisable to consult with your doctor first before taking any medications. If the itchiness was caused by constant exposure to water or even after bath, it is important to keep your ears dry and apply anti-fungal topical medication if there are any present fungal infections. You can also place a heating pad over the ears after a period of exposure to water.

You should be reminded all the time that scratching your ear will just cause further ear infection, and can even get itchier. You are not recommended to insert any object into your ear for scratching since you might damage your eardrum. Even after using the home remedy techniques mentioned, it is still best to consult your doctor about your condition.

The Abc’s of Good Manners

Pardon me, would you like to have a seat? When was the last time you heard anyone offering to give up his seat? Maybe deafness put a claim on my hearing. Point of fact is, many times I have watched those octogenarians holding on to poles while riding buses and trains; I have seen them standing on long lines and waiting while their feeble bodies bent like broken twigs of a tree nearing a fall. That phrase is near extinction, to say the least. I had often heard many people use it back then.

Today, in my head the same tune seems to be playing. Plain old good manners seem to be disappearing from our modern day society. No more good mornings, no more holding doors, forget about giving up our seats to the elderly, no more I’m sorry, no more excuse me, and definitely no showing of appreciation for something that we did when we did not have to. Come on! Tell me that you don’t know what I am talking about here. The word is Thank You, and these days most of us don’t use it enough to emphasize its true meaning.

We take for granted that which our ancestors worked so hard in building. Good manners are not equivalent to the produce we hastily buy in the supermarket. They are not files, pictures or videos we can download from the Internet, and they are definitely not cheap artifacts available at the 99 cent store. They are the sum total of what we learned from our parents less whatever couldn’t stick to our brain or was lost due to peer interference.

But, then again, back in the good old days, it seems like parents were more concerned with drilling into their siblings’ heads more of the basic things and manners were always at the top of their list. Mind you, there were no “Magic Tricks” for teaching them either. There was nothing, back then, that a good slap on the mouth or a back of the hand slap across the face wouldn’t fix. Imagine what that would do to the kids of today: the ones who are so resilient to change, those who couldn’t or wouldn’t tolerate to hear the orders, let alone to comply with them. “Chew with your mouth close! No belching at the table! Don’t talk back to grandma! Sit up straight! Cover your mouth when you cough! Pull up your pants! Then again, those were the ways of our forefathers. Today, you might try an assortment of these orders. Notwithstanding, you take the risk of being scolded by your own rude bundle of joy. Ironic, isn’t it?

Back in the days, manners were taught sitting at the table, preferentially, around dinnertime, but its effects were boundless. That’s not the case nowadays. Of course, we should not condone the excessive abusive behavior of some parents. You know, no one should tie his child to a radiator because he misbehaves. No one should lock his child down in the basement, no one should put out cigarette butts on his child’s skin, and most definitely no one should be starving his child to death. Regardless, there were and still are ways to enforce and preserve those God giving moments. The ones we keep trapped in our minds and never stop telling. You know, “well my mother used to…” and so on and so forth.

Nowadays, some parents seem to be more into their next trip to the mall blindly watching their own kids shoving and pushing everybody, spilling drinks and dumping garbage all over with little or no regards whatsoever for that miracle word excuse me. Parents are fully absorbed and mostly preoccupied with trivialities. “I must check my Email.” “I forgot my iPod.” They are yapping on their cell phone as they walk, dragging their children, instead of pointing to the lesson of the day. “RESPECT.” How can these modern parents honestly expect to fix the problem? They insist in bringing some of these absurdities to the round table precisely at dinnertime. They themselves are teaching their children to confuse bad manners with multitasking.

Bottom line is that kids today are not learning their manners and a good number of us are forgetting them. Perhaps we should blame society for putting at our disposition the many technological gadgets that seem to be training and disorienting the kids of today and slowly but surely contributing to the annihilation of our not so deeply rooted values. So buckle up, keep the leash tight, and your pockets ready. The price will be hefty. Etiquettes schools are processing applications. Nonetheless, to the few needles in the hay sack who remember their manners I sincerely commend you for holding on to something priceless.

© Daniell Fedrón November 9, 2007

Handicapped Is Not A Disability

Anything that impairs the success of an effort by a person is called as ‘a Handicap.’ In other words, it’s a condition that affects the performance of a person. The handicap might be of mental or physical nature or both. Many people think that having some problem in the body is the disability. The handicapped mind is the biggest defect one should worry, and not the physical disabilities like blindness, dumb, deaf, etc.

Many healthy and educated people tend to display the disability of different kinds. What else will you call the following misbehavior? Throwing the empty cola cans, cigar butts, and other wastes on the road, driving the car to the gym that is hardly 100 meters from the house, spitting in the public place, an unemployed person looking for a job to suit his educational level, terrorists killing the innocent people, politicians squandering the public money, and the restaurants throwing the unused food in the dustbins. Actually, these are the manifestations of the disabled and unsound minds. They actually symbolise the inabilities only.

In contrast to the above, the attitudes to convert even the challenges of life into the prospects deserve our appreciation. This latter quality is seen in many people who are less privileged by virtue of physical disability, but they mustered courage and determination to excel and contribute to the society.

A deaf and mute person sold his tiny land, designed and built a twin seat ultralight aircraft with the used parts and scrap materials. The small aircraft that sprayed the pesticide over the rubber plantations invoked him to pursue with the pilots who gave the materials and guidance. A couple, travelling in the train, conducted themselves in a more civilized way by closing the door of the coach without a thud and reaching their place safely. What is so special in this, you may think. The couple is a set of blind people.

Thomas Alva Edison, the father of numerous inventions, had a learning disability in the first 12 years of his life. John Milton, the noted English poet, became blind when he was 43 years old, but wrote the famous poem ‘Paradise Lost.’ Sudha Chandran, an Indian actress and dancer, had one leg amputated due to the negligent medical care after a road mishap. However, she is brave enough to resume her dance with a prosthetic foot.

Beethoven, the best music composer, ever known the world over, achieved many feats despite being completely deaf for the last 25 years of his life. Hellen Keller, an American author and political activist, was the first deaf and blind person to get a Bachelor of Arts degree, and she campaigned for women’s welfare and workers’ rights. Franklin Roosevelt, the ex-U.S. president, though confined to the wheelchair due to the paralysis of his body below the waist, successfully guided his nation through the Second World War.

Despite the inherent difficulties faced by the handicapped people, they put up a gallant show and win recognition and accolades. One common and amazing aspect found among them is the special skill displayed by them. In view of this uniqueness, such people are no more called as ‘ Disabled or Handicapped’ but as ‘Differently-Abled.’ Let’s appreciate and encourage the special talents of them, and NOT underestimate their worth. A Defective physique is acceptable, but not a Mind with filth and flaws.

Speak Naturally, Speak Effectively – Public Speaking Training

There is not one perfect way to give a speech, but as many perfect ways as there are people, although to speak effectively you must speak naturally.

Martin Luther King had the cadence and fervor of a preacher; President Clinton had a down-home charisma; and Roosevelt’s Fireside Chats, in which he addressed the American people, over the radio, in his modulated and patrician way, made each listener feel he was speaking directly to him or her.

They were able to speak effectively, exceedingly so, because each was true to himself, and consequently could speak naturally.

Everyone is an original. But, unfortunately, a lot of speakers (and people in general) spend their days wishing they were somebody else.

The actor-trainers in our company are often told by those they coach in public speaking, that they cannot excel because unlike speaker so-and-so they are reserved, shy, unused to displaying emotion, have a regional accent, or a   speech   impediment , (the list goes on.)

These can all be good things, including the  speech   impediment , as audiences admire people who gracefully accept and work with their limitations; and shyness or reserve can be attractive, as long as you do not fight them, but instead speak naturally.

You need not be a highly charged and emotional speaker to speak effectively. But you must be in harmony with your nature, true to who you are.

Fiorello LaGuardia always seemed true and natural. Affectionately dubbed “Little Flower” (the English equivalent of Fiorello), he was a character. At a portly five foot two, he was a complex, hot-tempered, ethical dynamo; spoke seven languages; and was a Republican-Episcopalian who had been raised in Arizona by a Jewish mother and an Italian-Roman Catholic-turned-atheist father. He is considered by many to have been New York’s greatest mayor. And he had an earthy way of expressing himself.

In 1939, King George VI and Queen Elizabeth became the first monarchs to visit the United States. In preparation, Americans had gone to great lengths to observe protocol, nervously studying what to say, what not to say, what to do, what not to do.

In New York City, amidst much fanfare, the Queen made a lengthy, formal speech in her clipped accent, and archly reserved manner. When at last it ended, legend has it that LaGuardia, joining her at the podium, exclaimed, “You sure said a mouthful Queenie!”

One little sentence from “Little Flower” and protocol went down the drain. Were people scandalized? No, they were elated. Their Majesties took it in stride as well. An hilarious example of someone who could speak naturally, be himself to the hilt at a lectern, with resultant success.

And to quote the revolutionary 20th century choreographer, Martha Graham, “There is a vitality, a life force…that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you, the experience is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and be lost…”

In other words, speak naturally, speak effectively, on the podium (and off). To thine own self be true.

Doorbell Repair For Ding Dongs

How to fix that shy doorbell button or doorbell itself if people are coming to your door and instead of the familiar ding dong or chimes, the only sound you hear is that of knuckles rapping or the door knocker knocking.

There are three parts to a doorbell: The doorbell button, the doorbell itself which most of the time includes the transformer and the wiring.

The Doorbell Button.

In my experience, this is not only the easiest to repair, but it is the most common reason doorbells refuse to obey your finger. Obviously, if the button itself is pushed in and does not pop back out, say the return spring is broken or the button has lodged itself in and won’t show its face, the best thing to do is replace it.

Doorbells usually run on low voltage direct current as contrasted to your household electricity which is generally higher voltage and is alternating current. This means that although it is safer to work on the doorbell than the regular household electrical system, I always advise DIY’s to turn off the power to the system they want to work on.

I want you to run one test before turning off the power. Pry, unscrew, or pull the reticent doorbell button away from the wall, depending on how it is attached. (TIP: If you buy a replacement doorbell button, you can “reverse engineer” the installation to see how to get access to the wiring.) Carefully tighten the terminal post screws. Then push the doorbell button. If it works, zip it up by pushing back or screwing back the doorbell button. If it does not work, bridge the terminals of the doorbell button with a flat bladed screw driver. Ding dong. Eureka. If it is still mute, put the doorbell button back into place and turn off the electricity to this system at the panel box.

The Doorbell

The doorbell itself, which includes the transformer, is the next easiest thing to replace. Once the power is turned off, open up the doorbell by taking off its cover, unscrewing it from the wall, disconnecting the wires and reversing the process with a new doorbell.

The Wiring

Checking the wiring for continuity is also pretty easy using a continuity tester. However, fixing faulty wiring by trying to replace it can be a gigantic waste of time, not to mention very frustrating. If it is the wiring, you have got a bit of a problem because you cannot realistically fix it by repairing the wiring. Fishing new wiring through your walls using the old wire to pull it works a lot better in theory than it does in my world. I have tried it many times. If I really have to do this, I now solder the new wire to the old and hope that the electrician who installed it in the first place did not staple or tack it in place. I have spent too much time and energy twisting wires together, attaching them together with tape, etc., and having them pull apart inside of the wall to do it without solder.

The Wireless Solution

However, the wonders of modern technology have provided a solution: there are now wireless doorbells that save a lot of wear and tear on both you and the plaster. In fact, unless the problem is a loose connection at the doorbell button (possible) or at the doorbell itself (unlikely), replacing the whole thing with a wireless system is the way to go.

© 2007 Complete Books Publishing, Inc.

Lord Byron’s "She Walks in Beauty"

Lord Byron’s opening couplet to “She Walks In Beauty” is among the most memorable and most quoted lines in romantic poetry. The opening lines are effortless, graceful, and beautiful, a fitting match for his poem about a woman who possesses effortless grace and beauty.

Life in England

Lord Byron was born George Gordon Noel Byron in London in 1788. He became a Lord in 1798 when he inherited the title and the estate of his great-uncle. Byron’s mother had taken him to Scotland for treatment for his club foot, but she brought him back to England to claim the title and the estate.

Byron was privately tutored in Nottingham for a short period. He then studied in Harrow, Southwell, and Newstead, and finally at Trinity College. Byron discovered a talent for writing poetry and published some early poems in 1806 and his first collection, called Hours of Idleness, in 1807 at the age of 19. When he turned age 21 he was able to take his seat in the House of Lords.

However, Lord Byron left England for two years with his friend, John Hobhouse, to travel through Europe. They toured Spain, Malta, Greece, and Constantinople. Greece especially impressed Byron and would create a recurring theme in his life.

After returning to England Lord Byron made his first speech to the House of Lords. Later that year he published a “poetic travelogue” titled, Childe Harold’s Pilgrimage, a respectable collection of verses about his recent travels in Europe. The collection earned Lord Byron lasting fame and admiration. Lord Byron had become a ladies’ man and the newly earned celebrity brought him a series of affairs and courtships.

Lord Byron married Anna Isabella Milbanke in 1815 and his daughter, Augusta, was born later that year. However, the marriage did not last long. In early 1816 Anna and Augusta left Lord Byron and later that year he filed for legal separation and left England for Switzerland, a self-imposed exile.

Life in Europe

While in Switzerland Lord Byron stayed with Percy Bysshe Shelley, a prominent metaphysical and romantic poet, and had an illegitimate daughter, Allegra, with Claire Clairmont. After that affair ended, Lord Byron and his friend, John Hobhouse traveled through Italy, settling first in Venice, where he had a couple more affairs, including an affair with the nineteen year old Countess Teresa Guicciolo. Here Lord Byron began his most famous and most acclaimed work, the epic poem Don Juan.

Lord Byron and Teresa moved to Ravenna, then to Pisa, and then to Leghorn, near Shelley’s house, in 1821. The poet Leigh Hunt moved in with Lord Byron later that year after Shelley drowned off the coast near Leghorn in a storm. Lord Byron contributed poetry to Hunt’s periodical, The Liberal, until 1823 when he took the opportunity to travel to Greece to act as an agent for the Greeks in their war against Turkey.

Lord Byron used his personal finances to help fund some of the battles by the Greeks against the Turks. He even commanded a force of three thousand men in an attack on the Turkish-held fortress of Lepanto. The siege was unsuccessful and the forces withdrew. At this time Lord Byron suffered one or two epileptic fits. The remedy of the day, blood-letting, weakened him.

Six weeks later, during a particularly chilly rainstorm, Lord Byron contracted a severe cold. The accompanying fever was treated by repeated bleeding by trusted physicians, but his condition worsened until he eventually slipped into a coma and died on April 19, 1824.

Lord Byron was a hero in Greece and was deeply mourned there. His heart was buried in Greece and his body was sent to England where it was buried in the family vault near Newstead. He was denied burial in Westminster Abbey because of the perceived immorality of his life and numerous controversies. Finally in 1969, 145 years after his death, a memorial was placed in the Poets’ Corner of Westminster Abbey, commemorating his poetry and accomplishments.

Shortly after his arrival in Greece, Lord Byron had written these appropriate lines.

“Seek out–less often sought than found–

A soldier’s grave–for thee the best

Then look around, and choose thy ground,

And take thy rest.”

An interesting and exceptional biography of Lord Byron’s life was written in 1830 by a contemporary and friend, John Galt, titled, The Life of Lord Byron. The 49 chapters give a good measure of Lord Byron’s complexity.

“She Walks in Beauty”

In June, 1814, several months before he met and married his first wife, Anna Milbanke, Lord Byron attended a party at Lady Sitwell’s. While at the party, Lord Byron was inspired by the sight of his cousin, the beautiful Mrs. Wilmot, who was wearing a black spangled mourning dress. Lord Byron was struck by his cousin’s dark hair and fair face, the mingling of various lights and shades. This became the essence of his poem about her.

According to his friend, James W. Webster, “I did take him to Lady Sitwell’s party in Seymour Road. He there for the first time saw his cousin, the beautiful Mrs. Wilmot. When we returned to his rooms in Albany, he said little, but desired Fletcher to give him a tumbler of brandy, which he drank at once to Mrs. Wilmot’s health, then retired to rest, and was, I heard afterwards, in a sad state all night. The next day he wrote those charming lines upon her–She walks in Beauty like the Night…”

The poem was published in 1815. Also in that year Lord Byron wrote a number of songs to be set to traditional Jewish tunes by Isaac Nathan. Lord Byron included “She Walks in Beauty” with those poems.

She Walks in Beauty


She walks in beauty, like the night

Of cloudless climes and starry skies;

And all that’s best of dark and bright

Meet in her aspect and her eyes:

Thus mellow’d to that tender light

Which heaven to gaudy day denies.


One shade the more, one ray the less,

Had half impair’d the nameless grace

Which waves in every raven tress,

Or softly lightens o’er her face;

Where thoughts serenely sweet express

How pure, how dear their dwelling place.


And on that cheek, and o’er that brow,

So soft, so calm, yet eloquent,

The smiles that win, the tints that glow,

But tell of days in goodness spent,

A mind at peace with all below,

A heart whose love is innocent!

Discussion of the Poem

The first couple of lines can be confusing if not read properly. Too often readers stop at the end of the first line where there is no punctuation. This is an enjambed line, meaning that it continues without pause onto the second line. That she walks in beauty like the night may not make sense as night represents darkness. However, as the line continues, the night is a cloudless one with bright stars to create a beautiful mellow glow. The first two lines bring together the opposing qualities of darkness and light that are at play throughout the three verses.

The remaining lines of the first verse employ another set of enjambed lines that tell us that her face and eyes combine all that’s best of dark and bright. No mention is made here or elsewhere in the poem of any other physical features of the lady. The focus of the vision is upon the details of the lady’s face and eyes which reflect the mellowed and tender light. She has a remarkable quality of being able to contain the opposites of dark and bright.

The third and fourth lines are not only enjambed, but the fourth line begins with an irregularity in the meter called a metrical substitution. The fourth line starts with an accented syllable followed by an unaccented one, rather than the iambic meter of the other lines, an unaccented syllable followed by an accented one. The result is that the word “Meet” receives attention, an emphasis. The lady’s unique feature is that opposites “meet” in her in a wonderful way.

The second verse tells us that the glow of the lady’s face is nearly perfect. The shades and rays are in just the right proportion, and because they are, the lady possesses a nameless grace. This conveys the romantic idea that her inner beauty is mirrored by her outer beauty. Her thoughts are serene and sweet. She is pure and dear.

The last verse is split between three lines of physical description and three lines that describe the lady’s moral character. Her soft, calm glow reflects a life of peace and goodness. This is a repetition, an emphasis, of the theme that the lady’s physical beauty is a reflection of her inner beauty.

Lord Byron greatly admired his cousin’s serene qualities on that particular night and he has left us with an inspired poem.

The poem was written shortly before Lord Byron’s marriage to Anna Milbanke and published shortly after the marriage.

Children Learn Language Through Play – How Parents and Grandparents Can Help

Children love to play and have fun. The more fun they have with pretend playing, the better they’ll learn to talk.Whether it’s play with bricks or with sand and water, or dressing up in grown-up clothes, children are learning all the time.

Knowing why this is important makes joining in and helping your child’s learning even more fun.

Why is pretending important?

When your toddler offers you a cup of pretend tea from a miniature cup, and you pretend to drink it, nobody is fooled. He knows as well as you do that there is no real tea in the cup. What’s more, he knows you know.

The cup represents a real cup of tea, and the situation is like a real-life action he’ll have seen. It represents, or symbolises, one person giving a cup of tea to another.

The word cup is a symbol that stands for a real cup, just as the child’s toy cup does. Toys are symbols, so are pictures and so are words.

When you play with him, you’re helping him learn that. This helps him to develop his language skills because language is a sophisticated system of symbols.

How can I help?

You can help by making sure he has the right kind of toys to play with, and most of all by joining in his play with him.

Start by watching what he is doing. If he’s a small baby he may be looking closely at one object, feeling it, mouthing it. If so, let him have one thing at a time to investigate.

He doesn’t need a cot full of stuff, however pretty it may look to an adult. He can only think about one thing at a time, so let him have one thing at a time. When he’s bored offer him something else. This makes sure he isn’t bombarded with too many things at once.

When he starts to play with two things at a time, by putting bricks in boxes and banging his rattle on his cot, let him enjoy himself. This is the next step on his journey.

Join in with him

Soon you’ll start to see real ‘pretending’ as he uses a toy teacup to pretend to drink. At first he does these actions to himself, but then he’ll offer a ‘drink’ to teddy or brush dolly’s hair.

Now you can see that teddy is like a real person to him. He might kiss him, wash him, and start to reproduce aspects of his own life through his play with a teddy or a doll. You can enjoy doll’s tea parties together, or you can bath teddy and dress him before putting him to bed.

By the time he’s three he’s likely to carry out whole sequences of pretend play.

Above all, have fun with him. This kind of play is for anyone. Even relatives who ‘don’t know how to talk to children’ will love to join in tea parties, in dressing dolly games and in pretending to bath teddy and put him to bed.

You can be sure that this is helping him to learn language skills that will benefit him for the rest of his life.

How to be a Good Problem Solver

There is a saying that there are only two certainties in life: Death and Taxes. I think that you could add one more certainty which is: Problems!

Everyday in our lives we are faced with problems which can be big or small. In our workplace we have problems which can be work related or relationship related. Likewise in our personal lives we are faced with problems with our spouses, siblings, in-laws and many others. Sometimes we wish that we could just wake up in the morning and face the day without any problem at all. This is wishful thinking as the very nature of our existence is based on our innate ability to solve problem. In fact our very survival is based on how good a problem solver we become. Apart from the fact that we have technologically, culturally and socially developed over many millennia, we still are confronted with problems of many variations. To put it crudely, if you look at your fundamental job scope, you are being paid to solve the problems of your organization.

Your inability to resolve your organizational problems will spell disaster for your career. There is no way around it. Rather you will be better off if you learn the fine art of being able to solve the problems that confronts and confounds you daily. Question that you need to ask is whether you can become an excellent problem solver?

My answer is Yes! However it is not going to be easy. But the more you take on the problems that confound you head long the better you will become with time. By being able to solve problems efficiently you will become a very powerful and effective individual. Also as the great French dramatist, Jean-Baptiste Poquelin puts it: “The Greater the obstacle, the more glory in overcoming it.”

You can teach yourself to become a good problem solver. This is obviously not going to happen overnight, but if you put conscientious effort into trying to resolve the problems that you face you will slowly learn the fine art and science of problem resolution.

Identifying the problem

The first step in becoming an excellent problem solver lies in your ability to identify the nature of the problem. You need to ask yourself two very important questions. Is the problem that is confronting you a ‘fix-it’ kind of problem or a ‘do-it’ kind of problem?

Fix-it problem usually involves something that has gone wrong and you have to put it right. Like for instance the photocopier in your office broke down and you’ve got to print one hundred copies of an important document to be distributed during the meeting which is going to be held in fifteen minutes. This kind of situation puts you in an urgent and important quadrant as you will have to take effective steps to resolve the key issue which is ‘how to find another way of photocopying the document so that you can get them ready for the meeting?” Your thought is not in getting the photocopier repaired as you have a more important and urgent task at hand.

After the meeting is over, you may find yourself having more time to look into the reasons as to why the photocopier broke down and thus take necessary steps to repair it. When you engage in this process you are now demonstrating what is called the ‘Do-it’ problem solving.

‘Do-it’ problems apparently deal with something that has to be done in order to prevent further problems from arising. Like for instance: the roof is leaking; the computer program has a virus; the car broke down. In these kinds of ‘do-it’ problem situations you have to learn to look at the situation objectively to see what cause of action you may want to take.

Analysis of the problem

The next stage in problem solving is the analysis of the problem. This will require you to ask some hard-hitting questions like what is the cause of the problem; who started it; why does it occur; what can we do about it; whose responsibility is it to solve this problem; do we have all the data to solve the problem; how can we get the information we want to solve the problem; what is the ideal outcome that we want here etc.

The more questions you ask once you’ve identified the problem the more information that you might have to solve the problem. There are some problems whereby there is no answer to its resolution. Like for instance if you want to solve the problem of poverty in the world, this would be a tall order and one which you may not be able to resolve if at all. This would be an example of a ‘fix’it’ problem which is extremely difficult to ‘fix’. However, if you were to change your outlook by making this into a ‘do-it’ problem you might be able to solve some small aspect of the problem. Like you can start a company trust fund to collect monies for the poor people living within your vicinity and create a distribution channel to give these poor people what they need. You are not solving the world poverty problem, but moving from a ‘fix-it’ to ‘do-it’ you get to do something worthwhile.

Implementation of solutions

Ultimately, the concept of problem solving involves the ability to find solutions. There may be more than one solution for a problem. This is when you need to integrate the process of decision making to see how best you could implement the most effective solution. When implementing the solution to solve the problem you should take note too that what works for one situation may not work for another. Therefore you need to re-engage yourself to come up with new strategies to solve new problems that arise.

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