How to Cope With Grief When You Have Clinical Depression

On Sunday night May10th 1998 at 9:18 pm, my life as I knew it changed forever. My beautiful wife of 21 years had died unexpectedly. She was a wonderful human being and she was my soul mate. Words cannot describe the feelings I experienced right after she passed away and for quite sometime to come. What made it worse was that I had already been diagnosed with clinical depression 12 years before my wife’s death. Further, it never occurred to me at the time that grief and depression share a few of the same characteristics. During the time I was experiencing the normal signs of grief, I thought that my depression was getting worse. It wasn’t until I talked with my doctor that I learned grieving was normal but I also had to be made aware that I could go into a deeper depression.

Suffering from depression and trying to cope is stressful enough. But if your spouse has just passed away, getting through the day can seem like an impossible task. Very understandable. So close your eyes, clear your head for a moment and take several deep breaths. Now, there are some steps that you can take to get you through the day and to help you in the long run so you can lead a more productive life even while your grieving and working through your depression. The first step covers the difference between grieving and depression, the next step focuses on your clinical depression, and the final steps deal with your grief. Yes, it can be done. If I could do it, so can you and here’s how.

The following are 9 time tested steps that you need to take while you are grieving and you have clinical depression:

1. Learn to distinguish between grief and depression – Please keep in mind that if you’ve just lost a loved one it’s only natural to experience intense sadness. The problem is that this emotion plus many of the other symptoms associated with grief also mimic those associated with depression including fatigue, sleep and appetite disturbances, low energy, loss of pleasure, and difficulty concentrating and making decisions. Here’s an important point to remember, during grief you should still be able to interact with others, experience pleasurable experiences from time to time, and continue to function while coping with your grief. However it is a sure sign that you are depressed if you disconnect from others, you have no pleasurable experiences, a persistent negative self esteem /self confidence, and you all but shut down. Negative emotions will block your ability to deal with stressors on a daily basis so I strongly suggest that you follow and adhere to the next 8 steps just as soon as possible.

2. Readjust treatment for your clinical depression – During your time of grief more than likely you will suffer some increased and more intense bouts of depression. Be prepared to make some necessary adjustments to your current treatment plan including, but not limited to, (grief) counseling, medication, and coping skills. The period of adjustment varies with each person. If you’ve been seeing a psychotherapist in the past, he is probably qualified for grief counseling as well. If not ask him for some recommendations to a grief counselor. Since grief counseling is different from your regular counseling sessions you might want to write down some thoughts and questions prior to your first session. Here’s a tip. Plan ahead for the “firsts” and how to cope. I’m referring to your first wedding anniversary, holidays, birthdays, etc. without your spouse. Those can really pack an emotional punch to your feelings.

3. You need to mourn before healing – You’ve probably figured it out by now so please remember that expressing your thoughts and emotions openly either in public or in private is not only natural but it is also essential to your healing process. Never let anyone try to tell you how long you should or shouldn’t mourn. You grief is your own, no one elses. When your time comes to heal you will know it. Allow the healing to begin and remember that healing does not mean forgetting. Personally, I knew my healing started when I was able to look back on some of the good and not so good times my wife and I shared with more smiles than tears.

4. Give yourself time to mourn – The answer to the question, “How long should I take to mourn?” should always be, “As long as it takes.” Take it one day at a time and grieve at your own pace. You might have heard that there are certain stages of grief. I don’t buy into that because grief should not be sectioned or broken down into compartments since they could very well be repeated.

5. Join a grief support group – This is an extremely important step. Emotionally, it will help you to know you are not alone. The purpose of the group is to discuss your feelings with individuals who are also grieving. You might not want to participate at first and that’s fine. Just listen to what some of the other members are experiencing. You’ll be participating before you know it. Having the support of other people is the biggest factor that contributes to your healing process. Ask your therapist for some recommendations.

6. Talk to family and friends– To help you even further with your healing, go beyond your support group and talk to trusted family and friends about your spouse’s death and how that makes you feel. Share your memories both good and bad along with your feelings. If help is offered from them, take it. That also includes any help regarding funeral arrangements, legal issues, etc.

7. Dealing with your spouse’s belongings – Deal with your spouse’s belongings only when you are ready to dispose of them. Again, that’s in your own time. Don’t let anyone decide for you when that should be done. I left my wife’s clothes and her other items in my closet and chest of drawers for three years before I donated them to Goodwill.

8. Remember that grieving is normal – There will be times, either in private or in public, when you will encounter emotional “triggers”. Something or someone will remind you of your spouse and you will begin to grieve. Afterward, you might feel confused, fearful, disoriented, frustrated, guilty, angry or even relieved. That’s perfectly normal and is also part of the healing process.

9. Take care of yourself– Grieving is an emotionally and physically draining process so go easy on yourself. You might not feel like it but you must make sure to eat well balanced meals and get plenty of rest. If friends or relatives offer to cook some meals for you take them up on it. To avoid cabin fever take a brief walk just to stretch your muscles and get some fresh air..


There are millions of people (including those who are clinically depressed) who have made it through the loss of a spouse, including myself. Follow the steps outlined in this article and over time you will make it through as well. Trust and believe in yourself. Life does go on so ensure that you continue living in the healthiest, most productive way possible by helping yourself now.

Indigestion Causes, Treat Indigestion with Remedies

Indigestion is a symptom that is caused by a number of stomach conditions, including hiatal hernia, gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD), Helicobacter pylori, heartburn, and dyspepsia. Because many of these conditions can pose serious health risks, it is important to visit your healthcare provider in order to properly diagnose the reason for your indigestion. The condition usually occurs after eating.

Indigestion could be a symptom or a result of a currently occurring disease. It might be caused by a disease in the digestive system like ulcer or gastroesophageal reflux disease. However, the most common causes among many people are eating too much, eating too quickly, eating highly fatty foods or eating during stressful situations. These factors cause the stomach to not digest the food properly. Fatty foods are really difficult to digest especially those that contain insoluble fats.

Essentially this yeast as it overgrows in your body certain symptoms will become more apparent, anything from mood swings and mental problems such as difficulty concentrating. Acid relux can occur in some people due to candida actually interfering with the production of stomach acid. If you were not aware acid reflux occurs commonly as a result of too little stomach acid where you stomach realizing the problem acts as a churn to try and physically mash up food, something it is not accustomed to

Licorice. A form of licorice called deglycyrrhizinated licorice (DGL), a chewable form of the herb, is a natural antacid. Unlike a regular licorice, DGL does not have hormonal side effects. This makes DGL more effective and will not contribute to elevated blood pressures, which can be a side effect of other forms. Licorice helps fight ulcerations caused by hyperacidity.

Common home remedies for indigestion are peppermint and ginger. These are also popular in treating other digestion problems. Apple and tea are also used, as are Epsom salts. Another effective way to relieve indigestion is drinking the juice of a raw potato or an egg white. Cloves are also considered treatment for indigestion. Other herbs that help relieve the discomfort that comes with indigestion are meadowsweet and lavender. In traditional medicine, the use of feverfew, fennel and dill as cures for indigestion is common, as well as thyme and speedwell.

The cardinal remedy for dyspepsia is light food; it would be matter if the patient takes to fasting for 24 hours and then takes to easily digestible, natural food. Fats and condiments must be avoided. Bland food, mostly vegetables cooked in water, juicy fruits and buttermilk (churned curd with water added) should be taken. Condiments and seasonings make food more palatable and there is the ever-present risk of over eating, which has, in the first instance, given birth to dyspepsia.

How to Overcome Your Fear of Cats Watching You

Some people think cats are cute, others (usually including cats themselves) think they are superior beings. And some people are unfortunate enough to suffer from a fear of cats or – slightly more unusual – a fear of cats watching them. Cats can get creepy like that and they don’t have the same social skills we have to know that it’s not the done thing.

So, what can you do if you suffer from a fear of cats watching you? It’s not like you can do that thing from the Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy and hide behind a towel. That would just look weird.

And cats don’t react the same way as dogs, who tend to break eye contact if you stare back at them.

Possibly the best thing to do is ignore the feline that’s eyeing you up. If you’re able to do that, it’s certainly what I’d suggest that you do first.

Next, if you’re able to move away from the cat, that will obviously work. But often the creatures are found at friend’s houses so that isn’t always a good option.

Obviously keep your distance from the cat as much as possible. A lot of our fear comes from the sharp claws and teeth that these supposedly domesticated creatures have and – more importantly – are quite happy to use on anything within easy reach.

If your cat-caring friend is open to persuasion, you could talk to them about cats being one of the main ways that humans get exposed to toxoplasmosis. But most cat lovers won’t hear a word said against their supposedly friendly creature, so the chances of that working are slim. But at least it gives you a reason for your fear that is grounded in science and may cause a few of your friends who are sitting on the decision fence about whether or not to look after a cat (since no-one really owns these surprisingly independent creatures) then that may help by not increasing the chances of you encountering a cat.

Another option is to reduce your fear by using a technique such as hypnosis.

This works by you either visiting a local hypnotherapist or, as is increasingly common nowadays, just downloading a pre-recorded MP3 and playing it to yourself a few times.

Hypnosis works with your mind to change how you react to cats. You’re unlikely to end up being a cat lover just by listening to a hypnosis track but that’s not really the idea of doing so – it’s more to get you so that you don’t freak out if one of those felines deems to be in the same room as you.

Why Medications and Prescription Drugs Can’t Cure Anxiety or Panic Attacks

There are many prescription drugs on the market that claim to be able to cure anxiety and panic attacks. But do they work? What I’m about to say goes against many of the claims made by the multi-billion dollar medication industry.

The truth is, medications are not an effective treatment, let alone cure, for panic attacks or generalized anxiety. In fact, medications often worsen anxiety and panic and can cause suicidal ideation, increases in feelings of anxiety, and a whole host of other side effects and withdrawal symptoms.

David Burns, one of the most prominent therapists in the field of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), has written about the ineffectiveness of medications, as have many other leading therapists and experts in the field of anxiety disorders. You have to understand that there are two main classes of medications that are commonly used to treat anxiety: selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRIs) and benzodiazepenes (“benzos”). They both have different problems. Let’s start with SSRIs.

SSRIs are found to be no more effective than a placebo (meaning, a pill with no active ingredients) in the treatment of mild depression, and show similar effects in the treatment of anxiety.

There are many different types and name brands of SSRIs that include:

Citalopram (Celexa, Cipramil, Cipram, Dalsan, Recital, Emocal, Sepram, Seropram, Citox, Cital), dapoxetine (Priligy), escitalopram (Lexapro, Cipralex, Seroplex, Esertia), fluoxetine (Prozac, Fontex, Seromex, Seronil, Sarafem, Ladose, Motivest, Fluctin (EUR), Fluox (NZ), Depress (UZB), Lovan (AUS)), fluvoxamine (Luvox, Fevarin, Faverin, Dumyrox, Favoxil, Movox), indalpin (Upstene) (discontinued), paroxetin (Paxil, Seroxat, Sereupin, Aropax, Deroxat, Divarius, Rexetin, Xetanor, Paroxat, Loxamine), sertralin (Zoloft, Lustral, Serlain, Asentra), vilazodone (Viibyrd), zimelidine (Zelmid, Normud) (discontinued)

David Burns argues in his excellent book When Panic Attacks that SSRIs are essentially the same as a placebo. The placebo effect is when a patient’s optimism about improvement fuels the actual recovery process. This means that the only benefit from SSRIs comes from the fact that people believe the pill will make them better. St. John’s Wort didn’t fare any better than Zoloft (a common SSRI) either. About a third of patients who took placebos were also “cured”. This was caused by the belief in recovery that accompanied taking the pill given by a credentialed doctor.

In some studies, SSRIs outperform a placebo, but this very well could be due to unethical testing methods. As David Burns notes:

“patients are also informed that the placebo is totally inert, so if they receive the placebo, it will have absolutely no side effects or effects of any kind. In contrast, they’re told that if they receive the antidepressant, they should expect some side effects, such as upset stomach, diarrhea, nervousness, trouble sleeping, or a loss of sexual drive. Once the study begins, patients who experience side effects usually conclude that they’re taking the antidepressant. In contrast, patients who don’t experience any side effects usually conclude that they’re in the placebo group.”

What this means is that these studies aren’t truly double-blind. In other words, medical companies are using intentionally skewed and sub-par testing methods in order to increase the apparent “effectiveness” of the medications in the study.

They are doing this because literally billions of dollars are at stake. The medication industry is largely, though not entirely, a corrupted industry. Money is more important than clinical objectivity.

The other major class of commonly used medications are benzodiazapenes, also known as “benzos”. These medications bring about quick reductions in anxiety, and tend to be effective in the short term. The problem is that they become addictive, induce withdrawal symptoms, and don’t cure anxiety after they are gone. Often anxiety returns just as strong as ever before.

Ativan (lorazepam) and Xanax (alprazolam) are two of the more popular benzodiazepines. Others include Librium (chlordiazepoxide), Tranxene (clorazepate), Valium (diazepam), Paxipam (halazepam), Serax (oxazepam), Centrax (prazepam) and Doral (quazepam), clorazepate, diazepam and Klonopin (clonazepam).

I have personally experienced the effects of Ativan after rushing to the hospital in a panic attack. After having tests run on my heart, the doctors told me that I was healthy and injected Ativan into my arm. They then gave me a small bottle of Ativan pills. The sedative effect of lorazepam certainly got rid of my anxiety in the short term, but ultimately it did nothing once I stopped using it. I continued to experience panic attacks on nearly a daily basis.

It wasn’t until I studied the psychotherapeutic treatment of anxiety disorders that I finally cured my panic, phobias, agoraphobia, OCD, general anxiety, as well as depression. Ultimately, the way to rid yourself of anxiety and panic lies not in finding some “magic pill”, but in changing your thinking, engaging in emotional expression, adopting a healthy lifestyle, and making other changes in your thinking and habits.

La Sabila: Amiga o Enemiga?

La Sábila: ¿Amiga o Enemiga?

 La planta de Sábila es reconocida mundialmente por sus beneficios curativos y ha sido usada por miles de años. Aparte de ser uno de los secretos de belleza de la reina Cleopatra, la Sábila se usa alrededor del mundo entero para curar y cicatrizar heridas, mejorar la digestión y mucho más.

 Pero es importante entender que no todas las especies de Sábila son buenas para la salud. Existen más de trescientos tipos de Sábila de los cuales muchos son tóxicos y contienen niveles muy altos de Yodo, el cual puede dañar los riñones si se consume a largo plazo. La Sábila más recomendable es conocida como Aloe Vera Barbadenses y a la hora de tener una planta de Aloe Vera en la casa, es importante que ésta haya llegado a una edad de madurez de dos años para maximizar sus propiedades benéficas, y que solo la uses para heridas externas y no en licuados, como hacen muchas personas.

 Cabe mencionar que partes de la Sábila cruda contienen laxantes muy fuertes y es por eso que recomiendo a las personas que quieren beneficiarse de esta increíble planta para uso interno (gastritis, indigestión, y demás) que compren Aloe Vera en jugo o concentrado para asegurarse de que no contenga Yodo ni el laxante natural que ocurre en la parte viscosa de la planta.

Los laxantes pueden ser dañinos para el sistema digestivo ya que lo obligan a evacuar y al ser muy fuertes destruyen las paredes del intestino. Esto puede causar mala absorción y estreñimiento crónico.

 Es por eso que para consumir Sábila de forma regular, no puede contener su laxante natural y es mejor conseguirla en forma concentrada.

 Resumiendo, la Sábila es una amiga que te podrá ayudar a mejorar problemas digestivos siempre y cuando uses la especie correcta y la compres “lista para consumir”.


History of Sleep Remedies

The earliest forms of sleeping remedies are found in ancient Greece and Egypt. The most common form of sleep aid used in the ancient world was opium, which despite its many negative side effects and addictive nature actually is quite effective in inducing sleep. In ancient Greek paintings and statues the Greek God of sleep, Hypnos, was usually shown holding a poppy flower. Besides opium, there were other, much stranger sleep aids used during ancient times. Among these sleep aids are lettuce juice, the bark of mandrake, a herb called henbane, and when all else failed wine was an effective way to cure insomnia. Before the turn of the nineteenth century, opium and other herb based sleep aids were all that were available.

In 1805 a chemist by the name of Fredrick Setumer synthesized opium for the first time, though the use of it was barely an advancement or improvement from regular opium, it did start off a lot of new research into synthesized sedatives to be used as sleeping remedies. By the 1850s two new sleep aids had emerged as the most successful and were being commonly used around the world. The first of these was Chloryl hydrate, developed in the early 1830s in Germany. This substance is a very fast acting depressant of the central nervous system, and is extremely effective for inducing sleep quickly; especially so if this sleep aid is mixed with alcohol. For this reason, Chloryl hydrate was known as knock out drops or “Mickeys” as in the phrase “slip a Mickey into his drink”. The problem was that in many cases people overdosed, especially if any amount of alcohol was consumed, and never woke up after using these sleep aids. The other extremely popular sleep aid of the nineteenth century was pills made of a combination of bromides. These were originally not designed as sleep aids, but as a treatment of epilepsy. Though it turned out not to be effective in controlling seizures, it was discovered not long after their creation that they could make someone fall asleep very easily. Unfortunately bromides as a sleep aid come with a wide variety of side effects, and, like Chloryl hydrate can also cause overdose.

The next generation of sleep aids became popular around the beginning of the twentieth century and were known as barbiturates, the most common of these sleep aids was marketed under the name Veronal. In some rare occasions barbiturates are still used today as sleep aids or sedatives. However they are rarely prescribed as sleep aids because they very easily lend themselves to addiction. Other problems surrounding barbiturate sleep aids are the side effects, as well as the risk of overdose. It was not uncommon for people to use barbiturate sleep aids in combination with alcohol to commit suicide.

For quite a long period of time the three substances listed above, along with the home made remedies were the only sleep aids available. In the 1970s the government began taking a much more active interest in regulating both prescription and over the counter phamraceuticals and many sleep aids became either banned or highly controlled. As they say, “Necessity is the mother of invention.” The banning of many dangerous substances in sleep aids prompted new research into producing safer and more effective pharmaceutical sleep aids. In the late 70s a new generation of sleep aids became available, benzodiazepines. These include drugs like Valium and more recently Xanax. While benzodiazepines are generally accepted as safer sleep aids and anti anxiety drugs than their predecessors, they still come with issues of dependency, addiction and have a very wide array of harsh side effects. Because of the almost immediate euphoric feeling from taking these drugs, they also lend themselves to recreational use, going by the street name “bennys”. Benzodiazepines also carry with them a risk of overdose, although much less than the other sleep aids mentioned.

This has caused research into sleep aids to come full circle, back to natural ingredients. Today’s natural sleeping remedies are far more advanced than the things like opium and lettuce juice used back in ancient times. Most modern natural sleep aids come in capsule form and use combinations from a variety of herbs and herbal extracts from all over the world. One of the most effective of these herbal extracts is St. Johns Wort, which has passed the tests of time as well as scientific method as an effective sleep aid and anti depressant. Other ingredients used in herbal sleep aids commonly include nardostchya jatamanshi and valeriana wallichi which are mild sedatives. The prime advantage of these sleep aids is there is no risk of addiction or dependency. There is also the fact that when taking a herbal sleep aid side effects are very rare, and in the cases they are reported are very mild.


Histoplasmosis is caused by H.capsulatum, which is found in the stool of birds and bats and in soil contaminated by their stool, such as that near roosts, chicken coops, barns, caves, and underneath bridges. Transmission occurs through inhalation of H. capsulatumor H. capsulatum var.duboisii spores or through the invasion of spores after minor skin trauma. Signs and Symptoms Many otherwise healthy people show no symptoms of infection at all. When symptoms do occur, they appear 3-17 days after exposure (average time is 10 days). The symptoms are usually mild and resemble those of a cold or flu; fever , dry cough , enlarged lymph glands, tiredness, and a general feeling of ill health. A small number of people develop bronchopneumonia. About 95% of people who are infected either experience no symptoms or have symptoms that clear up spontaneously. These people then have partial immunity to re-infection. Diagnostic tests The diagnosis of histoplasmosis depends on the underlying condition. Tests may include analysis of the organism in sputum, lung tissue, blood, cerebrospinal fluid (CSF), or bone marrow tissue, as well as antigen tests performed on blood, urine, or CSF. In addition, certain pathologic findings may be seen in tissue which may support the diagnosis of histoplasmosis. Treatment Treatment includes anti-fungal therapy, surgery, and supportive care. Antifungal therapy plays the most important role.”diagnosis: a preface to an autopsy”
“To confess ignorance is often wiser than to beat about the bush with a hypothetical diagnosis.”
“Being a reporter is as much a diagnosis as a job description” Except for asymptomatic primary acute histoplasmosis (which resolves spontaneously) and the African form, histoplasmosis requires high-dose or long-term (10­week) therapy with amphotericin B or ketoconazole. Surgery includes lung resection to remove pulmonary nodules, a shunt for increased intracranial pressure, and cardiac repair for constrictive pericarditis. Supportive care includes oxygen for respiratory distress, glucocorticoids for adrenal insufficiency, and parenteral fluids for dysphagia caused by oral or laryngeal ulcerations. Histoplasmosis doesn’t necessitate isolation. Prevention Prevention of histoplasmosis relies on avoiding exposure to dust in a contaminated environment. Before anyone cleans chicken coops or other contaminated soil, spraying with water is advisable to reduce dust. Persons working in contaminated areas should use protective clothing such as gloves and coveralls. They should also use a respirator equipped with a high efficiency particulate air (HEPA) filter that is capable of filtering particles down to two microns in size. For major clean up operations of prolonged exposure, a powered air purifying or supplied air respirator may be necessary.

The Best Shoes to Wear When it Rains

It was raining in New York City today when I stepped out of the Penn Station subway stop and I immediately regretted the footwear I picked out for today: ballet flats that allowed the icy water from each puddle to slosh over the tops and into the shoe, soaking my socks and chilling my foot. Of course every other person I passed seemed to have been much more prepared (I was trying to forget about the waterbed I was walking on by imagining knocking one of them over to steal their boots – I look stronger than her; she probably wears my size; that girl probably wouldn’t even notice if I took her shoes while she’s searching through her bags).

Obviously the best choice for rain-wear is rubber rainboots or galoshes. They’re waterproof (which is the most important) and they usually reach up to the knee so they’re splash-proof too. And they’re usually wide enough that you can tuck your jeans into them to keep them dry until you reach the office. I saw women in innumerable patterns and colors hurrying along the sidewalks – logo brands like Coach, cutsey prints like tiny flamingos or cherries, patterns like plaids or spots and every color of the rainbow. The great thing about rubber rain boots is that now that there are so many variations, you’re almost guaranteed to never see your boot twin. And most rain boots are under $50! I have a pair of Steve Madden rainboots that have tiny black and white skulls printed on them so when you look at them from far away they appear to be plain old checkerboard.

For a new spin, I have been seeing in designer department stores and the runways showing new rain footwear that looks like a cross between an ankle bootie (or shoetie) and a loafer or sneaker. They’re flat rubber shoes (sometimes with leather trim) that cover up most of the top of your foot. So they’re not bulky like rubber rain boots can be but will still keep your feet dry (unlike my ballet flats). I’m glad designers came up with this because these shoes are great when maybe it’s just going to drizzle for part of the day or when it’s wet outside from the night before but not going to rain any more. Definitely keep an eye out. I saw an adorable pair that were seamed bright yellow rubber with a tan colored leather on the upper that tied with tassles – they were like preppy cool but in a there’s no way you could ever mistake me for a nerd kind of way.

Another choice is waterproof leather boots. A lot of people don’t know these exist, and no, I don’t mean just using a waterproofing spray on your existing boots. These boots are actually manufactured with a special process to make them as waterproof as rubber rain boots without looking any different from normal leather boots. This does cause the price to go up quite a bit though, so don’t expect to find this type of boot for less than $200 unless there’s a sale going on. The most common style I’ve seen are riding boot inspired shapes with a buckle across the top of the foot or around the calf.

Regular leather boots can also be worn in the rain and are probably more waterproof than you imagine. Think about where the leather comes from: the cows don’t melt like the wicked witch when they’re alive, do they? But make sure you do take special care of your leather boots if you plan to make them your permanent rain-wear. Weatherproofing sprays are great (make sure to test it first on a less visible area to make sure it doesn’t change the color in any way) and simply wiping down the boots after getting indoors is another good habit to get into. Beware of when the rain turns to snow, however, stains from the salt spread on sidewalks to melt the snow can totally wreck your nice leather boots.

A last rainy day shoe choice you may not have thought of are platform shoes – almost any closed toe type will work as long as the platform extends from the toes to the heel and the platform is at least an inch in the front, 1.5 to 2 inches is better. It’s simple: platforms instantly make you further away from the wet ground so the splashes have to reach higher to get to your feet. This all means you’re more likely to stay dry. Look for rubber soles though, maybe with some traction, if your walking anywhere that could be slippery (wet leaves on the ground, etc). Falling on your face is bad, falling when you’re wearing platforms is worse (further to fall, risk of a sprained ankle, etc) but falling in the rain while wearing platforms is the worst (think wet clothes like a mark of shame long after you’ve regained your composure).

If you can’t live without wearing your ballet flats even after all this though, I understand. Just make sure to bring some extra socks.

How to Be a Badass Woman – 7 Steps to Re-Claim Your Life, Power and Your Body!

All the election coverage has exposed a despicable part of culture, the degradation of women. Every woman knows this in her bones, her bruises, both emotional and physical, and her self-loathing. The abasement of women is nothing new; it’s just receiving lots of attention at the moment. Let’s take this moment and create change. I don’t know about you, but I’ve had enough. Have you had enough of being under paid, under valued, and pleasing others at your expense?

Take back YOUR life!

Here are 7 steps to start:

  1. Take back your body; it’s yours

This should be obvious, but it is very insidious. Women have been treated like objects for so long, it’s encoded in our cells. We usually aren’t aware of how much our bodies are controlled by others.

Take back your body from men, they do not own your body, you own your body. Start to notice the hidden, and not so hidden, ways men want to grab your energy, power and your body. The old paradigm degradation of women is based men wanting feminine life-giving energy and power. Napoleon Hill’s classic book, “Think and Grow Rich” has a full chapter devoted to using feminine energy in business to create wealth. We have something they don’t have and they want it. In response, we shut down. The solution is to enjoy your body, take it back and use it for your own pleasure.

Start by putting yourself first. We have been programmed to take care of everyone else at our expense. It is radical but necessary to put yourself first. Start with small steps. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. Your body belongs to you, no one else. It is amazing that when you take back your body you start to love it more deeply.

  1. Love yourself deeply

One way the media and other people control you is by feeding your insecurities, doubts and lack of self-worth. The more you love yourself, the less hold the media has on you.

Once you start to love yourself more deeply, the cravings to full your life with more junk start to dissolve. It’s like an addiction. You keep buying stuff to fill a gaping inner hole. Self-love helps you differentiate your real desires from the momentary satiation of trying to satisfy the inner tormentor. Your inner tormentors are created by others, and not the truth of who you are.

Love your “flaws”; they usually turn out to be your greatest gifts. When you doubt your inner and outer beauty you easily succumb to all the latest junk on the market to mold you to external standards. The parts of your body that you hate are the parts that someone else controls. Love these parts, see who or what is influencing your self-judgments. Is it your mother, the glossy magazines, or the Internet ads? Imagine these energies from other people leaving your body. Fill the cleaned inner space with your love. As you love yourself deeply you will discover ways you have given your power over to others.

  1. Claim your feminine power

Many women are afraid of their power; they don’t want to emulate powerful male models like Trump. Feminine power flows, undulates, winds through cracks, seeps to the root, nurtures the seed, and creates profound change. This power terrifies people. It travels unseen, pops up in unexpected places, and blooms into abundance and change.

Feminine power doesn’t come from brute force; it originates from an inner surrender. Dive deep inside and listen to your juicy feminine wisdom. Then take action from your resolve, inner knowing and your Truth. Beyond the linear mind, your profound wisdom resides down in your womb. Clearly revealed, your path is illuminated by your feminine essence.

  1. Speak your Truth

Learn to say no. Stop putting up with disrespectful behavior. Create boundaries of what is acceptable and what is unacceptable and stick with your convictions.

Your voice is unique. No one else in the world can put thoughts, words and concepts together like you. What you have to say is valuable. But please, don’t cast your pearls of wisdom before swine. Share your precious truth with those who honor you.

  1. Feed your desires

Is your whole body thirsting for more, not the shallow more of consumer goods, but more delight and deep satisfaction?

Feed your pleasure. Your real desires and pleasures nurture and fill you up, rather than leaving a gnawing expanding cavity filled with grabbing and craving. The old paradigm would like you to believe that pleasure is deplorable and degraded. Your desires and pleasures are your power. The truth is, your pleasure is connected to your divine essence, your brilliance and your light.

  1. Use your purchasing power

Using your purchasing power effectively changes the world. Does the stuff you’ve being told to buy really support your happiness and wellbeing? Buy what fulfills you and what is in alignment with your values. Do the products you buy support the earth or do they create more pollution and toxic waste? Your purchasing voice will create massive change in the market place. Your actions, taken collectively, have an enormous impact.

  1. Live full on.

Are you wasting your life, dredging your way through the day? Are waiting for later to live your dreams?

Be a badass and stop succumbing to external pressure to create your life according to someone else’s standards. Explore your hidden gifts and talents. Find your passions. Be bold. Be your awesome self. Live your life full on; it’s your LIFE.

Enough is enough. Let’s do this. Each tiny step you make to claim your life creates a vibrant new world.

Be a badass and take back YOUR life!

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Treatment For Swollen Ankles

Many people nowadays seek an effective treatment for swollen ankles. Most sufferers of this condition suffer from it due to an accumulation of fluid in these ankles. This condition appears to be most common in older people and pregnant women, although it is by no means exclusive to those sorts of people. Other people can and do suffer from this condition too, even the erstwhile young and healthy.

Ankle swelling that takes place because fluids have accumulated in the tissues of the ankles and surrounding areas is called peripheral edema. The abnormal fluid can build up due to many reasons. For instance, poor circulation, which is experienced by many older people as well as overweight or obese people, can lead to plenty of fluid in the body as a whole. Many women who suffer from this condition experience it thanks to hormonal imbalances, which can take place during their monthly periods or constantly during pregnancy (which is a major reason for the fact that many pregnant women experience persistent edema until they carry their children to term). Lymphatic system problems, blood clots and infections can also bring about edema. Treatment for this condition must thus take such potential causes into consideration.

Proper treatment for swollen ankles involves two basic components – diagnosis and treatment by a doctor or healthcare professional, and effort on the part of the patient to improve aspects of his or her life that may be causing and/or contributing to the condition.

If and when a person notices that his or her ankles are swollen, the first step would be to head to a hospital or to a doctor for a thorough examination. As discussed in the section above, the possibility that these problems are being caused by life-threatening conditions or diseases must be ruled out first. Should the doctor discover that any of the more serious diseases or conditions are behind one’s swollen ankles, then treatment can begin immediately.

Whatever the cause of one’s ankles being swollen, there are certain things that one can and should do that can enable one to at least partially relieve the pain and discomfort of this condition. Firstly, if one is in general sedentary and does not get to move far too often, then constant, frequent motion and exercise can definitely help relieve the pain and discomfort. Those who are seated most of the time due to their occupation may not be able to go around as much as they need in order to increase their circulation to the point that it can be able to eliminate the excess fluid from the area. Even simple stretching and walking around once every hour or so may be able to reduce the size of one’s ankles to manageable levels.

Given the potential benefits of a little extra activity for the sedentary, a regular exercise regimen can offer one enormous benefits. It can tremendously improve the efficiency of one’s circulatory system, and muscle tone as well can be improved considerably. Both of these improvements can thus serve as no less than an excellent treatment for swollen ankles.

Symptoms of Ruptured Ovarian Cysts Uncovered

Although difficult to understand in some instances, women with ovarian cysts and signs of rupture may simply neglect to consider them any different than the things that happen normally with ovarian cysts. The complications may increase as the ovarian cysts that ruptured may generate different symptoms from one woman to another and be ignored for that very reason. An understanding of the symptoms of ovarian cysts that rupture can be very useful in order to choose the correct treatment before complications arise. To staying vigilant, checking a situation and having routine examinations is critical if you have an ovarian cyst condition. It is therefore crucial that you consider these symptoms to be guidelines and not an exact diagnosis of your condition as symptoms will not necessarily follow textbook rules.

Overview of ovarian cysts that rupture

Data shows that 75 percent of women will have ovarian cysts at some point in their life. Most of these instances are not in themselves serious. Many times ovarian cysts do not have any particular external signs and so may go and identified and without management. If there is no malignancy, then ovarian cysts are considered to be normal. Many women only find out when an ultrasound examination is done that ovarian cysts are identified. However serious problems can arise with the rupture of some ovarian cysts. To avoid the rupture of ovarian cysts you need to understand your own particular situation and to seek consultation with the appropriate medical staff upon diagnosis of this condition. It is also required for you to understand the symptoms of ruptured ovarian cysts if you are to conduct a diagnosis yourself. The first sign of a ruptured cyst is that something is not right with your body. This information should receive immediate attention as in some cases it can be very serious.

Understanding what the symptoms mean

The size of ovarian cysts that have ruptured are almost identical to those of normal ovarian cysts. The differences lie in the intensity and the frequency of these signs between ovarian cysts that are normal or ruptured. Some common signs of ovarian cysts that have ruptured may be:

(1) Irregular menstrual cycle: women beyond the age of teenagers who still have irregular menstrual cycles are a cause of concern and should be examined right away. Piercing pain in the pelvic area at time of menstruation can also be a cause for worry and a possible sign of an ovarian cyst condition. Irregular menstruation can also include light periods, very heavy bleeding or the absence of periods altogether.

(2) Pain: ruptured ovarian cysts commonly cause pain in the pelvic area as well as in the thighs. Women experience pain especially before, after and even during menstruation. Pain is heightened by an ovarian cyst that has ruptured and discomfort and bleeding may also occur. Back pain is sometimes indicated as well. In this case seek treatment of once if there is any sign of heightened or abnormal pain.

(3) Uncomfortable intercourse: sexually active women experience considerable pain during intercourse, particularly around the pelvic area.

(4) Problems concerning the bladder: the rupture of an ovarian cyst will stop many women from being able to empty their bladders correctly. A ruptured ovarian cyst may be the cause here because this puts pressure on the platter. Increased pressure on the bladder is therefore the result meaning that women may want to urinate more often.

(5) Bleeding: bleeding unexpectedly is a major of cause of concern especially outside of menstruation. Any incidence of bleeding that cannot be explained should immediately be checked to see if a more serious problem exists. If a cyst ruptures, bleeding can be either heavy or light.

(6) General lack of comfort: women may also feel nauseous, have attacks of vomiting or other phenomena connected with poor health. For this, general discomfort can be the first sign of a key problem in the gynaecological status of a woman. Insulin-resistance, vomiting, fainting, nausea and signs similar to pregnancy are all connected with the breaking open of ovarian cysts.

Any changes should be recorded and checked medically without waiting. You should also take a close interest in your gynaecological health whether or not you have symptoms concerning ruptured ovarian cysts.

Treatment Alternatives

The treatment of ovarian cyst ruptures should be accomplished in accordance with the intensity of the problem and often needs to be done individually. For the long term, an ovarian cyst that ruptures can be a menace. For this reason, conventional medicine is ineffective because it only tackles symptoms and not causes, whereas the holistic solution gets to the real causes of the condition behind the symptoms of ruptured ovarian cysts in order to prevent it from recurring. Management should therefore start as quickly as possible to avoid any additional complications. A holistic agenda rather than classical medicine can be the choice that will really remedy ovarian cysts that rupture. The holistic method can be very useful because it deals with the underlying causes of the difficulty.

At Home Remedies Yeast Infections – How to Cure Your Infection!

The facts about yeast infection is that most people are afraid of contacting the ailment that they fail to understand how to prevent and treat it from appearing or spreading. Before looking at home remedies for yeast infection it is important you understand the ailment. Yeast infections primarily inflict women who are in the age group within which they can naturally bear a child. According to medical reports more than 75-80% of this infection is caused by a fungus known as candida albicans which is a strain of yeast. However, a yeast only occurs when there is imbalance in the existence of these organisms.

When infected with candida or yeast most women will rush out to pick up the quick-fix medications, but the fact is that to cure yeast infection the natural or herbal remedies have been proven to work best because they have no side effect and even after treatment has been completed you can still continue using these treatment so as to ensure that the infections do not occur a second time.

Here are listed a couple of the home remedies for yeast You Can Use To Cure It:

1. Curds or yogurt is regarded as one of the best home remedies. In fact it is advised that you use a soaked tampon into curds and you place it on the infected part of your body at least for an hour. What this does is that the healthy required bacteria from the curds will replace the unhealthy yeast bacteria. This could be repeated twice to thrice a day.

2. You can be regularly daubing apple cider vinegar in the areas infected or prone to this infection. Your can add some garlic to stop the itchy feeling; and water to dilute the vinegar concentration.

3. A mixture of olive leaf extract with grapefruit seed extraction and a glass of water is a good curative tonic for this infection.

Heart Diseases Part II – Heart Diseases—types of Heart Diseases

The heart is a four chambered, hollow muscle and double acting pump that is located in the chest between the lungs. Heart diseases caused by high blood pressure contributes to hardening of the arteries. High levels of bad cholesterol (LDL) build up in the arteries as a result of uncontrolled diet with high levels of saturated fat and trans fat. All these add to the formation of atherosclerosis lesions and eventually arterial blockage.
There are some major types of heart diseases:

1.Type of heart disease affecting heart chambers
Heart failure caused by the heart not pumping as much blood as it should and so the body does not get as much blood and oxygen that it needs. The malfunctioning of the heart chambers are due to damage caused by narrowed or blocked arteries.

2. Heart Disease affecting heart muscles
The heart muscles thickens and becomes stiff, increasing the amount of pressure required to expand for blood flows into the heart or the narrowing of the passage as a result of obstructing blood flow out of the heart.

3. Heart disease affecting heart valves
These type heart diseases occur when the mitral valve in the heart is narrowing causing the heart to work harder to pump blood from the left atrium into the ventricle. The mitral valve does not close properly and prolapse occurs or narrowing of the aortic in the heart occures.

4. Heart disease affecting coronary arteries and coronary veins
The malfunctioning of the heart may be due to damage caused by narrowed or blocked arteries leading to the muscle of your heart as well as blood backing up in the veins, causing a build up leading to swelling in the feet, ankles and legs.

5. Heart disease affecting heart lining
Rheumatic heart disease results from inflammation of the heart lining when too much fluid builds up in the lungs leading to pulmonary congestion. It is due to failure of the heart to remove fluid from the lung circulation resulting in shortness of breath, coughing up blood, pale skin and excessive sweating.

6. Heart disease affecting electrical system
The electrical system within the heart is responsible for ensuring the heart beats correctly so that blood can be transported to the cells throughout our body. Any malfunction of the electrical system in the heart causes a fast, slow, or irregular heartbeat.

7. Congenital heart disease
There are several heart diseases that people are born with. Congenital heart diseases are caused by a persistence in the fetal connection between arterial and venous circulation.

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Schisandra Berry and Sex Drive

Schisandra is plant indigenous to China where its berries has been used for centuries as a powerful tonic that not only helps men and women in the bedroom area, but also to calm the nerves, cleanse the liver and even contribute to overall energy levels during physical exertion.

A closer look at Schisandra…

Also spelled schizandra with a “z”, the schisandra shrub is a woody vine that can be found in gardens everywhere thanks to its hardy nature and its ease in propagation. It is native to Eastern Asia where it has been grown and used for centuries. The dried tiny red berries of the schisandra plant are known to the Chinese as wu wei zi, which translates into “five flavor fruit” referring to the berries ability to display all five of the basic flavors of salty, sweet, sour, spicy, and bitter.


The fruit of the Schisandra are known to contain lots of different types of lignans which are phytoestrogen compounds that have liver protective properties. This explains why the berry has been used to help treat various liver ailments like hepatitis and has even been used to help the liver recover from the side affect caused by medication for Alzheimer’s. Aside from these powerful lignans, these berries also contain high amounts of vitamin C and E, volatile oils, acids, and phytoesterols.

Aside from treating liver problems, schisandra berries have also been traditionally used to as a tonic to help bring about mental focus and build strength and energy. It has been shown to be a powerful adaptogen that helps the body cope in times of physical and mental stress helping to bring about clarity and concentration and help a person recover from exhaustion and fatigue.

Schisandra berries are also believed to help tone the sexual organs of both men and women helping increase the output of sexual fluids. It has traditionally been used to help increase the sexual stamina of men and encourage libido. It is also believed to help men with their performance halting premature ejaculation allowing for longer bouts of lovemaking.

Schisandra Berries and Zenerect

Given its overall adaptogenic qualities and ability to help kick sexual fluid production into action, it should come as no surprise that the makers of Zenerect have decided to include Schisandra Berries in their all natural supplement. Combined with the other natural ingredients, Schisandra can help men maintain and control their erection for longer, preventing premature ejaculation while at the same time providing them with extra energy and stamina for extended performances in the bed room. Its inclusion in the formula is one of the reasons why Zenerect is the best selling all natural male enhancement pill on the market helping men achieve long lasting erections and overcome erectile dysfunction.

Milk Thistle Supplement Benefits – 5 Benefits and 1 Big Danger!

Today I want to share with you some of the biggest benefits to a milk thistle supplement and a few dangers.

If you think about it the original prescription drugs were herbs. During the Roman Empire in 50 AD there was evidence it was used with snake bites. 100 years later it was documented to help with the liver, spleen, kidney stones and increasing the flow of urine.

Speaking of the liver this is the herbs most well-known benefit and what it’s used for. Helping with hepatitis, alcoholism, jaundice, cirrhosis and gallbladder problems.

It has been proven to be anti-inflammatory and it’s an antioxidant. Plus it could help the liver by growing new cells according to the University of Maryland Medical Center. Animal studies have proven that it can help the liver, unfortunately human studies have been mixed.

The good news is according to cancer research UK a study has shown it to help with reducing the harmful effects of chemotherapy on the liver. Plus according to studies by the University of Minnesota it stops cancer cell growth in prostate, skin, breast and cervical cells.

There is evidence that it helps with cholesterol and with blood sugar levels. A 2006 study in Phytotherapy Research which included 51 people gave half milk thistle and the other half a placebo.

By the end of the study the group that took this plant had a significant decrease in total cholesterol and LDL (bad) cholesterol. In addition it helped regulate blood sugar levels in that group.

There is also some evidence that it helps the skin. A pair of University of Colorado Cancer studies show that this plant kills skin cells mutated by UV radiation, this protects the skin from cancer and photo-aging. Photo-aging is premature aging of the skin from the sun.

Let’s talk about a few dangers to this alternative medicine!

Sure someone can have an allergic reaction, but the truth is you could have an allergic reaction with nearly anything. You might experience diarrhea, gas, stomach pains and nausea.

There is 1 danger with milk thistle that you should be aware of. In a study with the University of Pennsylvania milk thistle may slow or reduce the actions of enzymes that are used to break down foods and medicine.

Let’s say you start taking a prescription drug and this medicine. It influences how the body breaks down the drug therefore you can get too much of the drug or not enough of it.