A common question we get asked relates to orgasm hypnosis. People ask us whether or not it is possible to utilize hypnosis or self-hypnosis as a tool to make yourself or your partner reach orgasm. Due to this frequently asked question, we thought it would be only appropriate to create an article about it, to explain and dispel some myths once and for all.
There are lots of myths out there when it comes to orgasm hypnosis. It seems like all men would like to have the skill to use on women and women would like the skill for themselves. It is a known fact that the most common problem for men in the bedroom is reaching orgasm too early, whereas far too many women don’t reach an orgasm at all. If you do a quick search on Google, you will find lots of websites promising your success in the bedroom if you just hand over your credit card details. Well, I hate to be the one to tell you, it doesn’t work that way.
Let’s start with the men, because that would be the easiest. Can hypnosis help you (as a man) prolong intercourse and delay your orgasm? Short answer no, long answer, yes. Confusing? The short answer is based upon the fact that most men arrive at orgasm too early due to hyper-excitation. In other words, they got too excited too quickly and blow their whistle before the woman has even had time to warm up. Unfortunately, there is little hypnosis can do to avoid a man from being excited about being in bed with a woman, as the excitement is a good thing that you do not want to avoid. However, there is one thing that can be done. Through the use of self-hypnosis it is possible for the man to partially remove themselves from the situation they are in (in bed with a woman that is). By doing this they will decrease the excitation and thereby prolong the time before they reach orgasm. It requires practice and persistence, but can be done with the right help and instructions on how to self-hypnotize.
Now for the women. Can hypnosis or self-hypnosis help you (as a woman) reach orgasm with your partner? Both short and long answers here are a big, resounding yes! We have found that the most common reason why females fail to reach orgasm is an inability to relax and be comfortable. The more they focus on their inability to reach orgasm, the further away from it they will drift, until reaching a stage where they are waiting for their partner to finish. Self-hypnosis is very effective at helping you reach a state of total relaxation, reduce the anxiety and stress associated with the situation you are in and improve your focus on what is going on.
The first step to achieving this is first to find a peaceful place, make sure you are all alone and not going to be distracted. Even though it will eventually be with a partner, the initial practice has to happen in solitude, so make sure phones are switched off and the TV is on mute. It is always a good idea to create a place in your mind where you feel at ease. Some people choose an open meadow on a sunny day and other an empty beach with the noise of the waves in the background. It does not matter what you choose, as long as you feel relaxed.
Once you have found this place you will start repeating your hypnotic scripts. These scripts will be repeated many times over while you are focusing on getting closer and closer to orgasm. Eventually, you will reach a state of hypnosis where you will experience what is called hyper-awareness. Hyper-awareness means that all of your five senses will be heightened, and you will become much more aware of what is going on around you. Do you think having heightened senses might be a good start if you want to reach orgasm?
It is important to note that self-hypnosis is completely safe and that you can wake up at any time without any problems. Once you have practised finding this hyper-awareness, you can start focusing on sexual things which in turn will help you get closer to orgasm. When you have practised this for a while you should be able to reach this state without too much trouble, and when you do it is time to take it to the bedroom. It is this state of hyper-awareness you want to be in when in bed with your partner, and with its help you should be able to reach orgasm much easier. It should also be mentioned that some women that have practised orgasm hypnosis for a while can reach orgasm themselves, with no touching or caressing, but only through narrow focus and focused thoughts.