Male Chastity Lifestyle – Four Stages of Chastity


Male chastity typically progresses through four distinct stages, with each stage having its own upsides and downsides.

The ultimate goal for most couples – or at least, certainly for the man at the outset – is to get to Stage 4 as quickly as possible.

But I can’t caution you enough to take your time with this. If you try to rush, hurry or force things through, you’ll only end making it all go more slowly in the long run.

So here are the…

Four Stages of Male Chastity

Stage 1 – Fantasy

This stage is where one of you has the fantasy, but you haven’t yet communicated this to your partner. It’s usually, but not always the man who drives chastity, and men in this stage typically resort to dropping hints and leaving small clues in the hope your Beloved will get the message and respond appropriately.

I hate to be the one to tell you this but… that isn’t going to happen. Your Beloved has likely never even heard of male chastity let alone harboured it as a secret fantasy for several years as you probably has.

The only way to get what you want is to have an adult conversation about it and to ask for it. Easier said than done, I know, but life is like that, I’m afraid.

Stage 2 – Discovery

In this stage you’ve had The Conversation and your partner has agreed, at least in principle, to look deeper into male chastity and orgasm denial as something to include in your relationship. It’s typified by lots or research and reading around the subject – usually online.

Warning do NOT just dump your partner onto the stupid blogs and forums, because you’ll almost certainly send them into a panic.

It’s often at this point where men push far too hard, expect too much and end up pushing their wives away from the idea; either that or they get the wrong idea about what you want from reading those blogs and forums and they’re scared off.

Be patient, understanding and help him or her understand what it is you want.

Stage 3 – Exploration

At this point you’re lucky – your partner has agreed to play and see how it works out.

As before, please make sure you take your time. Don’t rush things and don’t be in a hurry to assume this means everything’s settled and you’re going to be locked 24/7 just as you’ve always wanted to be.

Agreeing to try something does not mean accepting it as a permanent part of your lifestyle.

Stage 4 – Lifestyle

This is the last stage and the one so many men fantasise about. You’re locked in male chastity, experiencing long-term and very strict orgasm denial… and your partner is loving it and showing absolutely no inclination towards mercy.

Many women in this stage even get to the point where they see cuckolding as a viable addition to the lifestyle, although this isn’t always the case, nor is it necessarily desirable. But it can happen… so be careful what you wish for.


Getting through these four stages of male chastity is easier than you think, provided you take your time, do your homework and stick to a few simple rules.