Impotence: The Taboo Subject

Impotence , or the inability to manifest or maintain an Erection, is a subject that nobody wants to discuss, especially those affected by Erectile Dysfunction. One's manhood is part of the Ego, and can suffer a dramatic blow when it is first understood that there are problems in the penile department.

I am writing this article with first hand experience with this condition. You need to know, above all, that you are not alone. There are scores of men working with this syndrome. Some from physical causes, some from mental causes. Recognize this, there is hope! There are things you can do to make it work. Natural cures are better than pharmaceutical cures. I have tried both, and both work. The problem with the pharmaceutical cures, is the feasibility of intestinal side effects, such as heart problems and loss of vision. Sometimes, we feel it worth the risk.

Let me tell you about my experiences. Firstly, you bought to be advised that I am 63 years old, but have experienced these problems for many years. The original signs of this problem, and I remember like it was yesterday, was that I would have an erection just precedent sex, but then either either lose it at the start of intercourse, or would lose it in the middle of intercourse. I would try to think of some excuse to explain it to my girlfriend, but it was so devastating to me, that it is hard to explain.

I am positive that you understand what I mean. In the beginning, I had little understanding of the causes, or the solutions. I would explain it away as: being tired, feeling ill, feeling bothered by business, or some such excuse. My girlfriend was unceasingly understanding, but I could see it in her eyes. How I would bring her to a point of being enthusistic about having interference, only to be let down, and sexually frustrated. How lame I felt. How could I do this to her? Why would she stay with me, if I can not even complete the sex act.

I had to discover what the heck was going on. Time to go to the doctor. I needed to know if it was a physical problem, or some cerebral cause. The Doctor asked me straight off if I loved my girlfriend, and I said I did. He asked me if I ever told her that I loved her, and I said I had not. He asked me why, I told him I was not sure of her backlash. He told me to say it in my mind, "I Love You", while I was fooling around with her, preceding actual insertion. I was amazed that this in reality worked! And I was able to maintain the section, and complete the sex act. Little did I know that this was only the start of my erectile problems. As I got older, the same thing would happen with other women, and the solution was not so easy.

This was also prior to when they came out with Viagra, and similar products. The next time it happened, it was with another women. She was beautiful, with a body to die for. I would look at her, and my mind would appreciate her incredible sex appeal, but my body seemed to be out of sync with my mind's desires. I would start out with a strong inspection, but then prior to inserting it, it would go soft. It was like I used up all my male hormones prior to when I could complete the act.

Believe me, I know exactly how you feel. If you have not experienced this problem, you have no perception what it feels like to let down your women. I was a workaholic, which was eternally a good excuse. I was going into my late forties, and into my fifties. It was time to see a Doctor again for some testing. My Testosterone was in the normal range, but low normal. There is quite a spread between low normal and high normal. I would rather be in the high normal range. This is where the action is.

Soon all doctors will not do anything for you if you are in the normal range, even if you have the disorder of low testosterone, such as: failure to maintain an erection, failure to ejaculate, weak ejaculation, getting fat around the mid-section , But not anywhere else, loss of energy and enthusiasm for life, loss of muscle tone, etc. Ever wonder how older men are more emotional, and can cry easily? This is a sign of low testosterone. You do not see this emotional turmoil in young, virile men. Remember, you are not alone. Do not give up hope!