How to Start a Conversation With a Woman – Get the Ball Rolling

Are you shy and having issues starting a conversation with a woman? Are you intimidated and don’t know how to start a conversation with a woman? What are the tricks to starting a conversation with a woman?

It can be intimidating and a little scary to walk up to a woman and begin a conversation. This can be especially true if you don’t know her, but have just seen her across a crowded room. To add even more pressure, you may have to keep the conversation going for a little bit until you hit on a topic that you can both discuss equally. If you are unsure where to start when having a conversation with a woman, keep reading for some pointers.

Opening Up

The first thing out of your mouth will be your opening statement. The purpose is to break the ice between the two of you and to get the ball rolling. One of the best ways to do this is to grab their attention and engage the other person in a compelling way. The opener should also want to make the girl find out more about you. The best thing to do is to prepare your opener in advance. That way you are more confident when you go up to her and you won’t stammer as you try to figure out what to say. In addition, you opener should last about ten seconds.

Keep it Going

In addition to having your opener prepared, you will also have to have a follow up prepared as well. You don’t want to say your opening line and then stand around hearing crickets as you try to come up with something else to say. Until a girl warms up, you will have to carry the majority of the conversation. Come up with a routine after your opener which can include questions or stories. You can also use what is going on around you such as a comment about the band or the venue where you are. These routines should be interesting and get a girl’s attention. In addition, they should be relevant to you and honest at the same time. Finally, never follow up with a negative statement. Keep the conversation light and stay away from controversial topics such as abortion, politics or religion.


You will also want to know more about the girl you are talking to. At some point, you will need to start asking her questions about what she likes to do and what she does for a living. Be sure that these are open ended questions that she can’t answer with a simple yes or no. Make her open up and describe her latest adventure or favorite movie. This way, you will not only get to know her better, but you will build some attraction as well.

If you use these tools and take a deep breath before going up to a girl, you will soon find that you can start all of the conversations you want.