Have you been dating a guy for quite a while now but it seems he will not commit to a relationship with you? Are you really in love with this guy and would like to do whatever it takes to have a serious relationship with him? Do you want to get him to commit without seeming like a psychopathic girlfriend? If you have known quite a few guys in your dating life, then you probably know that many of them balk at the thought of commitment. Simply put, a large portion of men is just not comfortable in monogamous relationships. If he will not commit and you feel like you are getting shortchanged, here are three things that you can do.
Find out why
The first thing that you should do is to find out why he does not want to make a commitment. This does not mean that you should interrogate him or or spy on him. Try to be more observant at first. For instance, maybe he's not making a commitment because he's already getting what he wants from you without the pressure of commitment. In this case, you are obviously the problem. Perhaps you are already giving him love, support, sex, care and commitment even though he's not giving back.
Another thing that you can do if he will not commit is to score points with the people he loves and values, like family and friends. However, this does not mean that you should go get chummy with his relatives and pals. This will only turn him off. Instead, try to show him that you're a girl who can get along with the most important people in his life. Offer to help his mom in the kitchen, help his little sister with her homework and play that drinking game with his buddies.
If you have done all you can do to show him you're the right one, and still he will not commit then do not feel sorry for yourself. You have done everything you could and he's the one who is too scared to give your relationship a try. Do not settle for second-best. Be assertive. Let him know that it's commitment you want and if he can not give it to you, then you're just going to have to find another guy who can.